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*licka23
writes:Hello, I need your advice on this matter. I work with a man who is already married and has a kid. With time, i have begun to feel an attraction for him but I never said anything. I think he too feels the same way. Then I started to e-mail him anonymously to tell him about how I feel for him. He responded positively at first. Then I sat back and after thinking much about it, I e-mail him to tell him that I feel that it is a bad idea to get involved with a married man since I know I will only be used and will suffer from emotional distress. I was quite angry when he replied me that he has a WIFE and that summarized the whole issue. Don't you think he is a hypocrite and not being honest?
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reader, flicka23 +, writes (20 February 2009):
flicka23 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks a lot, Tisha, that really helped me. It's true, I am acting exactly as you said like your little nephews. Many Thanks to all of you for your precious advice, I will take your advice and back off. Prevention is better than cure.
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (19 February 2009):
 What does it matter if he is a hypocrite and isn't being honest? Or if he is telling the truth? Either way, as he said he has a wife. End of.
Why are you acting as a teenager might? This sounds like you are looking for drama, or to cause a problem in his life. What is the point of that?
Look, we all run across a situation in life where we cannot get what we desire. The object of that desire is unattainable, for whatever reason. A grown up, mature person recognizes that this is the case and just leaves well enough alone.
An immature person, or one with poor self-control, will still try to get it. It reminds me of my young nephews. When told "no", they will whine and complain and argue and sneak around to try to get what they want. They have an excuse, though, they are only children.
You have to decide what kind of person you are, and what kind of life you wish to lead. It's up to you.
Take care.
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reader, gumbbo  +, writes (19 February 2009):
I think he is just saying, "well i have a wife so don't expect not to get hurt if you think more could come off this other than sex" .
If i were you i'd just leave well alone. You will get hurt and can't say he never warned you.
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