Opinions about men going off sex?
Q. I just read an article "Why men don't want sex anymore" at http://www.thesun.co.uk/sol/homepage/woman/sexandlove/article2220901.ece?OTC-RSS and ATTR=Sex+And+Love In summery it sort of surmises that some men go off sex because they feel mispla...
A. 24 February 2009: Try finding a woman who earns less i guess. Is this sexist? Not sure. I haven't been with a woman who earned more than me, i'm not sure if i would mind really...... (read in full...)
Falling for a girl who I blasted in the past.
Q. Last year my very best friend told me that she loves me.. For some reasons I blasted her.. She's been my best friend for 6 years now and I don't feel love for her. She told me that no matter what happened she will love me... She also told me that ...
A. 23 February 2009: Thats tough mate. All i can suggest is that you don't see her for a while, try to get your mind off her. Go out and meet new girls, soon enough someone else will catch your eye.... (read in full...)
I'm growing up and find some things not as interesting anymore
Q. Hi there I really think I have changed within a period of weeks/days and want to know what I should prepare myself for. Well our school has broken up from half term and we go back tomorrow. Over the holidays I have really changed. The week before I...
A. 22 February 2009: Lol. Yeah you'll find staying in really annoying, wanna go out and spend time with friends, even if thats at their house. The girls you didn't like or though were bitches, you will start to secretly wanna f*ck. But. Just remember mate, wear a ... (read in full...)
I like him but he only calls when he wants to have sex!
Q. I've been "hooking" up with this guy for a little over a year now, and before I never really thought a relationship would work between us and just enjoyed merely having sex with him. Lately he hasn't been returning my usual late night calls and ...
A. 22 February 2009: Sadly i doubt it would matter to him how you felt. He sees you as someone to have sex with, that will never change. If i were you i'd get out of this your feeling will grow and you will get hurt. When a women offers nothing but sex to a man, thats ... (read in full...)
He is very upset and unsure if he should marry a 'loose woman' (because of her past).
Q. OK, I don't have a problem, but I have a friend who is having some serious thoughts about his fiancee. I intend on getting as much advice from this site as I can, then either print out the answers, or log on (not at work) and have him read all your ...
A. 20 February 2009: Yeah it's hard to think that the woman you love could have loved someone before they met you and had a sex life, i know that seems weird to say in the 21st century but i don't think i'm the first man to like to believe that my exgirlfriend (when i ... (read in full...)
Should I leave my older husband? I'm unhappy!
Q. Should I leave my husband? I am 32. I have been married for 12 years and have 3 children aged between 7 and 12. My husband is 23 years older than me. We have been together for a very long time. He is the only man I have ever been with. I ...
A. 20 February 2009: Well now you have mentioned the control issues that is very different. I think you will find he is probably extremely insecure. Bear in mind that you are only 32! You could quite feasibly leave him and have another family with a man your own age, ... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and pregnant, help!
Q. I am 14 pregnant to a 17 year old it was a drunken mistake, i am 1 month gone and not showing yet only small bump no one knows, i have already got morning sickness (i dont know why they call it this i'm sick throughout the day) i cant get rid of i...
A. 20 February 2009: There is the 3 month abortion pill that you can take, it is a pill go and ask at your local hospital or GP, they will not tell anyone. It is a fetus yet nothing has developed significantly. ... (read in full...)
Should I leave my older husband? I'm unhappy!
Q. Should I leave my husband? I am 32. I have been married for 12 years and have 3 children aged between 7 and 12. My husband is 23 years older than me. We have been together for a very long time. He is the only man I have ever been with. I ...
A. 20 February 2009: The advice i'll give is practical, I'd stay till the 7 year old is at least 10, then take that one with you, the older ones might decide to stay with there father as they'll be more mature and won't rely on you like they did when they were young. ... (read in full...)
Is it only words? I don't feel I really matter to him!
Q. I am confused. I was dating a guy for 5 months, we broke up, and got back together a month later and are still together, now. My only issue is that I don't feel like I matter to him. He tells me he loves me, he tells me I'm his world, yet I don't ...
A. 19 February 2009: Question him about the facebook and myspace thing, it's one thing to not say anything, like leave it blank, but another to actually state that he is single. Maybe he is worried you will break up and it will be embarrassing to put that he is in a ... (read in full...)
Is my husband responsible for my child who was conceived during our marriage?
Q. I had an affair and became pregnant. I need to find out what the laws are in massachusetts, pertaining to custody. I know for sure that this child is not my husbands but the guy I cheated with. I need to find out if legally my husband is responsible ...
A. 19 February 2009: I can't imagine that a man would have to pay for a child that was not fathered by him. But i don't know the laws over their, but if it is the case they are pretty screwed up.... (read in full...)
My best friends went on vacation without telling me!
Q. My two best friends went on vacation together without me and now one keeps texting me and telling me all the fun things they did/ the hot guys they met. i was hurt enough just finding out about it. now, it's like adding insult to injury, you know? ...
A. 19 February 2009: It seems they are better friends with each other than with you, they probably are just closer. I'm sure they don't mean to be hurtful. Surely you have or can find other friends to spend your time with. Leave to to it for a bit. Then guess who ... (read in full...)
Am I destined for permanent fuck buddy status?
Q. I'm 23 years old and I have had literally enough boyfriends to equal my age. Its really depressing because no matter who I date (older or yonger, race, religion, whatever)every guy I've ever dated only looks at me as a fuck buddy. I recently...
A. 19 February 2009: Men like to think they have used their special charms to get a woman to sleep with them. We know a lot of the time they want it too, just like to think it's our charm. Don't be easy, that is my first bit of advice. Do not sleep with a man unless you ... (read in full...)
He wants a "settled adult relationship" what does that mean?
Q. ok so im 17, ive been going out with a guy who is 20 now for bout 2 and a half months, hes not the most outgoing of people and he is a bit shy, we havent had sex yet (neither of us are virgins) but nows hes talking about he wants a settled adult ...
A. 19 February 2009: Has he tried to have sex, or is he sexual with you. To be honest it's strange for a 20 year old to say this, i wanted and still do want sex as much as possible, in the beginning esp, of a relationship. Not sure of his problem if you are really ... (read in full...)
Porn makes me feel like I don't do it for him anymore...
Q. My boyfriend looks at porn. I know it shouldn't really be a big deal, but it is. I mean I dont mind if i watch it with him, but he says he is goin to the restroom and i dont really think anything of it when he takes the laptop with him, cuz i think ...
A. 19 February 2009: You could install some software that prohibits viewing of porn site etc. He needs to get off the addiction of porn, and believe me, it can be addictive. Once he can't see it regularly anymore he'll soon lose interest. Yeah he'll prob watch it again ... (read in full...)
I think my parents are being very unreasonable. Can anyone offer any advice?
Q. Hi. I proposed to my fiancee a couple of years ago. We are fantastic together and I couldn't have wished for a better lady. We planned the wedding and started paying it. So far, we have managed to pay half the costs. Then, late last year, I lost my ...
A. 19 February 2009: It's not unfair of them. I have actually sat and though about this for a while. They are looking at this from a very practical point of view. They are telling you they will help you buy your own home! How many parents do that? Why not let her ... (read in full...)
How to survive a sexless marriage?? Should I cheat?
Q. I am 32 years old and married to a man who never wants to have sex anymore. He can take it or leave it. I know he takes care of himself (porn) and we have had a million talks and fights about it. It has gotten to the point where I refuse to ...
A. 19 February 2009: Well no kids certainly makes things a lot less complicated. If you had them i'd say stick with him and try to sort it out. But to be honest I'd leave, you say he watches porn, so it's not as if he has a problem down there or anything. I can't ... (read in full...)
He forgets about me when he is away
Q. Hi readers! I just need help on this situation right here: My boyfriend and i are in a long distance relationship, i'm very much in love with him and he's in love with me... Well atleast he tells me that everytime we talk. Now he's been currently ...
A. 19 February 2009: Honestly. And i'm talking from experience. Me and my ex would just run out of things to talk about and it became annoying, just saying things for the sake of it. We were long distance for a year. I'd leave it until he calls you, in fact, let him... (read in full...)
Is it possible to have an operation to restore your virginity???
Q. I am married and divorced but my family has arranged for second marriage. He wants my virginity back, he said it is possible you can go operate, it is possible?...
A. 19 February 2009: yes i've seen a documentary about it, it's getting really popular. Look up cosmetic surgery clinics in your area... (read in full...)
Don't you think he is a hypocrite?
Q. Hello, I need your advice on this matter. I work with a man who is already married and has a kid. With time, i have begun to feel an attraction for him but I never said anything. I think he too feels the same way. Then I started to e-mail him ...
A. 19 February 2009: I think he is just saying, "well i have a wife so don't expect not to get hurt if you think more could come off this other than sex" .
If i were you i'd just leave well alone. You will get hurt and can't say he never warned you.... (read in full...)
Advice on cheating?
Q. Okay, a little complicated. There is this girl who I became really close with about 2 years ago and we thought about dating but decided it would never work and just over time became best friends. Completely platonic. About 7 months ago I star...
A. 19 February 2009: Also i hate it when people say you should tell her if its bugging you or on your mind, that is such a selfish way to be. So it's ok to tell her because that gets it off your mind, but to hell with her feelings and that she with be devastated! Put ... (read in full...)
Advice on cheating?
Q. Okay, a little complicated. There is this girl who I became really close with about 2 years ago and we thought about dating but decided it would never work and just over time became best friends. Completely platonic. About 7 months ago I star...
A. 19 February 2009: No don't tell her. in fact it would be selfish to tell her - first off she will for give you as she prob loves you but will forever know what you did in the back of her mind and it will eat away, so telling her is just taking advantage of that as if ... (read in full...)
I caught him jerking off to my underage niece's picture!
Q. I feel betrayed, lied to and disgusted... I caught my boyfriend in a pile of lies. For some reason he was denying he logged onto my laptop. After a minutes of going back and forth he admitted to it. The only reason I made it a big deal was because...
A. 19 February 2009: He was honest with you. I'd forgive him, he's not a pervert, just did a stupid thing which he probably feels awful about. Sometimes with men when we're horny we get stupid ideas in our heads, sometimes they are wrong but i'd never do anything to ... (read in full...)
Are most beautiful women viewed as sex objects by men?
Q. I have noticed at my university that girls who are in relationships tend to be plain looking and most of the good looking women are single. Even though I have heard that I was beautiful many times, I have never had a serious relationship. Men view ...
A. 19 February 2009: Not at all, my ex was very beautiful actually, naturally, she wore little makeup. I think the women who are single are probably, well it's not because of their beauty, it's more the way they are. I personally can't stand high maintenance women, the ... (read in full...)
Having change of heart about having abortion
Q. I am going to try to make this quick...I am writing because I need advice very soon. My situation is down to the eleventh hour so to speak. I am pregnant and have had a change of heart,I think??? I really think I want to have this baby and know it ...
A. 19 February 2009: There are many support groups out there with people like you, get looking on the net. Also if they think you're having the baby and thats that, i think you'll find they get used to it and accept. Would your mother really not support you when the ... (read in full...)
Guys would you marry a girl who was forced to do oral sex in her past?
Q. Guys would you marry a girl who was forced to do oral sex in her past?...
A. 18 February 2009: In what way forced? Was she abused? If i was in love with her and trusted her i would marry her yes. How was she forced though?... (read in full...)
She doesn't trust me since I lied about watching porn, how can I make it right?
Q. Hi everyone. I'm a male, 20 years old. I need some serious help. I've been with my girlfriend (we got engaged recently) for almost 3.5 years now, and we have had a great relationship. I love her to death, she loves me, and everything was fine until ...
A. 18 February 2009: Tell her you watch it out of curiosity. Say "you know what because it's such i big deal to you it just made it the forbidden fruit, i felt naughty watching it, i wanted to see what the big fuss was about. Also my friends are always talking about it ... (read in full...)
I want to see my girlfriend with another guy, how do I suggest this?
Q. I've been with my beautiful girlfriend for about a year now. We're in our 20's but shes several years older than me. We love each other very much. We've had amazing sex since day one however as of late I've been having this reoccurring fantasy of ...
A. 18 February 2009: I've always been quite fascinated with men who have this fantasy. I couldn't bear the idea personally, but that me. This would be extra hard what with her not being a slut to begin with, why not start watching porn together, two men f****** one ... (read in full...)
Why did I say no when I wanted to say yes to his proposal?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for about a year and he recently asked me to marry him. He is the most wonderful man I could ever have asked for, but for some reason, even though my head and heart wanted to say yes, I said no. I've broken his heart and ...
A. 18 February 2009: Hey listen his ego is majorly bruised! He won't ask again no matter what. If i were you i'd go round with his favourite take away or whatever he likes and just say "MARRY ME!". If you did that he'd not only be blown away, but his ego will be totally ... (read in full...)
Am I being unreasonably selfish here or is something else at work?
Q. I am strangely and suddenly conflicted. I broke up with my ex-wife a few years ago, we still have a couple of minor children and get along great as friends. We were together for many years. On some level, we still love each other though her ...
A. 18 February 2009: Don't do it!!! Yeah tempting, but when you cum and suddenly everything becomes starkly clear, you will regret it. Plus haven't you slept with her enough? Wasn't it you that left her. Also she might fall for you again, women do that sometimes after ... (read in full...)
How can I fix the relationship & make him see what he wants?
Q. hi, im 16 and female. i was pregnant 4 months ago but i had a still birth i developed an eating disorder the only thing i cling to is my beloved boyfriend weve been together 2 years and he asked me to marry him on valentines day. i know were ...
A. 18 February 2009: I don't think he stopped loving you within 3 days. He probably will always love you, you were his first love, you only get one first love. Maybe he will look back and wonder "what if" by then you will have had many other flings, relationships ... (read in full...)
How can I forget that my b/f had sex with someone else?
Q. how can i forget my boyfriend had sex with someone else? how can i trust that he wont hurt me again? i want to trust him but i dont think i know how any more well me and my bf have been together for almost 4 years he is my first everything ...
A. 18 February 2009: OH this is awful, i am so sorry! Listen, please try and do what you can to get over this man, go out with your friends, get drunk whatever. He will never want you. He used you for sex just because you were there and throwing yourself at him. Now the ... (read in full...)
How can I fix the relationship & make him see what he wants?
Q. hi, im 16 and female. i was pregnant 4 months ago but i had a still birth i developed an eating disorder the only thing i cling to is my beloved boyfriend weve been together 2 years and he asked me to marry him on valentines day. i know were ...
A. 18 February 2009: You are 16, do you realise the great life you can have if you want it? Maybe he has, he is only 18, he's probably been to a nightclub recently and seen what else is on offer, and wondered why on earth he wanted to for go it all. He and you have ... (read in full...)
If he was so unhappy why did he spend so much time with me?
Q. help, i feel so confused. I have been with my boyfriend a total of 7.5 years, the first few years of our relationship were good although he was quite jealous and parnoid. 4.5 years in, we split up because he wasn't sure about us and had died his...
A. 18 February 2009: I'm sorry for your situation. I will be frank. He probably stayed with you because he couldn't be bothered to find another woman i thought you would do, he talked about those things because he was probably trying to talk himself into the idea of ... (read in full...)
Did she want to see my junk?
Q. this past summer i had a girl out at my house we were going to sit in my hot tub outside then go swimming in the pond after that. well the thing is she didn't really have a swim suit and so she wore her t-shirt and her swim suit bottom. and she goes ...
A. 18 February 2009: No, if she wanted to see it she would have not said anything and expected you to read her mind, then when you didn't she would accuse you of not liking her and expect you to realise why!
Welcome to the mysterious world of women, you're going to... (read in full...)
Having change of heart about having abortion
Q. I am going to try to make this quick...I am writing because I need advice very soon. My situation is down to the eleventh hour so to speak. I am pregnant and have had a change of heart,I think??? I really think I want to have this baby and know it ...
A. 18 February 2009: Listen, you are not a teenager, you are a grown woman. If you feel a baby is something you are ready for then go for it, don't let anyone talk you out of it. That is your little baby remember when he/she is born, nothing else will matter especially ... (read in full...)
Is she the woman he subconsciously wants?
Q. My boyfriend has a very close female friend and perhaps I'm just reading into it too much but it seems to me that she's the girlfriend he's never had. When she walks into the room, he lights up and shouts out her nickname. When he talks to her, ...
A. 18 February 2009: Yep totally normal and i wouldn't like it one bit if i were you. Sorry but this is such an old story. Guy in love with best friend (who is female) but never has the guts to admit it for fear of what she will think. She probably has no interest in ... (read in full...)
How do I ask my husband, who does not like to discuss sex, to try some of these things with me?
Q. I am married with four children and love my husband, but I fantisize about another man. My husband definitly still turns me on, but at times I can be sitting watching tv and dream of this other man doing things to me that my husband does not do. ...
A. 18 February 2009: This man is very lucky that after your 4 kids you still prioritise sex. If his friends knew they'd probably be quite jealous. Also many people have affairs for this reason, but you are trying to deal with the issue the best way, so should be ... (read in full...)
Am I being unreasonably selfish here or is something else at work?
Q. I am strangely and suddenly conflicted. I broke up with my ex-wife a few years ago, we still have a couple of minor children and get along great as friends. We were together for many years. On some level, we still love each other though her ...
A. 18 February 2009: Yeah you are being a bit selfish, but it's only natural. You have probably considered you r ex to be a little at your disposal (not consciously of course). Now she has a new man it's black and white "SHE IS NOT YOURS" - y'know. If i were you i would ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says he doesn't know how he feels about me...
Q. Right, some background. My boyfriend and I met through a friend. We had flirted on a few nights out and ended up kissing at a party a couple of weeks back. The next day, we had a long chat, and we have been talking every day since, and seeing each ...
A. 18 February 2009: I bet he is embarrassed at you seeing him at his most vulnerable. You have seen him in a light that possibly even his own mother hasn't, he cried in front of you, that is pretty big for a guy to do and now he knows you have seen him like this he ... (read in full...)
I don't know what he will say about my feelings, what can I do?
Q. i have slept with this guy twice nearly two months ago now i cant stop thinking about him i really like him to the point where i think i love him,i havent told anyone this because i dont know what he will say about it but what can i do??? Please...
A. 18 February 2009: Difficult one to call. Problem with just sleeping with a guy is we tend to put you in the "just sex" category. For me if i just sleep with a woman and nothing else, she could be a great person, but in my head she's done with unless she wants to have ... (read in full...)
I don't know what he will say about my feelings, what can I do?
Q. i have slept with this guy twice nearly two months ago now i cant stop thinking about him i really like him to the point where i think i love him,i havent told anyone this because i dont know what he will say about it but what can i do??? Please...
A. 18 February 2009: Difficult one to call. Problem with just sleeping with a guy is we tend to put you in the "just sex" category. For me if i just sleep with a woman and nothing else, she could be a great person, but in my head she's done with unless she wants to have ... (read in full...)
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