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writes: Ok well im 16 and have been getting some really weird feelings recently. I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years and I have started getting real serious urges for a baby. Its not just a fad thing I have always wanted one to devote my life to. My boyfriends who has been the love of my life for 3 years now told me he isnt quite ready for one yet but he wants one eventualy when his job is better and he would stick by me. i know im too young right now for one but i just cant get the idea off my mind. how can i forget about it for a while? is it me or do many girls go through this kind of phase? xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2011): The most important thing for the poster and the other young ladies on here is to get married first. If your boyfriend truly loves you and wants a child also, have him prove it by making a lifetime commitment to you. If he or you are not ready for that kind of commitment then ask yourself are you ready for a lifetime commitment of raising a child?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2011): I will say that I was wondering these same things. Even know, I don't know for sure what I want to do. I am 18 and a full time student in college and I work a lot at my job. I have been with my boyfriend for close to 2 years and we now live together in our own apartment. We have stable jobs and are managing well.My boyfriend and I have recently been talking about what would happen if I did get pregnant, due to a recent scare. When we talk, he sounds incredibly sweet and it makes me dream of the wonderful dad and husband he is sure to be. For the past year and a half it seems, I have been thinking about babies and wanting one. I am on birth control, so it hasnt happened fortunantly. Still, as time goes on, I really really want a baby. My boyfriend told me that it wouldn't be such a bad thing to happen and that he would be happy and love our baby. He still doesn't want to purposely make one... but I still want one. I guess I'm just stuck in a rut. Now, on to your dilema...First off, wait till you finish high school at least. I had these feelings at that age, but I was always scared what others would see me as. Now that I have moved out and am not in the same place I was in high school, I don't worry or care what others would think.Secondly, make sure you are secure in finances and have a real home to live in. Make sure your boyfriend is ready for it too.Best of Luck
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reader, HanT  +, writes (16 May 2011):
 I love the fact that there are soooo many of us out there. It seems that we all have the feeling of longing to be mothers.
Some of you have said that the Fathers wouldn't be interested or would freak out. Its the opposite for me, my fiancé would love nothing more than to become a dad, but I'm only 18. I've just been accepted into university and I want to be able to provide a stable life for my child. I would love to have a child with him, we have already picked the names and imagine how our children would be, which just makes it harder.
The feeling of wanting a baby has been worse as now, the fiancé has decided that in three years would be the perfect time. Those three years can't pass fast enough, but I know that if I wait everything will work out.
I know that it's hard, and there is nothing you want more. But at least you're not alone in this :)
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reader, tailorniccole  +, writes (24 February 2011):
ok im sixteen and im going thru the same thing, im in love with my boyfriend and he says he feels the same way and i believe it... we have tlked about it before... i brought it up and he didnt sound to interested so i played it off like i didnt want one right now either, that i was just curious about his thoughts on the subject. i can understand why he doesnt bc i dont have a job(although im looking) and he works for just over minimum wage... so it wouldnt be easy or a good idea. BUT alot of the time it doesnt seem fair bc he is 24 and has a daughter already. he loves her but doesnt get to see her... but i figured that would make him want one he can really have and take care of. but i guess we just have to wait... but i will wait as long as it takes bc i know i want to have his baby...
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2011): im 17 and me and my bf have been in love for about 6 years. i have been wanting a baby for about a year now and i dont know why. im trying to grow up so fast but i want it bad. and we have unprotected sex all the time and i constantly think im prego. then i figured out that i just want to be and im always wondering why im not getting prego. but yes its a phase i think.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2011): Hi,
I'm 18 and I've had the desire for a child/children since I was 12. I always knew that I would someday be a mother, and as I got older, those urges only got stronger. Now that I'm engaged, they've multiplied tenfold. I see babies and children in malls and supermarkets, and my heart gets soft, and I always wrap my arms around my abdomen. (I didn't notice this until my sister asked me if I was pregnant)
For me, visualization only made me want a child more. I am very much into the new age divining thing, and about a year ago, I frequently got visions of me with children that I instinctively knew were mine. It made the ache so much worse. I talk to my fiancé about it frequently, and although he knows that I want a family faster than most people, he tells me we need to wait.
I agree with him. I'm in University, and on top of student loan fees and saving for the wedding, I wouldn't be able to afford a baby. When I talk to people, I say I am ready, in all ways, except financially. Because truly, that is it.
Soon, though, I'll be able to start my family. And soon those visions will be reality. I cling to that notion, and content myself with crooning over items in baby stores, and promising my sister that I'll coddle and spoil her baby. Until then...
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2010): I think this is some kind of internal thing. I started feeling the urge to have a baby last year when I was THIRTEEN. I didn't even have a boyfriend then. So I looked it up.
From what I've read (and know), women are naturally maternal beings. It also goes back a loooong time ago when we weren't as smart, women would breed (ugh, I hate that word) as much possible for survival. It's some kind of built-in thing, I guess.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2010): Heyy (: Well im 14 years old . I have a boyfriend that i feel very strongly about . anddd this is going to sound very crazy but he might be my first love . andd ever since i've been dating him . my feels grow stronger i feel comfortable , i feel amazing (: even throughh or bad times it makes me feel good to hold on to the good ones we have and just keep moving forward and work it out together . butt lately i've been feeling the urge to have a baby . but then i think about the consequences and the biggest one would mean i cant cheer anymore . andd it bothers me . and i think about the life change i would be making i would be givin up everything for my baby ; but im fine with that . and i know it wont be easy butt what in life is easy . nothing everything is worked for and then it pays off . i want to have a child and give him/ her the world . but im way to young , andd my boyfriend would agree with havin a child would be nice just not right now we both have bright futures ahead of us but im not sure how to get rid of these urges . can anyone give me advice ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2010): I know how all of you feel, however i held off my urges until I had finished highschool. I am 19 and have recently decided that I would love to have a baby. My boyfrind is 21 and we have been together for 4 years, lived together for 2. Both of us would like a child and I know my family would be disappointed but they would still love me and help me out. My sister is 29 and has 3 kids and my parents still help out every now and then. I know I want a child, Im just so worried that I will have a baby and know I made the wrong decision, no matter how much I love him/her. I would still continue my degree at university even with a child, however i was wondering if that is selfish - to have a child then have to put it in day care for at least a few hours 5 days a week. Knowing i'll be "handing off" my child like that...is it selfish? Would I be a bad mother? Id love some answers.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2010): I really want a baby and I was just searching to see if there are other epople out there that want one also and yeah i now see there are. I am 16 years old and I do want a baby really really bad I've wanted one for about a year or so now but I would't dare have one because I know I can't support it yet like I will be able to in a couple of years, so don't the best thig is to wait and give your baby the life it really deserves.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2010): hi im 18 and know exactly what you girls are talking about! A friend of mine got pregnant at 16 and although it seemed like such a disaster at the time, iv foung myself beginning to envy her now, her littl boy is so amazing and provides her with so much love and shes so great with him it must be so rewarding for her to see him grow so well. Iv been with my boyfriend 2 years and know he would make a great father, if i were to fet pregnant now hed be 20 and me 19 by the time our baby would be born, whisvh i think could work well! But girls iv been thinking really hard the last few weeks and know now that raising a child would not be that easy! that friend of mine with the little boy, yeah shes a great mam but unfortunitly shes had to leave college to try provide for her child and the babys father, who started off amazing, has now left her and hardly ever sees there child. Although she is constantly provided with a love from her boy, and enjoys taking care of him, she strugles and her child will never know his real dad, and i worry for her that she wont be able to find a man willing to take on her and her baby and provide them both with the love they deserve, because of this, i have decided to wait untill i know for a fact im ready, and my boyfriend is too to have a child, otherwise i think its selfish to deliberatly bring an inocent child into the world unsure of what the future might bring
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2010): Hey :)
I am 18 and have felt the same way as you since I was about 15/16.
My boyfriend of 2 years and I have talked about children and decided we both would like a child.
However, despite really wanting to be pregnant I know it is not the responsible thing to do. We both want to wait until we have stable jobs and can afford to move in together. I wouldn't want my baby to not live with both parents and I do not wish to put pressure on my mother to provide and care for me as well as having a new born + possibly my boyfriend under the same roof.
Also I would love to give my baby the best start in life, which is rarely possible when you cannot financially provide.
So YES other people do feel the same way!!! I want this so much but I aim to complete my education and create a settled home before bringing a new life into the world. I do love my boyfriend and would love to start a family with him, however I cannot predict what will happen in the next few years as relationships often change e.g I really "loved" another boyfriend at 15, but that clearly changed. I know we can do this but i think a couple should experience things together first i.e moving in etc (which do test the relationship) before having a child.
Sorry for my long winded answer :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2010): Seriously, girls. If you want to experience the "baby" thing, get a job working with infants at a daycare. You'll see first hand how hard it is and figure out that you aren't ready for that commitment et. If you aren't willing to work taking care of babies, then you
Definitely aren't ready to take care of your own.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2010): Hi, i am 15 years old. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years.I want to have a baby mor than anything in this world. I feel this way because i love him so much and i feel that this will bring us closer. I also want to do this because my parents hate him. I just wants to see what everyone has to say when it happens
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2010): It's definitely not just you. I'm 17 and lately I've really have been wanting to have a baby. And here I thought I was the only one who felt this way. I know it's not my time to have a child just yet but there's something deep down inside me that would love to have a child. The feeling was always there, but it has been building up a lot. It's not like I want one just so I can have something to love or because I'm missing something. It's just this genuine feeling that is hard to explain.
I truly understand how you feel. But as others have said, just wait for you time. Don't rush it. Maybe it's just natural for women to get this urge to reproduce. So don't stress it. Just live your life to its fullest potential until you're able to truly provide for a baby.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2010): OK I am 16 and my boyfriend is 17 and him and i have been together for over a year. Him and i both want a baby and its hard cause i had a miscarriage and we didnt know i was pregnet intell that happend. And him and i want one really bad. but i dont know what to do. wat do you think should i just go for it and not care what people think? and the main thing is that our parents would be so mad but i think its something i need cause i want something to love and care for and so does brandon. please help me i want to know if some one has the samething happening.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2010): ok, so i am 18 aas many above are and i have the same feeling. I just want someone in my life to love and to always care for. Me and my bf have always talked about it but we always come to the conclusion to wait. I am enrolled in college classes and trying to fend for myself... and i know that i would not be able to care after a baby of my own. But you know those feelings of angel on one sholder and the devil on the other... well latey that little devil had been telling me to stop taking the pill and get prego and tell him the pill must have failed. But i know that would be the wrong thing to do and you have to think about the child what are you going to be able to do for him/her. will you always be able to feed and cloth it... But in the end it is you decision and life... All i can do is tell you my opinion and that is all.. Good luck with your decision.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2010): I just recently turned 18 and my boyfriend is 17 we both want a baby but im on the birth control shot. Im thinking its time for me to get off
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2010): i know what you mean i am 16 and im going through the same thing my 18 yr old bf wants one two, but i know my parents would be devestated. i am ready i dont think the world is though. idk what to do
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2010): I know exactly what you're going through. I am twenty years old and I have finally found the one guy I plan to be with for the rest of my life. We plan to get married sometime in the next two years. He's recently moved in with me and things are going very well...It's just, I feel useless with nothing to take care of...No pet (due to our apartment regulations)...No child...(due to our age..we feel as though we're not completely ready :( )
And I probably feel this way because of the fact I basically raised my two younger brothers as we were all three growing up, and I got so used to someone needing me..I thought I would be happy to be free once I graduated high school and left home, but I'm not. I long for something to take care of and love with everything I am, but I know that deep down I'm just not ready...And that gives me a lot of mixed emotions.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2010): I'm 13 and even I know that when youre young and having a baby you don't get to live the way you want to.But when youre ready I know you will make the right dicision.Just don't have a baby too young you'll regret it..:)
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2010): hey i'm 17 and iv'e always wanted a baby. I've explained to my boyfriend how i've been feeling and he makes a good point that it will eventually happen, and that everyone knows thats a teenage girl an her partner can provide a stable environment for a child. So yeah the feeling is still there but the humane thing is to wait. The only thing you can really do is go to a therapist and see if they can help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2010): Your NOT alone! Im completly in love with my boyfriend and the feeling is mutual. Ive told him I want a baby But, I also know how hard it would be and stuff! He tells me all the time he cant wait to have one with me and that he wants one too! But he told me that it wouldnt be fair to the baby just because we want it. We cant support it 100% and its selfish to bring a baby in the world knowing its not the right time AND knowing we ant give it our best. I still want one yes! But when i start to really have those feelings about wanting one so badd i just think about how much better it would be if you wait and have the money and time to take are of it 100% of the time with no help from parents ect! You want the news that your pregnant to be exciting for everyone. You dont want to walk the halls of your high school with everyone staring at you. Bc even though your in love it will make people think less of you for all sorts of reasons you know how people are. Your time WILL come. I think of it as i will be pregnant... one day. So just wait it will be worth it and stress free. Try to think about stuff like that when your feeling depressed about it! It works for mee!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2010): You are still to young. Time will come when you and you boy friend will agree. A baby involves a lot of your time and responsibility. Try to concentrate on finishing high school and go to college. At age 16, more or less you will involve your parents or his parents on this and is not good for them or the baby.Try to concentrate on planing a wedding first. Do things step by step. Try to talk to an adult, your parents, your teacher or a friend. Good luck and wait a little longer.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2010): hey, im nearly 16, and iv always wanted a baby, my boyfriend says he wants to have one but he doesnt seems a 100% about it,but we are trying for one. so your not the only one to want a baby at a young age :) x
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2010): Hi, im sixteen too and for a while i have been having sychological feelings about having a baby too, but i also realise that i am too young just like yourself. I have always been told, if you have enough money to provide for a baby and if you also have a property to live in that there shouldnt been a problem with starting a family, and i belive that if you have those two things then there shouldnt be a problem with having that thing that you are hankering for. But im just focusing on getting my last year of school out the way and getting a job and a home of my own then i will probably start thinking about it again. I would probably advise you to find something else to occupy your mind. I also will advise you to think very carefully before doing something you may regret. You should understand that if you have a baby you have to be 100% committed to it 24/7.Good luck too you. yours sincerely anonymous adviser.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2010): hiya I am 19 and i have wanted a baby since i was about 10....people will say you are too young and maybe you are but alot of girls have babies at your age and younger and cope.....but you have to think about your relationship if your boyfriend says he isnt ready yet then having a baby could put strain on your relationship so all you have to think about which is the same as i had to think about is have fun enjoy yourself go on holiday go clubbin when you can and then when his job is better and your job is great then talk to him........hope this helps a little x
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2010): Many girls go through this phase when their in a long-term relationship, believe me i did. It something to make us feel complete. It is natural to feel "i want a baby" maybe it unconditional love is what we're actually looking for? Bringing a baby into the teen's life isn't the answer if im honest. im 21 and i have a 2 year old son. When i first found that i was pregnant i had no idea how to bring this life into the world. Me and my boyfriend have sat and cried and cried to firgure out how to raise this child up. Believe me it is soo hard, it so unreal. Before even thinking about wanting a child, you wanna do all the fun things in life that i haven't experienced. i.e, clubbing, parties, holidays with friends, etcc. Please don't waste your life now, go out and have fun, enjoy life while you can. Then you can settle down and start thinking about having a family. Remeber you got your life ahead of you, don't waste it. Babies take up all your time. i don't regret having my son, i adore him to bits, but if i wasnt pregnant in the first place then i would be able to do the things that all of my friends are doing. I seriously do hope that you re-conisder about my answer.
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reader, emma-louisa +, writes (20 July 2010):
Why is everyone wanting a baby so young. im not jugding anyone, but ladies, you got you lives ahead of you. you got prom, college, uni, your career to think about, holidays etcc. A baby takes up soo much of your time it so unreal. i have a son called Riley, he is now a year old. i find it extremely hard to cope looking after a baby. Believe me it not easy. There are times where me and my boyfriend sit and cry to firgure out how we are gonna finance support the baby. life is tough when you have a baby. Honestly, for you ladies out there who are 14,15, whatever the young age is, please don't throw your life away. i however do not regret having my beautiful son but, seriously is soo hard. i would re-think before you act. mine wasn't planned, but for me i don't believe in termination.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2010): I am definatly NOT judging anyone..but it is crazy to have a child so young! you have your whole lives ahead of you! people say that your teens are the best years of your life..the so arent im 22 and the best years of my life are still to come!...and when i was 17 i also wanted a baby..until i actually did get pregnant. I had an abortion, at first it was hard to deal with but, then i experienced so many wonderful things that i couldnt have done with a child! i have been to africa, egypt,thailand..
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2010): Reality is , your never going to be financally ready for a child. There are things that yu don't know qhat to expect. Like what if the baby has complications? or what if this and what if that? Yu can't be too sure, ya know. I'm 18. And I want a child. I had a miscarriage when I turned 15, and till this day, hurts me to whits end. They were twins, and now I wish I could be. My boyfriend & I have been dating for a while & he was the father of my baby when I was first prego, but the thing is , he is 23 and im 18. The feeling of emptiness hurts fat and night. And now that its constantly on my mind , its stressing me out .
My friend just found out she was pregnant. Oh let me tell you, I was andd still is jealous. Ugh! But I'm so confused too. Trust me , you will know when the time is right.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2010): Nah I'm 16 and I feel the same way. But I'm just wondering if its more of an urge because he's older. I've always wanted a child to devote my life to also. But you're definitely not alone. I love my man I just don't want to complicate things just yet
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2010): Thank God for this site, i thought i was going absolutely crazy!
I'm 18 and have been wanting a baby for about a year. My and my now fiance (we got engaged this week) have been dating for almost 2 years and we're obviously ready to make a big commitment to each other but as we're young we can't afford a baby, he definately knows this and so do i, but it doesn't seem to give me the reality slap that i need!
My fiance's sister has just had a baby today and the last 9 months have been torture, everyone talking about the baby non stop (first grandchild for my fiance's parents) and it's been getting harder and harder. As it turns out, she's had a baby girl, my dream...i would love a houseful of beautiful baby girls lol. I'm going to see mum and baby on Saturday and don't know how i'll handle it, will the proud auntie in me just shine through? or will the uncontrollable urge just upset me even more?
I thought i was strange for feeling the physical emptiness in my stomach but obviously not, i'm so grateful i found this site! x
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2010): I am so happy to have found this site. It's so relieving to hear other girls share about similar experiences without some finger wagger saying we're being too rash. I know that 20 is too young, that my fiance' and I aren't financialy prepared even though we are emotionaly. I understand all that and don't plan on having a baby anytime soon. I just want to vent about how frustrating it is when your head tells you one thing and your hormones tell you another. My coworkers laugh when I talk about my baby fever. My fiance' didn't understand how bad it was until I explained that the urge is physical, that I can feel the empty space where a baby should be inside of me, and that I literally ache with the need to be a mother. It's immeasurably comforting knowing I'm not the only one who wishes their logic could rule instead of hormones.
The worst part is when I have dreams about my future children. I know I shouldn't have picked out names because it makes it worse and now I obssess over these hypothetical sons and daughters but some days saying the names to myself help, too. I feel like I already know them and I'm missing them, I'm just waiting for their time to come home.
And now I sound crazy, haha. But I guess of all the people in the world, this group of women is the least likely to think I am. I don't have kids yet, but I already love them. They're going to be imperfect and drive me crazy but if I already love them so much now, I can't imagine what I'm going to feel the first time I hold him or her in my arms. I think my love will swallow me up. A lot of women say that you have to remember to stay an individual and not let motherhood overshadow who you are but the thought of losing myself to that kind of love doesn't scare me in the slightest. I think all of my experiences thus far that have shaped me into who I am now are only leading up to this greater purpose: to be a mother. I want to be a better person for them.
I am so lucky to have a man that is so supporting and shares my desire to have children down the line (just not as insanely as I do). But soemtimes it isn't enough that he's there for me, I need someone to relate this crazyness to. So thank you, ladies, for being as miserable as me. Haha, I joke. Just remember that the greatest thing you can do for your little ones is give them the best life you can provide and that's all about timing. Also remember there are others like you out there and that a few years may seem like eternity to wait but when the time is right, you'll have the rest or your life to devote to your children. 3
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2010): Well I am turning 16 and I want a baby really abd so does my fiance. bUT ARE FAMILY IS GOING TO KILLUS BOTH IF i DO GET pregnant. But I don't hang out with friends never so that would be easy. But it depends on if you want to give up friends,school and other things e like to do. And if i do get pregnant i will be really happy because it is something that is a merical of god and i ould never regrate having a baby and i would give up everything to my baby. So If you feel really good about having a baby then do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2010): its not just you..ive been thinking about it for a long time also..ive been with my boyfriend for 4 years now im 18 and hes 20 we been talking about it he says he wants one but not right now because we're not financially ready right now...i think the longer you've been with your bf/gf u think about starting a family together and being with that person for the rest of your life..but about the forgetting part idk what to tell u...i cant get having a baby off my mind bcuz im surrounded by babies all day
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2010): I'm 16, and I'm in love with the thought of a newborn in the house. My boyfriends 18 and says he's not ready to be a dad, but got another girl pregnant 2 years before I met him. He says he refuses to say that's his child. So it makes me wonder if he'd run out on me. He says I'm his world but I'm just scared. We were stupid one day and didn't use protection. If I waited I wouldn't be so stressed out and concerned for the babies sake. You should wait so you don't have to be so horrified by the idea of being a single mom at a young age.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2010): Hi There,
I know exactly how most people feel on this forum. I'm 18 myself and have known my fiance (yes fiance lol) since we were 14 years old, but we only got together a year and a half ago.
Although both my partner and I want the same things and he fully supports how I feel, and although we both knew straight away that each other was "the one", we won't be having a baby for a little while.
The day after we got engaged I fell pregnant but unfortunately didn't find out until he was away and consiquently we didn't see each other for a month. 6 weeks into the pregnancy, by my calculation, I miscarried on a flight home due to stresses. It was the worse feeling in the world and every day I mourn for our lost baby. I know the hole in us both will never heal but we both know that had the pregnancy gone ahead, we'd have been struggling. I'm one of those lucky people to have a man there to support me regardless and he has put up with a lot of rubbish from my body since. My system has been so riled by the loss that most months we are left worried that I could be pregnant again.
I know, as much as anyone, how hard it is to have to wait, but I know when the day finally does come, I want to have the financial and emotional security in place to be able to provide my baby with a good home.
I've wanted a baby for as long as I can remember also, you'll get there. If you wait at least you'll have more to offer a baby, a baby is for life and needs all sorts of security. Your child will more likely thank you one day down the line if it knows you have given them everything in your power. Plus you will have less of saying no to things that child wants because you can't provide it that. I'm sure there are plenty of people on here that will go on to have happy and wonderful families.
Best of luck in the future and all the best for when you do eventually get what you want.
Good luck
Best wishes, Ro-ro
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2010): i had a baby at 17,
i am my late twenties now and although i love my daughter,i wish i had of waited until i am the age i am now....i couldn't provide for her properly and she suffered compared to other girls her age,i missed out on college life and having a carefree life like all my friends my age(who dumped me when i wasn't "fun" anymore). i suffered from post partum depression from the strain of losing my childhood....The father who proclaimed to be ready decided he wasn't and fell off the radar....my advice,wait until you have lived your life and are really ready for the responsibility,you'll enjoy the experience a lot more
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2010): I've wanted a baby since I was 12, Im now 19... I don't really mind the thought of being a single mom even though i know it would be hard. my Bf and i have been dating for a year now and i would Love to have his baby, but I'm not sure on marrying him as he has some issues.. but the baby urge is there, and the older i get the stronger it gets. I'm at the point where i can't not stop and stare at a baby or smile while watching little ones play. I feel so empty and often get emotional about not being able to be a mother right now. My family are super strict christians and I'd break my grandpa's heart to have a baby out of wed. I'm so grateful for finding this website today and knowing i'm not alone. We should have a group on Face book so we can support each other more!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2010): I have a baby and I'm 16.The smart thing for all the girls that want babies and are too young is just to wait i mean if i didn't have my boyfriend their to help me it would be to hard to make it on my own.I sure wished i waited cuz now i don't get to hang out with friends cuz i have to put my baby first and my boyfriend is always working so i never get to see him and when we do get time together we fight about money. but i don't regret having my baby she is my world.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2010): im 13 and i realy want a baby to but im way to young :( everyone tells me to wait 'til im aleast 20 but i dont want to wait but i have to. just wait you'll be happier :)
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reader, Doodle4 +, writes (6 June 2010):
I am quite certain that many, if not all young women with newly arriving hormones experience the urge for motherhood, as they experience the urge to have sex. But, as with any other feeling, it is always best to test the waters, wait, and gauge how you feel before you decide to dedicate yourself one hundred percent. I, being a 19-year-old female, have entertained the fantasy of becoming a wife and mother ever since I was a small girl. I know that attaining these titles is my ultimate goal, but I have also come to realize the importance of fulfillment elsewhere, as in school and in my career. Hopefully, other girls my age and younger realize their full potential as well, and allow themselves to experience all life has to offer before entertaining the idea of a commitment as permanent as the conception of a child. At our age, our emotions are never on an even keel, and our psyches have not fully developed. So hold off on using your baby-makers 'til you have a commitment from your heart, your head, and your man...Having familial support is never a bad thing, either! And if you question this advice...just watch the Maury show...you DO NOT wanna end up on there because your "partner" got cold feet and decides to deny your child.
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reader, Doodle4 +, writes (5 June 2010):
I am quite certain that many, if not all young women with newly arriving hormones experience the urge for motherhood, as they experience the urge to have sex. But, as with any other feeling, it is always best to test the waters, wait, and gauge how you feel before you decide to dedicate yourself one hundred percent. I, being a 19-year-old female, have entertained the fantasy of becoming a wife and mother ever since I was a small girl. I know that attaining these titles is my ultimate goal, but I have also come to realize the importance of fulfillment elsewhere, as in school and in my career. Hopefully, other girls my age and younger realize their full potential as well, and allow themselves to experience all life has to offer before entertaining the idea of a commitment as permanent as the conception of a child. At our age, our emotions are never on an even keel, and our psyches have not fully developed. So hold off on using your baby-makers 'til you have a commitment from your heart, your head, and your man...Having familial support is never a bad thing, either! And if you question this advice...just watch the Maury show...you DO NOT wanna end up on there because your "partner" got cold feet and decides to deny your child.
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reader, livelifeto the full +, writes (2 June 2010):
im 16 and ive been wanting a baby for about 3 years now. The urge has never seem to of been able to go. My auntie has recently had a baby boy, and as i get to take him out, it makes me want a baby so much more. I know that my family would go crazy if i got pregnant now. Me and my boyfriend - whos 18. Have been together quite a while. We've talked about what we would do if i did get pregnant by accident, and he says he would support me, and he would actually like a baby, as we are both in a good finical situation. I know i really should wait, but all i want in life is too have a big family + husband. Im so glad im not alone on this!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2010): Oh my goodness! I've wanted a baby for the longest time. I'm 17 now, my boyfriend is 19 now, we've known each other for awhile now. We've been dating just over a year. We've had a few scares, and everytime he seems to start liking the thought of being a father. But then we find out it was JUST a scare and hes back to not being ready. It just makes me want one more every scare. I love him so much and I know I'm ready. Just waiting for him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2010): I know how you feel! I'm 16 about to be 17, and my boyfriend is 19, and I want a baby so badly it hurts! I know so many people who are my age who are pregnant or have had a baby already, and I get so jealous every time I see them and it makes my stomach just drop. In fact, I was reading through the comments on this page and someone said they are 16 and when they saw their first ultrasound of their baby they cried, I actually got tears in my eyes -- that's how badly I want that to happen to me! I'm so glad I'm not the only one who feels this way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2010): i am 22 years old and my boyfriend of 2 yeras is 21 we r almost graduated and i can help mydelf from the thought that i want a baby from him and am soo ready to be a mum he wants too but definetly not now is it normal or becuase i love him a lot
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2010): I've been feeling the same way for a long time now. I'm 20 this year, have a part time job, no steady partner, I'm moving house soon and I'm constantly overdrawn in my bank account. And yet, I desperately want a baby. So much so that I've considered on more than one occasion to have my Implanon implant removed, and not telling a sexual partner. This is just me being selfish, I suppose. If I got pregnant now, I would be completely reliant on my family & Parents, as I have no money of my own and wouldn't be able to save enough for a lifetime of looking after another person in 9 months - it's just hormones taking over, and if I were to indulge them I know that my child would not be brought up the way that I would want them to - happy, carefree, and looked after.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2010): I am having the same problem. I had a not so good childhood, nothing horrible, but I lacked something from my mother and ever since I have wanted to be a better mother to my children than she was to me. I want it all too. Not just the pregnacy or the baby, but the smart-mouth teen and the goofy 5 year old and the (hopefully) responsible young adult. It comes in flashes and for days having a child is all I think about. The best thing I can say that sometimes works for me. Is to look up every scrap of information until your bored of the subject, and remind yourself that you have to finish school and get a great job so you can care for your child and provide for him or her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2010): Your very normal. Ever since i can remember iv wanted children. Iv been in a realtionship for 3 years and im 18years old. My boyfriend thinks im crazy for wanting kids right now and it has caused many an arguement but its really reassuing to find out that im not alone in feeling that way.
And its good to see that so many of us also have the brains to know that our ages and life styles mean thats not possible, it would be very difficult. I know that like lillaum i want a husband and a house and finacial security before i can have that. Not only to make my life more enjoyable but also so i can provide my kids with the very best in life.
but im afraid it doesn't get any easier; in the last 6 months iv been finding it harder and harder and often find myself crying at the propect of having to wait another 6-8 years when iv already waited 18.
But what im trying to say is its natural and that in my mind, the idea that women like us want children so much means to me that when we get them we will be great mothers. Now is the time to learn and practice. Enjoy being young because when you have them they will be your world.There will be no time to go on a night out or go shopping, not with a hungry baby or a temper tantrum throwing toddler by your side.
Enjoy life now and just remember you will get it.
Mary
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2010): i know exactly what you are going through, I am 18 and have been going out with my boyfriend for nearly 2 years and I just can't help but want a baby. I have spoken to him before about having children and the future and he does want kids but not right now. The thing is every week I seem to find out that somebody else that I know has had a baby or is pregnant and I can't help but feel jealous and I actually am feeling depressed about it. I don't know what to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2010): There's nothing wrong with wanting to have a baby,the question is r u financially prepared as well for that Baby, I'm an expecting mother and there's a whole lot of stuff needed for the baby even though I'm working its just too much coz we all want the best for our little ones'.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2010): I'm 16 years old, and I can't stop shaking the feeling of wanting a baby, sooo much. I had a dream last night where I actually met my baby boy, and he was so tiny, and I was putting him in his cradle.. and I've woken up with this crazy love for a baby that don't exist. I don't really know what's gonna happen for me, because I'm a lesbian...so it's going to be sooo difficult. I found out recently that one of my friends is pregnant, and even though she's young and this could cause a lot of problems, I think she's so lucky. I'm looking forward to going to uni and studying Criminology with Psychology next Sept. so I hope someday I'll get a good enough career to support my baby if ever have it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2010): I completely understand what your going through. i've been wanting a baby since i was 16, i am now 18 and the urge is there, just niggling. I have a boyfriend, but i'm not sure if he will support me, tbh i'm too much of a chicken to ask him what he thinks.
But yeah, the urge to just "take" what i want from him is so high, and even just thinking about it seems. . . undeniably wrong. But i can't deny it's not there.
Thing is, i know EXACTLY what it's like to bring up a baby, from newborn to 14, i've pretty much been a parent in my family.
And even though i know exactly how hard it is. I still want a child of my own. And yes, i do know that babies do grow into children, and teenagers, and cause you trouble.
But i mean, i get what your saying.
So unless we're all crazy, then your not alone
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2010): I totally thought I was the only one. I'm 15 and I found my soulmate and we've been going out for 9 months but he lives in Texas and I live in Toronto, Canada. I knew ever since I was little that I was an old soul and that I wanted to get married young and have a baby young. My boyfriend (S.M) wants to be with me forever but I've always been the good girl and just yesterday when he told me that his 15 year old cousin was pregnant the feeling for wanting a child skyrocketed and now it's overwhelming me more then ever. We've already decided roughly when we'll get married and that we can have a baby when we're 18 or so but I still have to cope through 3 years and it's already hurtting a hell of a lot. I want one so badly but I've always been the good girl and the good example and I don't want my whole family to be disapointed in me and I know they will be. I've had talks with alot of my family members to hear when their reaction would be and it wasn't good -_- I'll just have to fingure out away to get my novel published so I can get the money to have one at 18 like we've planned. ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2010): Yeah, I get it nearly every moment of the day... I want a baby so so badly. I sometimes dreams I'm pregnant and in hospital about to have the baby and I always awake with a sense of longing. I'm 14, and I'm single so its not even possible. I get that a baby grows up and it's really hard work but thats not important to me. What is important is not being able to focus- thinking of names and cots and dinky little clothes, fist words and steps and how to calm tantrums. It's somewhat a relief that I'm not the only girl who want to be a mum, and wants to be a mum RIGHT now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2010): No, you are not alone.
I am 20 and a very empowered ivy league college student who has always been told to wait to have kids, my mom had me when she was 37 my older brother when she was 35.
I have soooooooooo much to do before I would feel ready to have a kid, finish college, finish grad school, get a job, make a career, have good health care, have a savings, a house, a husband (though I have been living with my grad-school boyfriend for years).
Hormones tell us what to feel, and trust me I WANT A BABY SO BADLY because of it, BUT the truth is I want to have the whole experience and I want it to be relaxed and enjoyable. I want to make a life for my child in a way that could only be achieved if I had done everything on my list first.
So my point is, you are normal in feeling that way, the reason why romantic love dominates most of our life is because to survive the idea of procreation had to be hard wired into our horrible little bodies. But don't let it rule your life, trust me have a baby before your ready and you will regret it for the rest of our very short lives.
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reader, lauren_jayne  +, writes (22 April 2010):
Hey! No you are totally not alone. I'm 18 and so badly want a a baby. I think its just natural for girls. I'm at college and my bf and I broke up like a month ago because of it. He's 25 and finished college and wanted me to drop out because we wanted to start a family. I know in my head that I shouldn't want a baby right because I want to finish school and start a career so we broke up but all my heart is telling me is to do is quit school marry the guy I love and just be happy being a wife and mother because I know that would make me happy. Anyway, point is no you're not alone :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2010): ok,think about this,can you get a job that pays well enough to pay for all the babies things???do you want to gget up possibly every 3 hours in a night to feed it???can you cope with the pain of it????are you ready to do IT??you will probebly have to drop out of school for a while.over all it is your choice but id SERIOUSLY think about this properly.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2010): I would love to have a baby of my own--and its an aching need that won't go away. I'm fortunate now that I can say that I can have a baby, unlike some others. I have a steady and wonderful job that will allow me the opportunity. I need to find someone who wants the same as me now. lol.
I know that young women have been doing it for millennia--my mum was married at 17 and had my older brother at 18. That was in the 1980's.
But times are different now girls--please try and at least have a job to go to if you want a baby. Let your child be led by example and see how hard you would work for them.
As much as we are led by these maternal feelings--think with your heads and not your hearts.
I know I sound harsh, I'll probably even have some people come back to me saying I'm wrong. (And that's fine)
And please don't think about trapping your boyfriends as some people have said they might try--that's not a very good grounds for a healthy relationship. Be honest with your partners girls and he will be honest with you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2010): hey, i know im just going to repeat what everyone else is saying but i have felt the urges to start a family all of my teenage years, im now 18 with my boyfriend whose 22.
we talk about the future all the time our family and things like that but i cant get the image of me being pregnant with his child and us bringing up children together out of my head.
i know if i pushed for it he would fold and we would give up our plans of travel to start a family now but my mind says thats not smart. but my heart wants a family now!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2010): i feel the exact same way. i only just turned 19 and im dying for a baby. i actually had a pregnancy scare. but it turned into a good thing. to me at least. it turned out that i just randomly missed my period for a week. now, my boyfriend thinks im 4 weeks pregnant. he's scared to death. but little does he know, im not. but im trying my hardest to get it that way. i know this is terrible but i love him so much and i know he loves me. i can't take my mind off it. im so anxious to have a family of my own!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2010): Oh my god this is such a relief to me that everybody else has this feeling. ive wanted a baby for years now, and im only 16. when i was 12 i always wanted to have my baby at 16, i dont know why. i have this strong urge, i know i could be a good mom, and with how my family is i know id have alot of support. Im single but having a boy friend kinda scares me. I feel like i want to get pregnant, so maybe id like tell him im on birth control even if i wasnt to try to get pregnant. BUt that would be so wrong. I dont know how to explain it but i just know i want a baby more than anything. thanks for letting me know that everybody else is going thru this to (:
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2010): hey guys, i am so glad i am not alone in this. i'm 17 and have told myself i never wanted a child, but now it seems like the urge is getting stronger and stronger to have one. my best friend currently just had her baby, and it made me realize how bad i've been longing for one myself.
i've never had sex, nor had a boyfriend. i just want to know what love is, i guess.
i know having a baby right now sounds stupid because i'm so young and don't have a job, but i feel like it would add a little excitement and happiness to my life.
i obviously won't have a child now, but i just feel like i need one. i now know i want to be a mother later on in life and i cannot wait!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2010): you are not the only one, i have been having the same urge. My boyfriend isn't ready either, and my financial situation isn't stable either. I have no clue how to get it off my mind. i am sorry that you feel the same way, and that i can't help you..
-Stephanie
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2010): wellll you no i want one to and yet i am only 13 but i think a will t till i am 17 and how old r u i just want you to no that ur not the only one x
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2010): I rally want a baby because i love my boyfriend a lot and want to share something special with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2010): hey everybody, i feel the same thing. I'm 19 years old and i'm having this incredible urge to become a mother. I've wanted a baby for about a year now. My BF doesn't know of my urges because the idea of having kids right now freaks him out. He's old fashion in that way of thinking. But it is such a relief to know i'm not the only one feeling this way. I'm even having dreams of pregnancy and giving birth (without the pain) and i have dreamed of what our child would be like. I seriously thought that i was going crazy, hehe glad to see i'm not ;)
though i did have a thought. I've been with my BF for about a year now (anniversary's march 22nd) and i was thinking, maybe it's because i love him sooo much that i want to bring parts of us together in a child born out of love. (it's awkward i know, but it's the only way i can think of saying it.)
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2010): i can't believe so many people feel the same i've been with my boyfriend for 3 years and im 18 my family tells me we might not be together after graduation but what i want more than anything is a little child to call our own i love him so much i've been feeling this way for about a year and im going to try working at a daycare to cure my baby need
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2010): Hey there, so I am 20 years old, and it is good to know that there are so many out there that feel the same mothering pull as I do. I don't know why...but I just want my own family. My mother told me when I was younger that having children was her greatest accomplishment. I have been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years, and we live together. He has a really good solid job and I am going into my last year of university. I know I should wait, and enjoy being young, going out and being spontaneous. What I really want to do is have a baby. I know my boyfriend doesn't want one now though...he would rather wait a few years or so. So I guess I have to grin and bare it. But if an "accident" happens...we will keep it. Wouldn't that be amazing...I'll leave it to fate...and I think you other women should to. Let life run its course.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2010): Ow, I'm not alone.. I am 21 and I've been with my boyfriend for 4 months now. I know thats way to short to be thinking about a baby.. We started living together immediately because I was an au pair and got fired by the mean family. We're perfect together.. I love him so much and we have been talking about future things.. And since we've done that I've been looking up stuff about pregnancy, birth and more. I want it all. But I know it's way too early. We still want to travel and all those kind of things.. But this craving is getting unbearable. He works a lot and the appartement is his. But he told me this is not a good place to raise children and it will be the right time in a couple of years when we can move to a bigger house in 'the country', still close to london.. I have had a tough couple of years with death in my family and a sleezy boyfriend who decided to cheat on me after 3,5 yrs of deep relationship. So i think i'm so scared of losing him and this life i need something to confirm it? I've always known i want children and i love my mom and that she got me at a young age (23).. I think i just need a job cause i am unemployed and feel like i don't have a purpose. Hopefully that will get my mind of things and it will come back when the time is right.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2010): I am 20 years old and I'm almost through my second year of college. I have been in a relationship for 3 years with a man my age (older by 6 months) and I am prematurely feeling the urge to move on from my life as I know it now, to the next step. The problem is, my steps are a little out of order. I KNOW that I SHOULD finish college first, move in with my partner, then get engaged (whenever he decides to surprise me), then get married, then have children. But I want to go straight to having children at this moment. I wish I could hurry and get engaged/married (we've spoken about our life together many times), so I can hurry up and have child with him. However, I have an added difficulty to get through. My older sister was recently engaged and is having relationship difficulties with her "fiance". I feel that I would hurt her if my plans worked out and hers did not. I feel guilty that I want to get married so badly, because she's having trouble with her dream. It's becoming harder and harder for me to be patient, to wait until I finish high school, build funds, etc... I know no one will have an answer for me, but I'm glad I found somewhere to share my most personal feelings. My friends have drifted and I feel I have no one left to confide in but my partner. All I can do is take things one day at a time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2010): Oh god I am so relieved to see this. Since about 2 months ago I have been aching for a baby. My boyfriend of about two years doesn't get it, it seems like no one does. I know I can't do it. I know I'm not ready. But all I want is that baby :(
So yeah, none of you are alone. Gosh this is a relief.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2010): Im 16 and i also feel that i want a baby. I feel that if i have a baby thats one person who would love me and look up to me. since i was 11 i took car of my little sister who is 4 years old now. so i no how to take care of a baby. my little sister is well taking care of.I just want a child of my own.I was always told im going to be a house wife and i think i like the sound of that.. but i dont know what to do ...
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2010): Trust me you are not the only one. I have been wanting a child since I was 15, i am now 18 and i still have baby fever. i want a chhild but is it right at our ages to have them. a hundred years ago it would be common but now a days it would turn are lives upside down. As much as i want a child, i have no way to support the baby. If you are in love and have been in love for more then two years and you know that you are going to be together forever, married, then go for. Have a baby, but wait until you get the ring first then have fun, get lucky with your love nd have a baby.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2010): You are def. not alone. I am 16 and have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half. For some reason, I cannot stop thinking about how much I want a baby! Idk why.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2010): to the person below...
you have an excellent point. half the people around the world aren't financially stable and they still have kids. a lot of the world is in debt and they're still doing it. this kind of gave me more to think about. you're pretty much never going to be completely stable money-wise so might as well just go for it! although i do feel that girls under the age of at least 18 shouldn't be having kids.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2010): im also 16 and feel like i cant live wit out one but i know now is not the time i need a stable home and money so just think about it
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2010): Heyy I jus turned 18 a couple of months ago and I have a fiancé who is 22 and were getting married next July. And here resently I realized that I really want to have a baby and surprisingly when I told him he confessed that he also wanted to have a baby...I kno were ready we maybe young but honestly if we wait til were financially ready then we will be waiting for a lifetime and I know we have the support to make it. I'm glad that I'm not the only one out there that feels the same way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2010): Heyy
Im 16 too and i feel exactly the same.
Ive been with my boyfriend for 4 months and i have talked to him about how much i want one. All he says is that he wants one one day as well, when we have more money. Thats fair enough isn't it but he doesn't understand that the feelings that im having won't go away.
And like you, it hasn't been a fad for me either, i felt like this a year ago with my last boyfriend.
The one step i have taken with my boyfriend is that we aren't going to have sex for a while because personally after i have sex with him, i think to myself that i could have conceived a child then, and it gets me upset.
All i can say to you is be strong, talk to your friends about how your feeling, or your mum. And i know its hard to put your feelings aside, just try to for a little longer because you never know it might not be long until your wish comes true :)
nat xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2010): I'm also 16 years old and I'm currently single
but whenever I'm around others with babies, I
have the same feeling. I want a baby. I have
this strange urge to become a mother. I think
it's pretty normal for some teens to want to become
a teen parent. You develope mature emotions around
some people and the feelings (to me) come natural. :)
Hope this helps.
-Tiff
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2010): im 19 and i so desperately want a baby.. iv wanted to be a mum for 2 years now and its just getting worse everyday.. even work doesn't keep my mind of the aching need to have a baby.
I don't know what to do as my parents would be very upset, should i just deal with the ache or go ahead and have my baby.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2010): Hey ladies,
I feel the same way as most of ya'll. I am 22 years old, 23 in this August. My boyfriend will be 23 in March. We have our own apartment, I am finishing up my 4th year of college, and he has a small job. And... I want a baby. I have names picked out, and we have some security, but it's not much. Neither one of us has our own health care, I'm still on my parents, and he doesn't make enough to even try to get it. His job has health care, but a lot would be taken out, so we haven't tried. We haven't been in our apartment for a year now, but it has been a hard year.
My parents at first would be upset because we don't have a whole lot, but I have already decided that I would stay in school. I don't have too much longer to go, and I could go up until labor, take a week or two off to recooperate but do my work at home, and then finish up my semester. My boyfriend works a job that would allow him to move his hours around to be with the baby when I'm at school, and we will be getting married next October.
We have talked about it A LOT and the only real things that are stopping us are my school, and the fact that we don't have a lot of financial stability. I don't want to go off of the state, I want to be provide on my own. So, I'm just kind of hoping it will happen without me trying, if that makes sense. What do ya'll think? Do ya'll think we could it, or that we should just wait? There are so many women and couples that have a baby and get married with lower stability then my boyfriend and I, and if they can do it, so can I. But... I'm still really scared. I want one, but I don't want to live harder than I have. I want to save money, have my career, have health care, and have my baby born in a family that has no question whether or not they will make it the next day. So, this is my story. The last person said that women have these needs when they have a man that will make a good dad, and I believe this whole heartedly. I have always wanted to have kids, but until my boyfriend and I were really doing okay, I never had these urges. We have been dating for 5 and a half years.
Do whats in your hearts. In the end, this is your and the dads decision, no one elses. Not even your parents. If your scared, and having second thoughts, its probably because deep down, you know you should wait. But again, this is your life, not your moms or your dads, or you siblings'.
Have a good one, take care, and God Bless!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2010): Hi. I just recently turned 18 and i know what everyone means. I have always desperately wanted a child. I find myself watching a lot of television shows about this subject. I never realized that so many people also wanted to bring a child to this world at a young age. It recently has gotten worse and my boyfriend of 15 months understands completely and supported my decision. I bought a life-like reborn doll from www.babiesinthewoods.com and it kind of helps to ease the want. My "baby" weighs an actual 7 pounds 8 ounces. Her name is Gracie Elizabeth. Everyone should look at this site and look at the available babies and adopted babies. They might be a bit pricey but it has helped me a lot. She looks so real, and even has hair!!! Go look at her dolls, it may also help you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2010): I'm 18 and I've been with my boyfriend for a year and a half. He started having dreams about a baby boy that was his, and I started dreaming about becoming pregnant. Since then I've wanted to have a baby since. I'm waiting until I'm 23 or so though, unfortunately. I know I wouldn't be able to support a child financially right now, but I want one so bad! If it's a boy we have a name picked out, we also have a girls name :). In fact, I started looking up information on google about being 18 and wanting a child, because I just had a dream last night I was pregnant.... :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2010): ive just turned 16 like on the 26th of this month and ive wanted a baby so badly ever since i was nine :| i dont know why but im so desprate to have one :| but i dont want to upset my mum and dad so im not having one aswell as i cant afford to look after a child as my family is quite big and the job i want to do when im older causes alot of traveling when you first start and you just get called out when needed so id have to wait but i dont want to be an old mum either, i wanted one when i was 20 but i promised myself that i would never have a child if i couldnt provide for it because i want a child that can have near enough everything it wants but i want a child when im 20 - 22 :| im just so scared incase i dont get my shape back :| so i was thinking about adopting :) ive even got all the baby names i like and what things i want it to have when i have one :| btw if anyone else experiances that add me ; [email address blocked] thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2010): Ok, I'm 19 my bf is a little younger. He wants children I almost thought more than i did. Then we started making baby names for the "future", and all of a sudden i just really felt like i want a baby. You know, his baby. I want a little boy that looks like him. He wants a 2 gurls. So we thought about 2 girls two boys if we had a choice. But we'll be happy with what ever gender we get. But see, its been weird for me. Maybe its just that i'm growing up. But, i don't want to have children to old. My dad is 57 and my bro is 16. My dad's health has been on a steady decline when it comes to being about to do stuff like sports. my brother use to say he wishes dad could do this or that...I want to be able to do activities and stuff with my kids and soon to be husband. Sometimes i'll rub my stomach and think of what it's gonna be like, or when we're playing around i'll make the comment be careful, the baby...then, just kidding, im weird i guess. but, You know, i thought i was not normal for wanting a baby young. Everyone says 19 is young.And i have cried too. Like, i didn't really know why, i just knew that i felt like i wanted a baby and i can't right now. Rachel
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2010): To the girl that posted on november 11th and is 17 almost 18 and has a friend with a kid, i wish we knew each other! i've never felt the need to go out and party. i'm 19 and i've never partied or anything. i've wanted a baby since i was a kid and it's killing me that i don't have one yet. i really want to start trying soon because i've finally moved in with my boyfriend and we've been together for two years. We are also soon getting engaged. Soo why the hell not?! You just need to make sure you're financially stable and have access to good insurance because hospital bills are going to be outrageous. If it wasn't for my parents, I'd probably already be pregnant or have a kid. Sadly, my parents would probably kill me if I did get pregnant soon.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2010): Wow, so many people like us.
I'm 16 and my bf and I have only been together for a year. About 6months into our relationship we both realised we wanted a baby. We spent hours and hours discussing at and how our lives would change, how we would provide for it and if I could continue school.
I looked on the internet and found a school close in my region that has a centre specially set up for pregnant teens and teen mothers. I felt so excited knowing there was a way I could have my beautiful baby I'd always wanted and still continue school. My bf had decided to leave school and do an apprenticeship in engineering - something he's always wanted to do.
So we decided to start trying. I fell pregnant 4 months ago and cannot wait to have my baby. I cried the first time a had a scan and saw the shape of my tiny baby.
Telling my parents was the hardest. They are very supportive but my doesn't think I will be able to raise a child. She has tried to persuade me to let her raise it as my sister or brother but I could never do that, so she has let me and my bf keep it as our own. My bf has moved in with me and has started his apprenticeship and is also getting a student loan. I am at my new school and have made many new friends that are soon to be or teen parents already.
I know that I could have waited but I have always wanted to be a teen mum. I was just lucky enough to find the right guy who wanted the same as me.
My advice to you would be, talk to your partner about it. Its not easy to have someone tell you you're too young but if you really want one, show your partner. Tell him how you feel. And if he still isn't keen, use the time he wants to wait to sort out how your life is going to be when you have your little baby and what you want to do in life, how you are going to support him or her etc.
Remember this is life changing and try to remember the things you are going to miss out on. If you still want one after that, go for it.
Good luck (: x.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2010): Im also 19 years old and my boyfriend is much much older than me. I feel as though I am very mature for my age, therefor the age difference never really bothers me nor does it bother him. I realize that because he is so much older than me that he will probably want to settle down sooner and want to start a family. Im completely okay with this. I have always felt as though I was born to be a mother. Its a very important thing to me to have children. I am only 19 and I realize that maybe I dont have the money nor the time for a child right now. But deep down inside I still would love to have one soon. Especially with him. I have this feeling with him as though hes the one. Hes my other half. Were like yin and yang. With out the other one will not excist. I see a definite future with him. I would love to have his children. He would be an amazing father. I think about it all the time. And if it happened by mistake than i would be okay with that. But i dont want to go out of my way to have one right now. I want to graduate from college and be able to raise the child the right way. With a steady job and a house of our own. The thought does cross my mind however. And if it happened...it happened.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2010): I have been with my boyfriend for two and a half years, we love eachother incredibly and can't wait to get married and have children. I'm 18, he's nearly 18 and we both have 4 years of college ahead of us. I'm unsure that I will be able to wait that long to have a child, but in the meantime i'll keep thinking about other important things that are to come in my life; moving in with my boyfriend, getting married, college fun, my family, friends, having a laugh at the weekends and stuff! My boyfriend really would like one too, not yet though, I don't think he's as broody as me, however he wants to get married in the next few years or so. I hope I helped, you are definately not alone. X
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reader, Jooobeeeee +, writes (24 January 2010):
I'm sixteen also, and have been so obsessed with having a baby. I've only been dating my boyfriend for seven months, and I guess you can say we're semi serious. He's already discussed that it would completely ruin our lifes, etc. It amazes me that at sixteen I'd even be thinking about having a baby. Sometimes I can forget about it, but it's always in the back of my mind. I'm still trying a way to not think about it anymore. I know I'm not mature enough, never be able to provide for a child, and not even ready for one. I don't even know why I'm thinking about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2009): I know exactly how you are feeling, I'm 18, and have been dating my boyfriend for over 3 years. We both really want to have a baby but we just don't have the funds and know our families won't approve. It's really hard to get past the feeling, I can't seem to find anything to take my mind off of it. I hope everything works out for you. :)
-Laura
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2009): I have been with my bf for a while and i do want a baby. but he doesnt have a job right now. i know i am young and so is he but it feels so right. I still have two years left in school and then college and that is what is holding me back. If i have a kid now i cant suport it and i care for it as much as i want because i have school and work.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2009): I am experiencing pregnancy symptons, I have had 2 pregnancy scares before this year!! and quiet basically at first I think it happened because I was scared, now I think it's happening because I want one so much.
Me and my boyfriend are both 18 and we've been together almost four years. He says we must wait - which is fine by me, in my head that is what I want to do, I want to go uni and have a career established before a baby but recently all that logic is gone.
I believe I can have a baby and go Uni and also get a job, I really want a baby and in some ways I wish I was pregnant, I hope these symptons are the real thing is time...then again that thought scares me!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2009): Hi guys. I;m in the same boat. I'm 19 and my fiance is 22. For the past couple of months i've been feeling the urge to have a baby. When I see women with children or a pregnant lady I just want to cry because I want one so bad. We are getting married next september but my fiance said we should wait AT LEAST 3 years. That just broke my heart. We live in an apartment together but are currently looking for a house and we own our own business and I have a second job. So financially we are stable. The only thing we have a problem with would be the reaction of MY parents. His dad is excited for us to give him some grand-children. After our pregnancy scare 4 months ago my fiance said that if we were to accidentally get pregnant that he was actually excited and nervous. When we found out we weren't he was disappointed but knew that we should wait. It hurts to know that I'm going to have to wait 3 years after we get married to have a baby.
*me*
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2009): Omg im soo glad there is others like me!! i thought that i was being really stupid and just letting emotions run my head!! im 16 been with my bf over a year now n i love him sooo much his my world.. we are so close and never fall out his family can tell how loved up we are and keep asking when the big day is or when the first kids coming along! i joke about with them but inside im like i really want this to happen soon im crazy for a baby n to get married!!! i see a baby in the street and i get butterflies and i just want it im soo jealous of everyone whos got a kid! And it seems that since ive started wanting a baby everyone else is having them my brothers gf is pregnant and my mum is supporting them soo much n i just keep thinking do you think she would be like that if i was to have one !!! im crazzzy about babies and just want one of my own to care for and love!! my boyfriend has told me he wants kids n that he loves me but then i hit reality and think well actually money doesnt grow on trees my boyfriend has a place to live but being realistic about it, it would be reaaaallly hard!! x
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2009): I didn't read all of the posts here, but from what I read it seems I'm one of the only girls here who wants a baby and doesn't even have a boyfriend. It's probably better that way, actually, because I'm only sixteen. I know it's not right for me to have a baby right now, but lately I've just wanted one so much. I've been babysitting my fourteen month old cousin and it makes me want to cry because he's so amazing and I want a baby so much.One of my friends was recently pregnant, and she wanted the baby but she knew she wouldn't be able to give it all of the care it deserves, so she gave it up. She is so strong, it's unbelievable. I don't think I would be able to do something like that, which is probably really selfish of me.I'm just having trouble with these feelings. I don't know what to do with myself. It just feels so stupid!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2009): I am 19 and in uni. My boyfrirnd and i live together and i am 13 weeks pregnant. My parents went absolutely crazy when they found out that i was going to have a baby but i am so glad that i decided to keep it. I do think that being 14, 15, 16 and even 17 is too young...because there is no way that you can support a child even though im sure you will love it for ever and back. I have wanted a child just like lots of you since i was about 12 or 13 but that was just impracticle and unrealistic. Now that i am going to have a baby i will stay in uni and make sure that i dont become the typical teenage mother. I want a career and i will get one and live my life to the fullest with my baby and my boyfriend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2009): I am also 16 and been with my boyfriend 2 years. I have the same feelings as you and really want a baby, i think if it feels right for you both then you should do it, me and my boyfriend both want one and are trying. Talk to your boyfriend about it but you cant force him,if you do get pregnant he will love the baby so much no matter what but i think you should wait for him to be ready seen as he will be the babies daddy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2009): Hey ladies,
I stumbled upon this message board because I'm in the same boat as you all, and have been for a couple years now. I'm 22 now, finishing up with school, and am getting married next October. Its certainly been no easy task getting to this point without "accidentally/on purpose" getting pregnant. I started dating my fiance when I was 17, and knew from early on that I wanted to marry him and start a family. After a pregnancy scare when I was 19, I realized that I was comfortable with the idea and my instinctual drive to reproduce starting ringing loud and clear. It's literally been a month by month struggle to stay on birth control, waiting for the right time to get engaged, to set a wedding date, to agree on the right time to start trying... As badly as I've wanted to start a family over the past few years, I've been trying to wait it out to avoid disappointing my family, financial struggle, and jeopardizing my childrens' upbringing. If all goes according to plan I'll be 23 by the time I have a baby-still young according to many, but for me I don't think I could wait any longer.
Anyway, moral of the story, once that drive to have a baby hits you-its not going to go away. It sucks that the only way to avoid it is to distract yourself, but for me at least, I just try to stick to a timeline and remember that if I wait just a little longer, my child's standard of living could be so much better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2009): I am nearly 20(this week) and also would love a baby but I know the time is not right. I work at a daycare full time and I am in the baby room. its alot of fun maybe you you girls should think about working at a daycare its alot of hard work nothing like babysitting a child or two... your allow to be by yourself with 4 children if you have a child under the age of one year and then 5 if they are all over a year. Its very good experience. its like you gain that motherly instinct even when they are not your children and i know for a fact I could never work there all day and come home to another baby (Im in college online classes) but its nice working there and being around them and taking care of them.I have been with my bf for 2 years and we have an apt together. In my classroom I have a 3 month old, ten month old, and 2 girls that are 18 months and a girl that is getting ready to move up to the 2 year old room. But I love working there and I feel like the experience is priceless because I know that if I had twins or triplets I could handle it. My job gets crazy sometimes sometimes the baby needs a bottle when the other kids are suppose to be eating also and you just figure it out. working at a daycare is not for everyone but you should give it a shot and also if you still want a baby think of the baby know that its better to wait so you can give him/her everything she needs. :o)
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2009): Oh my gosh I am SOOO happy I found this! I'm not a freak after all! I'm 18 and I've been with my 17 year old boyfriend for 2 and a half years and we know we want to get married and everything and we both want kids badly, but we know we are too young and our parents would not be happy with us at all, but the urge doesn't leave. As everyone else says, seeing a pregnant lady or a baby hurts and you feel extremely jealous! I want to talk to my mom about it (I still live at home) but it would be such a weird topic to talk about. My boyfriend said I should talk to her, and I think I should, but yeah. I have to convince myself that I am too young and I am not financially ready at all, and its hard, but I have to do it. That's what I do to cope with the urges to have a baby. I hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2009): Wow. First, I thought I was alone when I said I wanted a baby while being so young. I'm 17, about to be 18, and I've wanted a baby since I met up with good friend of mine who had one. She's a first time mom and besides the buying diapers and stuff, she makes being a teen mother look easier than it really is. She lives with my sister and I now, with her 10 month old daughter, and besides the whole staying up 'til 2am trying to coax the baby to sleep thing, she has soo much fun with her.
I personalily am a very rare breed of girl. I've never went out partying and most likely never will. I'd prefer staying at home with something to occupy my time any day of the week. It's not that I'm missing out on all that being young has to offer, it's just that with my being an old soul and all, I don't find any enjoyment out of the stuff usual teens do. But my friend on the other hand is almost always out, in fact her daughter is the result of a one night fling she had with some random guy. (Yeah, I know.) So I volunteer to babysit her very, very often. And find nothing hard about it. But I did notice the only thing I won't be able to do is afford all the stuff that goes with having a baby. If I were to go up to my mother now and tell her I was pregnant, the first thing out of her mouth would be " How do you plan to afford this? We can't help you take care of this baby, not with 2 other kids in the house under 13." It seems the only thing really keeping me from successfully having a baby is the money. Always the money. Because if I was from a rich family, I'd have little to no complaints from the people around me as I stay home 99.9% of the time anyways.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2009): ok. i need to be honest, im sorry to everyone on here who is telling us that we can't feel urges to want a baby cause we can. so why don't you just keep your thoughts and opinions to yourself. the question was if anyone felt the same so we are letting her know she aint alone!
I am 15 and a half, i would say i had to grow up qucikly for a majority of reasons which i will not go into. But the fact is i lost my virginity when i was 14, im not with that person anymore but i dont regret it. I had three pregnancy scares during that relationship as we didnt use protection, it was more of a spur of the moment thing. I find that if you have a pregnancy scare your heard just makes you think that you are and you make plans on how you would tell people, what you would do etc. well thats what i did. that relationship lasted 6 months. I am now with my current boyfriend who is 17, i had a pregnancy scare with him and i hated it when i took the pregnancy test and it read 'NOT PREGNANT' i pretty much burst into tears, we had talked about it so much that i was almost 100% sure that i had to be. When i first started going out with him he would say that he wanted kids when he was 25, i couldnt imagine tht so i let it go. i didnt want to argue or let him know what i was like. but during the pregnancy scare he was 50 50 to the idea of having a baby, he knew his mother wud throw him out. we now have arguements because the topic comes up a lot. he says he will have them when he is 21 but he may aswell stab me in the stomach cause sure i wud have one now but i need 2 focus on my GCSE's but i think after that its the time that im meant to have one. Only people who feel the same could understand and im tired of feeling alienated. I was reading other comments and i agree with one that says its cause we need to fill a gap. cause i thinks thats what over fills how i feel. i just dont know what to do. but i wont be with him if he waits till he is 23 to be honest no matter how much i care about him or how special he is to me.
Thanks. for those like me, keep your chin up it will happen when it happens and that will be the right time (:
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2009): I am so glad i found this page because I was starting to feel like a weirdo !! I want a baby so bad it hurts but I know that I can't because I'm too young (19), still need to complete my course.. which is in midwifery funnily enough and still need to have more life experiences so I don't feel like i've missed out on being young. I understand that it is silly to be thinking about having a baby at this age but it just doesn't seem to go away even though I know myself that the rosy image of being a mum I have in my head wouldn't be the reality of it. When I see my friends etc who have babies I feel so envious of their lives and from your comments I agree that it probably is just primal instincts kicking in but I wish they wouldn't. It would be so much easier if I didn't actually want a baby until I was ready like everyone else my age seems to be like. I wish I didn't feel like this because I know it's silly and if I told anyone how I was feeling they would just think I'm being a silly little girl who doesn't realise how big a deal having a baby is! But I'm not saying I'm going to run off and have a baby because I know that wouldn't be right for me or a baby but I can't help secretly wanting to have one.. its so strange !! I'm going on and on but I'm just glad other girls my age feel this way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2009): hunny, im 16. and have a 4 and a half month old boy, named Kenzi-James. Im still with the father. I had been with him for 2 years before me getting pregnant and had been trying for a baby for a year. We stopped trying for about 2 months and then i fell pregnant. Was a shock as i spent a whole year planning for a child and nothing. Kenzie-James is the most wonderfull thing in he world to me. Im not going to say he wasn't planned and wanted- because he was and he is. My mum went BISURK at me when she found out i was pregnant. she threatened to kick me out and said i wasn't alowwed to see my boyfriend ever again. So i moved out for about 5 months into my friends house. My mum wanted me in her conditions not anyone elses and wanted to be apart of his life, so i moved back in. Goodluckk chick. xx
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reader, hailz  +, writes (28 October 2009):
i feel the same....
Hi I'm 18 and my boyfriend is nearly 20. We've been together for 2 and a half years.im desperate to get married and start having kids we r engaged but he wont even talk to me bout having children all he says is ....''im not ready''
It's sooo not fair..everyone I know is having babies. I'm completely ready for one. All i have to do is come of the pill and start trying.
I'm ready to leave him if this continues because it's killing me...I cry ever day and night.
Has anyone got any advice..I could really do with some (don't tell me I'm too young coz that's bullshit!!!)im ready im doing a childcare course and have over 8 years experience..
can some one help me get him to talk about it .
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we will b together coz weve gone trough everything together.
just coz im 18 dont mean i have to go clubbin n all....i dont like that.never did.
im in collage doin childcare so i no im ready....
were concidering moving to scotland so he can join the raf with minimal travel.
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for ur information everyone i cant spell coz im dislexic!!!!so that aint my fault.and i told u all im in collage
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2009): I'm 19, I've been with my boyfriend for just over a year and I want a baby. I've just started university and he's been made redundant so it wouldn't be very practical. Think about things that are going to affect you, if you're still in education, would you be able to stay in school? If you're working, is your job secure enough to keep after you've had the child? Will your family support you? I know my mum would love her first grandchild but she is constantly urging me to marry before I have kids and to finish uni and get some security. It's hard to know what might happen in a month let alone a year. What if the baby is born with difficulties and is alot more challenging than you thought? I know it's a possibility for me to have a child with aspergers syndrome as my brother has it. If you're under 18/21 you haven't had the chance to go party yet! I love my boyfriend with everything I have, but before I met him I wasn't even thinking about a relationship let alone kids. I don't want to be one of these people who have a baby for the state benefits, I want a secure job, a home, a nice car and a wedding ring on my finger. So maybe we should all look at the baby thing as a goal and everything we think it's important to do before then as the steps towards it. When I finish my education I'll be one step closer! There are so many things you need to think about before bringing a child into the world and I know we're all very jealous of people with kids, but think of their struggles, this is a tiny person you're creating- they're formed by their upbringing so please only do it when you can do it amazingly well. :) xx
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reader, heartbreaksilence +, writes (16 October 2009):
I completely understand what you are talking about. I am 16 and have just started college, i dont have a job or a stable life to bring a baby into but I have felt the same way since I was 12 and started to understand that I was growing up. everytime i look at a pregnant woman, a baby or a child i feel as if something inside me is pulling apart and my stomach drops, its a horrible feeling. i babysit 2 little cousins and hav practically helped raise the youngest who is 5 and that is a reason why i know mentally i can be a mother and raise a baby. i think its wrong how older women patronise teen girls because of how they feel, its as natural as breathing for any girl, no matter what age, to want to be a mother because its what we are here for. im to afraid to talk about this with anyone and ive only been with my boyfriend for a month but i know he want kids eventually, altho i know that it would be very irrisponcible to bring a child into the world right now, sometimes we just cant help how we feel and it hurts
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reader, katiebabe1234 +, writes (28 August 2009):
i wont a baby and i am 13 ! so i know how u feel but i dont think if i went out and had a baby i think my mum would kick me out and make me give it up ! :( x
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2009): hey everyone!
i feel the same way also. i am 18 & in college.
& the truth is i don't have the money to take care of a baby....but i want one ever so much. i talked to my bf about us having one. he is super realistic! pointing out the fact that we don't have a job or a career or a place to stay. that we don't have money or anything. just a while ago i told him i didn't want a baby & that i didn't know what i was thinking. BUT THAT WAS A COMPLETE LIE!!! i want a baby so damn much......it's crazy, i have had this craving since i was 16. i think i blame my parents relationship with me. in my heart i wish we were closer & things were different. im missing a part in my heart. i want love & i have so much to give. & i guess that a hidden reason why i want a child so, so, so much. *tear* i wish it wasn't there. cuz i have like 6 or 8 years of schooling left. but im missing something & i need a baby to feel that gap!!! SO MAYBE THAT IS THE HIDDEN REASON OR ANSWER TO WHY EVERYONE WANTS A BABY SO YOUNG! WE NEED THAT BABY TO FEEL A GAP OR SOMETHING THAT IS MISSING! WE NEED A BABY & WE DON'T CARE WHAT OTHERS THINK OR WHAT WE SHOULD THINK ABOUT BEFORE HAVING A CHILD. OR THE FINANCIAL PROBLEMS............I HOPE WE FEEL THAT GAP BEFORE BRINGING A CHILD INTO THIS WORLD! BUT IF NOT, THEN WE WILL BE DAMN GOOD MOTHERS! WE HAVE SO, SO, SO, SO, SO MUCH LOVE TO GIVE!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2009): i have wanted a baby ever since i wasnt one myself...iam now 18 and a half and i hate the way im literally desperate for a baby :-( i feel better now than i did wen i was lyk 13 and desperate for a kid seeing as 18 is closer to motherhood although i know iam too young and iam just about to start uni and do not want to live off benefits however wen i see a baby or pregnant women i feel green with jealousy..these feelings are normal to feel for us young girls its just frustrating as many of you have said you know your too young but just cannot help these irrational feelings of motherhood..also i hateee seeing teengae mums i get sooo jealous even though i know i should wait..its just soooo unfair, i want to be at least 25 so that i would have finished uni, hopefully still be with my long term bf who would be ready by then and can finally start wat us women have been put on this planet to do!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2009): im 13 but i have been wanting a baby just a few weeks before i turned 13 i know it sounds crazy but i cant talk to anyone about it. i know a person with a baby and ask to look after it on a regular basis including the nappy changing why dont you do the same or if you cant just baby sit for a few hours. my friend zge 14 has had a baby and trust me she says it is hard work and well worth it. but tells me to think about it alot.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2009): Hi, I think mentally 16 is a little young to have a child, you need to live a bit, build a good foundation by getting a good education and job to bring a child up in and hopefully learn more about who you are as a person. A child is a huge commitment and although you seem mature for your age what's the harm in waiting a while, maybe 20 years old when you are still young but more emotionally secure.
I'm 26 and just started trying with my hubby,
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reader, poopsie  +, writes (12 August 2009):
yes a lot of girls do.i am also 16 and had these urges to be pregnant and have a baby about 3 months into my relationship of 9 months, for the first time. its not that i want one, but its the idea of having one,a baby human you can hold in your arms and look into their eyes and know that you and your partner have created this, this is the outcome of your love. Dont get me wrong i get shit scared if im a week late for my period hoping im not pregnant, but deep down i feel like my bodies craving it. a couple of my mates feel the same way as i do. i think if i was pregnant i would feel like more of a woman, and perhaps thats what it is, a natural desire to fulfil what we where put on this earth to do.. reproduce
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2009): yea im the same.. im 16 and i really want a baby.. i talked to my boyfriend about all this and he wants kids but not yet.. he says were to young..and hes probably right to.. its in a girls nature to want a baby so you and me are not the only ones who feel this need.. when the time is right for us god will give us the precious gift of a child.. for now while your young be safe.. alot of my friend are teenage mams and its not an easy thing to do..
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2009): my my my....what are you girls thinking? having a baby isnt a case of i want one, i have an urge, its like you are talking about a candy bar, do i want one do i not? its rediculous.
live your life while you can, grow up, get an education, go on holiday, find a partner and settle down and get married 1st, you need to experience life before you can create one. by experiencing life to the full yourself that is when you will know you are ready to have a child.
and if this advice has not helped you then i suggest you buy one of them dolls programmed to wake up every few hours etc i think then you will see that you need to live your life 1st.
sorry to seem blunt with my andwer but i feel in order to create a life you really do need to experience it 1st. oh and so you know i am aged 20
jackie xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2009): im 16 and im 16weeks pregnant i found out when i was 15 i was pregnant told my mum when i was 15 and she was ok with it and on the 29th june i turned 16 and now it the best tihng ever im starting to feel movements of the baby and it amazing best thing me and boyfriend ever did we are still together but pregnancy brings yhu further apart you will argue and stuff but you will either get further away or closers like we have x
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2009): u know how much babies cost, how much they take and dooo not give back. when u wanna go out on the weekends u have to find a baby sitter n if u cant guess what u dont go. babies cost a lot of money. go look up how much diapers cost. and food not to mention baby sitting/day care if u plan on not living off welfare. go to school. get a 4 year degree, matter of fact an 8 year degree. buy a big house. and a nice car. get 200,000 in the bank n thennn have a baby. your uterus isent going anywhere youre 16?!?! u cant even buy cigarettes or porn. u cant go tot he bar and have a drink. get real. life is hard.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2009): I have been wanting a baby for a while too. Me and my boyfriend have been together for a year and ahalf and i feel like i trust him enough to have a baby with him. I told him that i wanted a baby badly and he said not yet but if i do get pregnant he will always be there for me and stay with me whatever happens, but i really don't want to wait. But i'm only 16 so i guess i'll hav to wait. And if you love that person enough yu can wait, which is what i have to do.
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reader, Maddie16LovesJarrod19 +, writes (3 July 2009):
okay i'm 16 and i too use to want to have babies. but as time went by i realized not one,not two, but several things that would be all out of whack! one you need a steady job, your boyfriend has to have a steady job, your family has to like him and his family has to like you. other wise having a baby will be out of the question. but yes A LOT of teens go through this too. but most realize that they are still too young, just like you. i use to watch my nephew and that was no picnic in the park, so you really need to babysit for someone. then you will know if you want one or not.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2009): I'm going through the same thing. To tell you the truth, I never wanted a baby until I hit, oh, age 13, and suddenly, I wanted a child of my own. Not necessarily be pregnant with a baby, but I wanted a child. I don't know if its the norm for girls to suddenly do this, but I know that I'm dealing with it too. You're not alone!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2009): Seriously, you don't want a baby yet! Don't you want to do things in you lives first .. a baby is the very last thing on my list. I have got too say though I have gone through these phases also . Babies may look cute and cuddly but when they wake you up half 3 in the moring its a different story..Its your choice though. Please consider my answer.
Katie.
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reader, pinkbubble4 +, writes (17 April 2009):
well iam 13 and i really want a baby because a want a baby to love . some really nice boy asked me to have sex with him but i said no because if my parents find out i was pregant they will kill me so i still want to have sex with himk but on the other hand i have been thinking about him whatshould i do plz help
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reader, GoodAdevice +, writes (18 January 2009):
Hey,
I know exactly what you are feeling. My cousins friend has got a 6month old baby boy. I was at my cousins 18th the other day, and i was looking after her baby so that she and the father could "let their hair down" so to speak.
As i held him and watched him sleep, i got soooo broody and my parents and auntie etc were like LEave it a good 10 years yeahh... we dnt want you dropping school etc.
I am 16 years of age and am doing my A-Levels. I am very switched on in the common sense department. I know that Financially and even quite possibly i am not emotionally stable enough. This is probably down to the fact that i have been ill treated in past relationships; taken advantage of but i said no and dealt with it. I just want something of my own that i can care for and Love and show all the great things in this world.
I am VERY sentimental and i know that I want a child. But i am neither in a long term relationship or even ready for one. My mother i know would kill me if i did get pregnant, but she said to me she wouldn't kick me out and would help me through it.
I just don't know what to do ... I so want one! They are adorable! So, in answer to the question... Other girls do experience this urge for a baby. But i know your situation is different, everyone's is... so it's if you're ready =]
Hope you make the right decision. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2008): Hello girls!
I am 20 years old and i too had these feelings when i was about 16. But obviously 16 is way too young. you most of you don't have jobs and if you do it's defintaly not enough to support a baby. don't you want to have a career and a steady income? A really good thing to do is get a nanny job before you have kids. I am 20 years old and i nanny for a 6 month old, 2 yr old, and a 4 year old. they are adorable but so much work. But from watching them i have learned soooooo much about babis and kids that when it comes time for me to have one, i will know almost everything there is to know. I too really wanted a baby but being my young age i'm waiting. you 12-18 year olds need to live life for a little while. and who knows, you may end up breaking up with your boyfriends as you grow older and wiser.... i had a boyfriend in 8th grade that i swore up and down i was going to marry, but we grew apart. and ended up breakin up. so you never know you all still have alot of growing and maturing to do. and fun to have!
it's totally normal to want a baby at an early age, but live your life first, you'll have plenty of time for kids later :]
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2008): I feel the same way. I am 18. I am still too young as well. But my body craves to have a child. I swear it thinks its about to hit menopause and its running out of time. But seriously, i get this feeling in my stomach that i am missing something every time i see a baby or see my friends with their children. To me it doesnt seem fair that i can't have one now. To know the joy and compassion a mother feels for nothing but her child. To have a child made from the love of 2 people. My fiance says that he wants one too, but not now. He knows we cant until we are financially sound. But I have experienced that since I was a young girl, I always felt like a mother figure, I could calm babies, get toddlers to stop throwing fits and entertain young children. My very good friend just got married a few onths ago,and she is due in february,and i cant help but to feel this same urge to have a baby. It is so bad that i get very sad thinking about it. So you arent alone. I just think you are maturing much faster than other girls,and your body (though never agreeing with your mind) wants a child. Just like mine. I guess we just have to suffer through it until we can eventually share in the joy of motherhood.
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reader, young_love_s_r +, writes (17 November 2008):
I'm 16, my boyfriends 18, and we both get the urges of having a baby, my cousin has got a little boy, and recently had a baby girl, we often babysit, and i get really broody, i look at her and think, awww i want one.there is a couple of times i have thought i was prgnant, and even tho its scary and you shit yourself, i wanted it to be true. i see prams and babyclothes that i like and always think oh wish i could be buying them. my boyfriends mum had him at my age, and she coped.. its not impossible.. the only thing that is stopping me is my family.i know they would want me to get rid of it and i know they would dissaprove. ESPECIALLY my mum. she would kill me. although if i went ahead with it, she would love it when he or she is here. my boyfriend has a good job, and i work aswel as college. but its only my mum who is making me change my mind. help
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reader, samsmommy +, writes (13 October 2008):
 I had a baby when i was not quite 18 and i was still living w/ my parents (boyfriend is out of the picture) and it was very stressful. I share a room with my son, and although it's a big room, it's still very cramped. I lost my job in July and am on unemployment, which helps, but it feels like an allowance. My car that I worked hard for and bought on my own recently broke down. I found out it will cost around $1,650.00 to fix. On top of that I found out within the last month that my parents want me to move out and I have to find my own place within a year (but they would prefer it to be sooner). I'm suddenly scrambling to find government assistance and looking even harder for a job but haven't found anything.So all you teens that want a baby please please please reconsider. No one should have to be in the position that I'm in right now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2008): hey
im 12 nearly 13 and i also really want a baby.
oviously the law is that u and your boyfriend have to be 16 or over (in britain anyway) and after that its about personal choice.
so i suggest you and your boyfriend talk it through properly, thinking about your money,job,education and if you are wiling to go to parenting groups.its good that you have waited.just make sure when you get pregnant it wasent and acident because other wise it might not be the right time for you to have a baby and you might want an abrtion which isent fair on the child.
I hope this helped, feel free to talk to me again.
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reader, north +, writes (12 September 2008):
heyy
im 16 and for about 1 year i've had really strong feelings in the sence i want a child, mailnly because i had a lonely childhood and felt i was missed of love, within this i feel i want something to love that i know will love me back , i've had times with my partner where i thought i was pregenant and i've wanted to be so much but then came on my period.
but sometimes its for the best to wait
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2008): hey yeah i feel that all the time umm idk what to do about it but your not the only one trust me ive been pregnant its not fun stuff i lost twins and it was really hard im 16 too trust me wait till your older that is what we have to do think of the baby okay :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2008): I know exactly what you feel like i have been with my partner for around a year and a half now i'm very mature for my age and i'm always yearning gfor a baby, however whenever me and my boyfriend talk about it we always come to the same solution wait get college out of the way....and its true every girl/woman has an instinct to want a child its natural but i have thought about it loads and even though i go through stages where its the only thing i can think about i always end up thinking its right to wait ! Live your life get your education then you will apprechiate a family even more when your older not thinking you have missed out on something that others have done.. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2008): well thats true because im 16 and have a baby boy but i was with my partner for 2 years. But before i had my baby we would go out to the cinema and do things like that butnow baby leo is here we cant do this because we have no money left and have to look oafter our baby. The baby wasnt planned and i dont regret having him but i wish i'd waited a while because having a baby is makin us get more far apart we cant go out with our mates because of leo and we argue bout money all the time. Live your life first go out enjoy bein a kid dont do what iv done and had a baby younge it puts a stop to ya life think about it
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2008): I'm nineteen and Married and I have been wanting a baby SO badly lately its Killing me!!!!! I know I should wait because we are not Financially ready at this time, but its so hard!
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reader, kayandash08 +, writes (10 July 2008):
i am 19 and have been with my boyfriend for two years. we have our own house and both have steady jobs. we have disscussed starting a family since christmas. but agreed that it is something we both want but wanted to get our own place that we were looking for, and make sure we wer both definatly ready finacialy and ourselves. I've had the baby bug for ages and now we have decided to start a famliy, because we are stable enough to give it the best start and life it needs. yes you are young and think it is something that would be wonderfull and exciting. because it is! but you need to consider things that a baby needs. like lots of time, money, care, and love. at such a young age i would wait till you have a job and a place of your own. and make sure it is what you want. there is no rush! there maybe only 3 years between us, but from being 16 yrs old i have been on holiday with my partner been out clubbing and had a good time. I have come to terms that all this will be more difficult but you need to enjoy that few more years of freedom. hope this helps! x
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reader, Baybegal  +, writes (6 July 2008):
I see this all the time and im not critisizing you for wanting a baby so young but DONT DO IT... seriously!! you need to think alot of things over... you need to set a good life for yourself before you try and create a whole new life like making sure you complete your schooling thats really important and having a stable job and home. I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years and am 19 and ive went through the baby phase to but I never acted on it because I know I had to set my life straight first . I think all us girls do it , it comes natural lol Im sure of it one of your friends have a baby or maybe even a couple and try to take one of there kids (babies) overnight believe me you will be happy to pass the baby back the next day and thats whats awesome about it you can give them back lol. defiantely research this ALOT beforing acting on it.
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reader, Baybegal +, writes (6 July 2008):
I see this all the time and im not critisizing you for wanting a baby so young but DONT DO IT... seriously!! you need to think alot of things over... you need to set a good life for yourself before you try and create a whole new life like making sure you complete your schooling thats really important and having a stable job and home. I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years and am 19 and ive went through the baby phase to but I never acted on it because I know I had to set my life straight first . I think all us girls do it , it comes natural lol Im sure of it one of your friends have a baby or maybe even a couple and try to take one of there kids (babies) overnight believe me you will be happy to pass the baby back the next day and thats whats awesome about it you can give them back lol. defiantely research this ALOT beforing acting on it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2008): Hi there,
Im 19 years old now and i had my son at 17 years old. Let me tell you that having a baby at such a young age is the most challenging and hardest thing anyone could ever go through. im not saying i dont love my baby i wouldnt give him back for the world, but i do wish now that i would have waited. you are still so young and you still have a chance to have so much fun without having to worry about what will happen with you baby, like for instance you wont to go out clubbing but you cant because you have to stay home and watch your baby, you might want to do futher study at school but cant because you have a baby and yes i know there are ways around these thing but it just makes being young impossible, i almost feel like ive aged another 10 years i have to be responsible 24/7 i cant just be a teenager i go off whenever i like to hang out with mates or go shopping without having to have my baby with me, having a baby changes every little thing about your life and yes they are the most precious things in the world, but remember theres is absolutely no rush to have a baby you still have years and years ahead of you...and dont forget how hard it can be financially. HAVE FUN NOW :D pay later lol
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2008): Yes, other girls do experience this. I'm 16 and I thought I was pregnant not too long ago and even tho I had wanted a baby when I thought I was actually going have one it scared the crap out of me. I told my boyfriend and he was really scared too but, I knew that if i was he would stand by me. I'm not pregnant and I'm glad I'm not, although there is nothing more beautiful. I realized i'm too young right now. I think about Babies and getting married but I think most girls do that just what most of us want. Even though I'm only 16 and my boyfriend is only 18 the fact that he has brought up marriage a couple times makes me feel secure. Even though you love your boyfriend and want to start a family doesn't mean you should. Its best to wait and make sure that your income is steady and you have a place to live. You have to be completely ready when that angel comes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2008): Yes it's a phase and you will go through it several times in your life. A lot of times it comes when you're highly stressed, lonely, or generally irritable. I think a lot of it has to do with wanting someone who can relate to you. Someone you can talk to who won't talk back and the whole idea of producing someone innocent and pure. I believe you are too young and maybe another two to four years will be better for you. I'm only 20 and I really want a child but I'm in college so I'll have to wait until I have the financial stability. It's healthy to have a baby young but I'd say 16 is a little too young. I believe the best age for women in general is 18-26 and in the US it's considered 22-32 but only because of our prenatal care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2008): Ive been with my bf for a year and abit, never once had an argument and always together. Im soo happy it just feels like having a baby would be perfect. But we're both still in college and too young. B ut its reassuring to hear other girls feel the same. xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2008): i feel the same way. ive been with my boyfriend for just over a year. i dont neccesserally think that i want a baby with him. its just a baby. i think its because i sometimes get lonely at home on my own, i would so love a baby to care for. one of my own. but im just 16 and studying at college. soon ill be going to uni and i dont think my boyfriend would be too pleased if i told him i wanted a baby!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2008): I've having the same feelings. I am 20 and have been with my boyfriend for 2 years now. he is 26 and just starting a business. we have talked about getting married and have agreed to wait for another two or three years so that the business can get set up and so that I'm a bit older. But i keep having maternal feelings! and it makes me sad to think that it will probably be at least four years before we can start to try and have a baby. but i also agree with lillaum - who wrote her answer on 20 aug 06 - that i want everything i can have for my baby first. i want to get a family house with a yard, a nursury and i want to be emotionally ready to deal with everything. I also want to be steady financially and a few more years with my bf wouldnt hurt. but knowing that your too young / not ready just doesnt make those feelings go away!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2008): hey im 16 as well i aint bin wiff my bf as long as yooh but i know how yooh feel ive wanted a baby really badly for about a year now and its all i think about...my mum doesnt agree wiff it but she said shel be thr and my bf is rele supportive..so your not th only 1, i no im too young to have a baby, but i think if its something you both really want you shud do it..i mean yooh only live once, im gettin my implant taken out in 12 weeks and then were trying for a baby, i just think if you know you can give that baby a good life and evrything it needs then go for it! good look wiff evrything tho hun x x
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2008): thank god someone is feeling the same way as me coz i thought it wasn't normal. ive been going out with my boyfriend for nearly 4 months now and weve had some preggy scares but deep down i know i want a baby with him i know what your thinking ive only been with him for 4 months but so much has happened between us and i love him and he loves me and he talks about the future and stuff and says that he wants to spend the rest of his life with me i really do think it will last with him he's 20 and im 16 so he'll probebly want to settle soon anyway hopefully im still there when he does and he says i'd be a great mum i was so chuft when he said that! graeme a luv u bby
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2007): Hey hon yes im 16 years old and also have the same feelings as you... But the only diff. is that my boyfriend also wants a baby...But weve been trying and trying but cant seem to get lucky.. I dont know what to do, but i totally know where you are coming from..
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2007): Aw Honey ! I know exactly how you feel. I am seventeen and have been trying for a baby for almost a year now ! It is so heartbreaking to think that I may not be able to have kids. I feel so useless, like my time on this planet does not mean anything if I cannot create another life ! My advice to you is to pay attention to your studies just now. Also, you could spend time with friends, or go out on dates with your boyfriend or join the gym or something. I wish I had waited a few years before trying for a baby as I am not ready to deal with the fact that I may not be able to have one. It has affected my school work, my health, my social life, and my relationship with my boyfriend. Maybe if I was older, I would go to the doctors and get it checked out, but I feel as though I am too young to say that I have been trying for a baby. It is best that you wait until you are emotionally ready for everything that trying for a baby includes, including the fact that some people just cannot get pregnant /3 !Please keep up-to-date posts, letting us know how you are doing, and if you do try for a baby !Oh, quick question !Does being underweight contribute to unsuccessful attempts when trying for a baby ?Thanks A Lot Louise x
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2007): i am 18 years old, and really want a baby but my bf is really sensible and wants to wait a while, i no hes right but i cant help myself. so i no how u feel. wat have u done about it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2007): Im 19 and also have strong urges for a baby but im at uni am not in a steady relationship so i know its silly. i think its completely normal to feel broody, its instinct. Some peoples replys on here have annoyed me, telling you you're too young, im not doubting that you are too young, i am way to young for a baby, but youre not saying you want one now, just that you're body is telling you you want one. Christ the girl knows shes to young, shes just asking if its normal to feel this way! blimey. Don't worry about it sweet, i feel the same! Also a note on boyfriends. I had a boyfriend when i was 16 to 18 and thought we'd last forever, but the truth is its rare this boy and you will be the same people 10 years from now, ive had a couple of relationships since him and although we're great friends my feelings i had for him once have gone. Oh and also for that person to say your boyfriend doesnt sound comitted to you is talking bulls***, hes just thinking logically like you are, doesnt mean he loves you any less! hope this helps xxxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2007): im 20 and i am experiencing this very same thing. My boyfriend is in a secure job and is 5 yrs older than me but im still at uni so i know i cant have a baby at this time. I remember when i was 16, and i know im not that old and wise now but i have grown up a lot in the past 4 yrs and you will too. at your age i broke up with the guy i thought i'd marry and i have had a couple boyfriends since. The truth is, things change and your feelings might too. you dont wanna be stuck in with a child at your age. Go college and maybe uni, HAVE FUN!!! But it is normal to be broody and want babies, but wait til time is right.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2007): i know how you feel about having a baby but honey you are way too young.you are not too young to have a boyfriend,you're just too young to have a baby and on top of that,you're a baby yourself.lots of girls out there have been dying to have a baby but don't let that hold you back in life.can you really believe that you are getting advice from a 13 year old girl?you should not be thinking about that because once you have a child you'll probably get kicked out of your parent's house,you have to but baby clothes,food,pay rent,and you probably won't even be working or going to school because you have to stay at home and take care of the baby.don't let that get to you because you'll probably regret it later on in life.So for right now,just have fun,go to parties,go shopping,and hang out with your friends because the time for you to have children will come so just don't try to rush things too much.Enjoy being a teenager while you can and after you graduate high school,then you can think about having kids.GOOD LUCK.I WISH YOU THE BEST, SWEETHERAT.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2007): Your sense of family (you may not have been raised with a good and strong family- divorce and fighting to abuse) and desire to become responsible and grow up fast so you can have control over your life...is what has you projecting so much hopes on the idea of being a Mother will solve all your problems and take away your hurt and anger.
It won't.
Wait.
Get counselling.
To have a baby in hopes that BF of three years; again..sex in your teens will skewer your sense of what is right and mess with the correct timetable of life, will keep you BF to you. It will, but not in the way you hope and want.
Trust in the wisdom of an adult, a parent, and one who has been there...
Wait until you are older. Wait until you are married.
BF does not sound committed and that is the real reason you want a Baby so you can KEEP him. By how he states his words...he hasn't come out and declared you to be his "ONE".
He isn't reliable. This won't solve anything. Having a baby now Miss I Want a Baby and Family now *stomp foot*.
Please be wise. Urges and desires are not meant to overrule wisdom and common sense.
Best Wishes Little One.
*hugs*
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reader, metalpat24 +, writes (2 January 2007):
 do wat the person below me said, go and help out a kid who dont have any1, babysit, practice 1st, your 16, my bestest (girl) friend was 12 wen she got pregnant she was raped but she took care of it shes now 21 the kid is 9, just help out then wen your out of school have a career then you can, a job isnt enuff to pay for 3 people
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (2 January 2007):
 All good advice so far, I'd just like to suggest you turn those maternal urges to good use, maybe volunteer as a big sister and mentor a young child or whatever programs you have where you are. Volunteer to babysit for some young mothers and give them a much needed break. Whatever you do, wait to have that baby.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2007): i believe you shouldnt be even considering this at that age. You have to experience life first yourself. How would you teacha kid, when you havent experienced much yourself. Who would pay for it. dont you want to travel your own country and the world, have a rewarding career, youll probably go through 20 boyfriends before you meet one that would even slighty resemble a potential good parent. who wants to change shitty nappys all day. No im not a parent, if your wondering, thank god. im 24. every girl i went to school with already has a baby. none are very happy, get to have any fun, or can afford a baby.
i have a question for you. in australia, we have parking bays for mums with babys only. if you get busted without a baby, you can get fined. Why is a mum with a baby more important than all the other hard working members of the community. none mums should be rewarded for not overpopulating the planet (ok australia is a bad example of that) ok i admit youd make a dam site better mum then me (that wouldnt be hard) but youd make an even better one if you just leave it many many more years, and go out have an absolute blast and get lots of experiences under your belt.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2006): you are going through the phase. everyone goes through this. you are still young and you have your whole life ahead of you, you and your partner have been together for a long time, so like he said - when his job gets better he will eventually be ready to play happy family's. XxX good luck!
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx +, writes (20 August 2006):
 They most definitely do. I think it is in many womens genes to want babies, because that's what we're here to do, I guess!!! I went through the phase on and off for years too around your age and I didn't even have a boyfriend. Basically, you've just got to be sensible. It isn't right for you, you know that, so want one all you like, just in the future.
Things we want the most are rarely as good when they actually happen. I think having a baby so young is one of them, it all seems great when you see other people's babies but one of your own is very different. Concentrate on doing well in your life so you can offer a child a good life one day.
Women are more than baby making machines. We can do great things so don't waste your life, do something you're really proud of and something your child will be proud of one day too.
If you feel really maternal, get a puppy! Good luck
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reader, lillaum +, writes (20 August 2006):
 honey I am still inthat phase! I think that some women just develope there meternal instincts sooner than others. but most women I spoke to about my desire for a baby said that they started to feel like that when they had found a man that they thought would be a good dad. I guess it's different for different people.
I am 21 now and started to feel the way you describe you are feeling at the age od 14. I used to cry some times because the desire for a baby was so strong. I knew I was too young also. I still cry some times but I want my child to have all they need, which means I need a stable job, a suitable home, and so much more. I also think that just growing up and going threw life and all the ups and downs that go with it help to prepare for a baby too. I think I would also like to live my own life for awhile first too.
What helped me was to imagine what I really wanted. I pictured the scene in my head. There was a beautiful baby in my arms, I was sat on a comfy chair cuddled upto my husband. the house was so homely full to the brim with love. I saw toys and lots of new things for the baby. Then I thought when its only the baby I was missing to complete the scene in reality maybe then I should think about being a mother. Do you see what I am saying?
I will write more if you want me to. Take care,
Lillaum
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