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writes:Iv been going out with my boyfriend for about 4 months. We always go through phases where we fall out at least once a day. I know its partly my fault but I genuinely can't see how. I hate it when we fall out and so does he but it never seems to stop him picking an argument over the small things. Just recently I don't think I feel the same about him anymore, he seems to love himself a lot, he'd be better off going out with a mirror. He thinks everything he does in the relationship is perfect and he knows everything even though he's never had a proper girlfriend before. He goes gym all the time and sometimes i feel like he puts it before me, at college I always here him talking about it and the other day I heard him telling someone how he has just the right balance of gym and me in his life, and with his hands he did a half and half gesture. This made me think that to him gym is as important as me. It sounds stupid but I think I should be his priority over gym, I don't know what to do? Helpppp? Reply to this Question
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (14 March 2011):
 Does he pick the gym over you? If not, then there's no issue here.
Now if you have a gym meat head that tells you he can't go out tonight because he needs to go pump some iron. Then I would say you come second to the gym.
If that is not how your boyfriend is, then you have nothing to worry over. What is saying that you and the gym are two very important things in his life at the moment.
Don't say anything to him about it, because it will start an unnecessary argument.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2011): What else do you have in your life? Do you drop your interests and friends as soon as you snag a boyfriend? You are wanting him to give up a lifestyle that makes him feel good and that is a very bad sign of things to come. I would actually scale back on the time you spend with him so you can create a purpose for yourself and not depend on boyfriends to choose you over what is good for them so you can get a happiness fix.
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reader, Libra1963  +, writes (13 March 2011):
 I think a qualification in how to deal with relationships should be placed on the school's national curriculum, so many girls make the same mistake.You are making him the centre of your life. It is clear that you are not his. He is also similar age to you so quite young to be committing to a fully exclusive relationship. Go out with your friends and stop being so "available". Become interesting and a challenge.
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