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writes:i have a really great guy friend. we work together, at times hang out. i was in a 2 year relationship but that ended a year ago, and since then i've met a few guys and dated, but nothing serious; my friend is a virgin and lives with his mom, he is a big flirt, but can be quite shy when in the presence of a pretty female.recently we started flirting, it was playful at first, but kinda escalated, to longer hugs and kisses.he asked me for a blowjob, over the phone. i was surprised, but even more so, because i said "ok"He is a really nice guy!! i would like to do this, but i'm wondering what is the proper morning after---back to work---lets not change our friendship, etiquette after the bj? i'm not looking for fwb, i'm not sure he is either? i know we probably have to talk about this...my ex, was a great teacher. and i've never done it with any other guy, because i didn't feel it..but i do with my friend, i know it's an intimate act, but i'm not looking to change our relationship. i just want to make him happy. is this a bad idea?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2010): It all depends what you want to get yourself into. You know, especially if you are as good as you believe, it will not be an only one time request. If you want to go for it, but definitely look into your future. Obviously this will change your friendship forever, you have to know that.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (30 April 2010):
 Certainly seems a bold request at the indicated stage of this new relationship, but I'm of an older generation. Things like oral sex was more often between interested parties in the earlier generations, That stated, I'm compelled to admit having fairly recently discussed mutual oral pleasuring with women not only in person, but also via Internet and telephone. All various circumstances. So . . .
You obviously like the guy, and said that you "would like to do this." It is a most "friendly" gesture and would make most any man "happy" - but what about you?
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reader, KaileyLove  +, writes (30 April 2010):
 Sounds to me that he's either doing this for his own pleasure, or he wants to try to rekindle your relationship.
Honestly, I wouldn't do it unless I was looking to date him again.
Don't do it just for his happiness... your feelings come first.
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