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writes: HiyaI am 19 years old and never had a boyfriend. I didn't mind before but since I have come to uni it's really started to get me down, as I feel there must be something wrong with me. Whenever I go out, despite trying to look my best, guys barely give me a second glance, let alone ask me out. I really like a particular guy but I'm not confident to ask him out and also I feel it would really boost my self esteem if he asked me, but he has shown no signs of reciprocal interest. How can I a) find out how he feels and B) make myself get a boyfriend???
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2006): I am 23 and didn't have a boyfriend until I was 23! I always wondered what was wrong with me. But people used to tell me that it's not easy to love someone if you can't love yourself. I just figured that it wasn't the right time. That when I was able to be in a relationship and concentrate on someone else it would happen. And it did. Important to remember that there's nothing wrong with you. Other people are also just as shy or worried about the same things. Guys probably look often at you, you just don't notice! A watched pot never boils! You say that no-one notices you, but do you mean that only the ones you don't want notice you? If this is the case then it could be that you need to give someone a chance because there's a lot more under the surface. Hope all goes well, believe in yourself.
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reader, iwillhelpyouthroughit  +, writes (3 June 2006):
 i have felt like that before the dfference is i'm younger than u and never had a b/f most lada are my friends and i have as many lad friends as girls, if you wana show him how you feel just go up to him keep the conversation flowing and then casually go so who's u'd fanci at the moment howz ur love life and soon you'll find out!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2006): Look ur never ever gonna get a boyfriend by just sitting around waiting 4 him 2 ask u!! I think u should go and talk 2 him first before u ask him out, find out things about him then when ur comftable around him, ask him out!!
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reader, Smiler +, writes (3 June 2006):
 Hey there
Well sweetie firstly there is completely nothing wrong with you at all that a confidense boost can fix... we have all been in your situation in life where you feel like your odd strange whatever but its not that hard to over come really, firstly every day when your getting dressed just look in that mirror and tell yourself a simple compliment like "i look good today" or " my hair looks nice today" give yourself that little boost everyday and believe in in by doing that each day for a few months you will slowly begin to feel good about yourself again which will give you that confidense boost i was talking about earlier... come on sweetie i'm sure your lovely remember beauty is in the eye of the beholder remember all the saying beauty i only skin deep.... well you need to believe those and reflect a happier more confident person that i know you are come on sweetie you can do it.... have a little faith in yourself and you can do anything you put your mind to... and as for getting a boyfriend following all the steps i have indicated above is more than likely to help you achieve the whole boyfriend thing ok.... BUT PLEASE REMEMBER THERE IS ABSOLUTELY NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU AT ALL OK YOUR COMPLETELY NORMAL!
I hope my advice helped you a little... Good luck If you ever need anyone to talk to or just more advice i'm always here for you ok... i would love to hear from you again..
You Take Care Sweetie X
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reader, lillaum +, writes (3 June 2006):
 I can see how you would feel like there is something wrong with you, but there isnt I promise. Alot of people expect and assume that at 19 you would have had a boyfriend but I think that there are more people in your situation than you realise. I dont know you or what you look like but I can almost say for certain that you are 100 times better than you think you are. stop listening to that voice in your head that says your strange, wrong, ugly, or any other negitive things. So many people are insecure on the inside, the trick is to not show it. Of course speak to people about it but try not to let it take over your personality. If your out with your friends feeling like pooh you are probably looking grumpy? smile. would you feel like you could approach some one if they looked like they were having a bad day... ok what if your a bloke? men can get nervous around sad women. and hey who said you cant make the first move? (if its that little voice in your head commanly know as bad self esteem stand up to it and tell it to shut up) :-) it wasnt so long ago that I was in your situation. I know that my advice can seem harsh but it worked for me. be confident you owe it to yourself.
Lillaum
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