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writes:I've been with my beautiful girlfriend for about a year now. We're in our 20's but shes several years older than me. We love each other very much. We've had amazing sex since day one however as of late I've been having this reoccurring fantasy of watching her having sex with another man or having a threesome with her and another man. In my fantasy the sex is with my friends or with other men that we both know or sometimes with complete strangers. My girlfriend is very sexual but shes very loyal to me. When we first started hanging out she wouldn't have sex with me until the emotional connection was strong between us. She's only had a handful of sexual partners in her life while I've had many.Something about the idea of her being very slutty really turns me on sexually and I'm not sure why. I have not yet brought my fantasy to her attention yet out of concern to how she will react to it.I am very confident in myself and not the jealous type at all. I'm really interested in bringing this fantasy to life as I think it would reignite our sex life which has been somewhat stagnate for a while. I would love to hear about other people's experiences with this sort of thing and what the best way of going about it would be. Thanks
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reader, eocalla +, writes (20 February 2009):
eocalla is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'm going to take the safe route on this one and keep this fantasy in my fantasy file. Thank you for your input on the matter.
Things are going great with this girl. We've been going a year strong and I feel like she is one in a million so I don't want to do anything to put our relationship in limbo. I'm going to wait until a later date to introduce the idea of threesomes into our relationship.
Thanks again.
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reader, Doug Fertado +, writes (18 February 2009):
 Hmmm...I don't know I've heard about this...people with that kind of fantasy (like the one you explained) I believe are referred to as "cucklers". Anyways, I think I'm going to have to agree with gumbbo on this..just periodically bring it up and see how she reacts to just the thought of it (Ew! that's disgusting I would NEVER! or I don't know baby I might, maybe if you really wanted me too). That way you won't scare her or have to worry about what she thinks of you for even having that thought, or thinking that she would even go along with it. There are so many ways this could go that there is no way to be sure, so I would just ease into it. Like a what if....kinda thing. It's funny because my boyfriend and I were just talking about this. So don't feel alone or like something is wrong with you for thinking it, I've heard of it as I'm sure many other people have as well. Good luck, hope this helps. Please let me know what happens.
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reader, Jay Za +, writes (18 February 2009):
I am envious of you - in the sense that you can imagine your girl with another man and not be insanely jealous. I go nuts thinking about my girlfriend's past.
Anyhow, I would strongly recommend not having a 3some with your girlfriend and another guy. If things don't work out with you, I suspect this will be an experience she will be ashamed of. She will not be too eager to discuss it with a future lover. Additionally, I'd be concerned that while the thought might excite you, the actual act might ruin your relationship.
If the 2 of you get married, then maybe suggest it for a 5 or 10 year anniversary present.
Sorry to pour cold water on the idea, but I'd hate for this act to irreparably damage your relationship.
Best of Luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2009): You've obviously have a fantasy, but some girls can be quite disheartened by that. So tell her that you think that you want to enrich your relationship by having your fantasy become a reality. Then if she says she's upset just ask her if she has a fantasy, and if she says yes then say you'll help her with her fantasy. Have fun!!
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reader, gumbbo  +, writes (18 February 2009):
I've always been quite fascinated with men who have this fantasy. I couldn't bear the idea personally, but that me. This would be extra hard what with her not being a slut to begin with, why not start watching porn together, two men f****** one women, and start talking about it. "Would you ever do that?" just mention it. Then say things like "you know i'm not jealous at all, i trust you 100%, in fact even if i saw you with another man i wouldn't mind because what we have is more than just sex" See how she responds to that. The more you say things about it, the less it will become weird. Then after a while say "would ever have sex with me and another man?" Obviously this would have to come way down the line. I think the key is to just gradually bring the subject to the point where she isn't shocked by what you say, everytime give her a little time to digest the idea.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2009): my partner asked the same thing to be and brought it up while lied in bedtalking we both decided to give it ago but it turns out it was a wrong desition for us. if your gf doesnot really like the idea be carefull not to push otherwise you might push her away insted if she doesnt like the idea try roleplaying and pretend you are a different guy and that shes a different woman eg: pilot + airhostess or doctor + nurse and if that doesnt work try bringing up the idea of a vibrater good luck with it
hoped it helped
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reader, aunty_rach +, writes (18 February 2009):
take my advice keep it as a fantasy!
unless of course you no for sure she is the wild adventurours type. i however would be horrified if my bf asked me if i would sleep with someone else while he watches.
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