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writes: I am seperated from my wife. It has been a year and we have a little boy of 2yrs and 8 months. I have these overwhelming feelings of guilt for leaving both my wife and my little boy. I phone my little lad every day and I see him every 2 weekends without fail. I just keep remembering the past and how happy I used to be with my wife and son, and how unhappy I must have made them. I never gave my wife any inkling that somthing was wrong with our marriage; I just left coz I had had enough !! I don't know what to do with these feelings of guilt. It is tearing me apart. I still love my wife althought not in love with her, and I worry I will emotionally harm my little boy through not being there. I love him with all my heart and will never desert him. What can I do to feel happy again and move on with my life instead of worrying about the past?
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (11 November 2005):
 "I just left coz I had had enough !!" Yep, you should be feeling pretty guilty all right. You owe your wife an explanation for why you left. Then you can decide to be as supportive of her as she raises your son. Nobody deserves to stay in a miserable marriage but you do owe her your help both emotionally and financially in raising the life you both brought into this world.
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reader, lillaum  +, writes (10 November 2005):
 hi there.
counselling is a good way to get over the past.
Remember that your son will be happy if both his mother and father are so keep that in mind as motivation. Don't be so hard on yourself. If you were unhappy in your marrige and stayed you would have ended up resenting your wife and maybe even your son. This way you can start over fresh and give both you and your ex wife a new chance at happiness. It is better in the long run that you took control of the situation, I guess it it damge limitations.
Good Luck
Lillaum
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reader, mommyofthree +, writes (10 November 2005):
 Honestly, you should feel guilty. You abandoned two people that depended on you, with out even a warning. There is no sure fire way to make you feel better and I don't know of too many people that would try. If you want to feel better you have to take steps to make the situation with your ex and your son right. That doesn't mean you need to live in an unhappy mariage but you owe her an explanation and you owe yur son more of your time. Be a man and take care of the people you have hurt.
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