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writes:Hey guys, a bit of a strange question.Every morning i get a bus to college, and i see the same guy there every morning at my busstop. He's unbeleivably handsome and very well dressed. Lately i see him looking at me and when i look back he smiles, blushes and mouthes 'hi'. He looks about 24, and i'm 17. Should i start talking to him?Also, whenever i see him my heartbeat goes really fast and i breather quicker, i feel lightheaded and get all hot and flustered. And when i get on my bus (we get on seperate buses, mine comes before his) he mouthes 'bye' to me and smiles, and i can't stop smiling afterwards. What's going on?! X Reply to this Question
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reader, golddustlady123  +, writes (25 May 2010):
Well just start chatting with him, you never know he may be younger than what you think or older but only way to tell is to talk to him!!!!
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reader, cnith +, writes (25 May 2010):
 You could talk to him, sure, why not?! He seems to be into you or he wouldn't do that.
Question is, how soon is it for you to be 18? (unless in your country it's 16, not 18, when you become an adult in terms of legalities.)
I only mention that because if he IS 24 and you're still a minor, that could bring up trouble for both of you.
That being said, don't worry about age gaps. I'm not sure what Vintage's deal is but age is a number and a state of mind. However, some ages ARE too great of a gap if the two people are in sync with their ages.
For example, a 45 year old man is much too old for you. I would agree that gap would be too big. Chances are his maturity and experiences are different than yours and you will not be able to relate to each other after the glitter has worn off.
On the other hand, if said 45 man has remained current, then who knows?
I say this because my bf and I have a ten year difference in ages. But in my mind, I'm not my chronological age. For reasons I won't get into right now, I was repressed and so the age in my head is different than the age of my body. I still act like a teenager sometimes and most people who meet me think I'm in my late 20's. My head is, my body is not.
17 and 24 is 7 years. I think you'd be OK. And you never know that 24 yr old could be younger. He could also be older. I'm not sure.
One thing I DO know is that life is a gamble. A risk. As they say, no risk, no glory! But you should be wise as to what risks you take. Obviously dumb risks are just, well... dumb.
In this case, I say take a chance. Chat him up a bit, ask him for milkshakes or something. Why the heck not? Life's too short would'ves and should'ves...
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2010): He is probably looking at a lot of girls and flirting with them in the same manner. I'd just let it go, he is too old.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2010): You have a crush and a hot guy, enjoy the eye candy, the flirting and that he makes you smile each morning, I mean what a great way to start your day, but don't do anything about it, at 17, that age gap is just too big.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (25 May 2010):
He's flirting with you. :). If you like him, try talking to him.
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reader, BunnyTee +, writes (25 May 2010):
 It's called flirting, honey. Good old fashioned flirting.
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reader, Zanie +, writes (25 May 2010):
 Um, I'm hesitate. 17 and 24? It's statutory for him. He may be looking because he thinks you're older.
More importantly though, the age difference is too great at this point. I know it seems so cool to be dating older, but really it rarely works out at this age.
Dating Rule Book:
If you're under 18: Date under 21.
You both can't drink legally or get into the clubs. You both remotely like the same TV and music because you are somewhat each other's age. You both have the same level of responsibility.
Dating older than 21 risks:
You cant get into the clubs he can get into.
All of his pals are older.
Down the line, he matures and gets homebound and you still want to party.
He wants babies before you get to live life.
You go off to college and he is not following... and long distance sucks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2010): If u are close to 18 then you should go for it. He clearly thinks u r attractive. Just make sure he doesn't have a ring on his finger. Good luck!
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reader, KaileyLove  +, writes (25 May 2010):
 He liiiikes you!!Awww, that's so cute!!But, yes, talk to him. If he's mouthing you words, then he wants to talk. And as for age, you don't how old he is for sure. You should just start off with "simple, and I'm-just-making-conversation-while-waiting" conversations. If he's not your type, well, at least you'll make a very handsome friend.You can do it~! Good luck! :)
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