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writes:How do I get over him?I was with my fiance for almost three years. In that time we had a lot of ups and downs, mostly due to my mental illness. I cheated on him whilst I was ill and then tried to kill myself when we broke up, and then again a few months later. That was 18months ago though, and in the meantime I got better, we got back together and got engaged. I was so happy. And I stayed faithful to him. Then 3 months ago he ends it saying he can't see a way around our problems. We have still seen each other however and he says he loves me, and he's told me he wants to have time apart and then see. I am going mad though, and I think the only way to get him back is to move on and meet someone else, but I can't be with anyone else because I love him, and I don't want to move on. But I don't know if I have the strength to keep doing this. Will I ever heal?
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reader, Thornbirds  +, writes (30 March 2011):
 Meeting someone new to make you feel better at this point is not a good option.If he is feels the same way as you do, he'll surely come back, but don't hope for it..time is the best healer. At this point, let yourself grieve. You are not alone in this journey.. many have passed this way and they got healed.Don't force love to come, let love come your way. In fact, you don't have to do anything..if loves comes your way,it will cling to you, even if you force it to flee from you.Don't waste your time living in the past.You cannot spend all your energy crying over something which you cannot bring back..sometimes, things don't happen the way we want them to be, and it happens to everyone..
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reader, Libra1963  +, writes (30 March 2011):
 Your illness must be really scaring him. You really need to work on a way of dealing with it or else you will find a lot of men coming and going. Do you want a man to be with you because they love you or feel sorry for you?
Mental health can be cured if you throw yourself into something you enjoy apart from relationships. Work, music, crafts. There must be something you like. I dont think any amount of drugs will help. You have to help yourself. God gave you life. Life is good. Look at what it is that is making you depressed and DEAL with it. Only you can inflict change. I do feel for your as I know its hard but life is so short as it is. Be happy, for us and for you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2011): I don't think so that moving on with another guy will solve your problem. If you really love him just give him sometime to think and show him that you change and won't cheat on him again. Just be strong , if he say that he loves you he might be just testing you if you will move on with another man as fast as you could. Show him that you really love him by giving him sometime.
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