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writes: I need help and advice. Me (16) and my boyfriend (16) dated for about eight months. Everything was going great. But he called me one day and said that one of his friends told him I cheated on him when I didn't. We broke up and now he wants me to prove that I'm innocent or he won't trust me. I can't of anything that will make him believe. Can you please help me? Sarah
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2007): I know exactly where you are coming from. My boyfriend who is now my ex because he thinks I cheated on him, when in reality I didn't i'm not the type to cheat i've been cheated on to many times and I would never do that!! My question is how do I prove it to him??? Recently I was told that I had herpes. I haven't gotten any tests done yet or anything i'm going to do that soon. But the point is I was tested a few months before I got together with him and I was clean and now I have herpes. He was tested and said he came out clean. What I don't understand is he is the only guy that I have been with since I was last tested which means I had to of gotten it from him. But since he is testing clean he thinks I cheated on him! I love this boy more than anything I want to be with him, but he won't listen to me! How do I get him to listen to me, how can I prove to him that I didn't cheat??
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2007): well you dont need to be with him if he will be like that i kno its hard im 16 and so is my boyfriend he accuses me all the time but i put up with it because we been together for almost 2 years just stay strong
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2005): How do you prove something you havent done..find out when you was suppose to have done it and hope you was doing something with someone proving you couldnt have dont anything..but if you need to prove your innocent then doesnt his mate need to prove your guilty as well..no proof from his mate then your boyfriend will need to choose whether he is going to take your word for it or not.
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reader, Kay-the-Cloud +, writes (17 October 2005):
If he trusts his friend more than you then he definatly isn't worth it. Tell him that if he really loved you then he would believe you. You don't have to prove anything. If you know you didn't do it, then there we are. Find someone who really cares for you. Good luck!
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reader, lillaum  +, writes (15 October 2005):
 Hi there!
You would think that he would believe you wouldn't you? But at 16 it can be easier to believe your friends over your girlfriend/boyfriend. Your young and can't be doing with someone who doesn't want to trust you. Find somone who is worth it! He needs to grow up, if he wants any one to stick around. If you had been married for 30 years had children and grandchildren then maybe a little proof of innocense wouldn't go a miss, but that is not the case. You don't need to prove yourself. Go find yourself some one who deserves you!
Good Luck
Lillaum
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reader, sexseahot  +, writes (14 October 2005):
 I agree with both these answers. This guy is definitely not worth it. He seems to be a little immature at the moment too. You have your whole life ahead of you and many more men out there for you to meet. This guy seems to be making it difficult for you, and you've only been together for 8 months... come on... who wants to put up with crap like that?
You don't deserve that, especially if you didn't do anything wrong. Forget about him. He's not worth it and he's definitely not worth your time.
Find someone that is nicer to you and values your opinions and feelings and not only his friends. There are men out there that know how to treat a lady and have her come first. You don't need to be wasting your time with someone such as him.
Good luck in your choice you make!!! Make it a good one!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2005): I completly agree with Bev,i had a friend once who was going out with this guy who always accused her of going behind his back and not loving him enough.His mates always use to stir things making out that she done things with them.In the end he dumped her after playing with her mind for over a year.She was left confused and wasn't sure who she could trust in the end.Things should be great in the first year of a relationship as your still getting to know each other.DON'T take any crap,be strong and tell him it's up to him he can either believe you or leave.You get two types of guys one that will always consider their girlfriends and others in their life and guys that always put friends and their social life first - thats not right as your all part of his life!!
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (14 October 2005):
 Have you ever heard the phrase, "You can't prove a negative"? You can't. You will never be able to "prove" that you didn't cheat; therefore, your ex is never going to be satisfied with your explanation.
Furthermore, his actions and demands also show that he values his friends' opinions over your feelings. That's not a good sign.
Chalk this relationship up to experience. Your ex is a waste of air and even if you begged and pleaded and scraped and bowed for him to take you back, he'd dump you again, the next time one of his friends makes some other outrageous claim.
Sorry, but he's not worth it, and if you get back with him you'll be forever tiptoeing around his moods, lest he threaten to dump you again. Too much drama! Let him go and good riddance.
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