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writes:i have slept with this guy twice nearly two months ago now i cant stop thinking about him i really like him to the point where i think i love him,i havent told anyone this because i dont know what he will say about it but what can i do??? Please help!! Reply to this Question
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reader, natasia  +, writes (18 February 2009):
 What kind of contact have you had with him after sleeping with him? I think maybe if he felt the same way he would have pursued you and wanted to sleep with you more : (
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reader, gumbbo +, writes (18 February 2009):
Difficult one to call. Problem with just sleeping with a guy is we tend to put you in the "just sex" category. For me if i just sleep with a woman and nothing else, she could be a great person, but in my head she's done with unless she wants to have sex again. Don't hold your breath with this guy, if he hasn't shown any interest in you since he probably never will, unless he wants sex again of course. Lots of women do this, they sleep with a man, then start to have feelings for him. It happened to me a few times, once the woman said she wanted no strings attached sex then decided she was in love with me and called me up all the time for almost 6 months. Now i always bear this in mind when considering sleeping with a woman, it's sometimes just more hassle than it's worth.Try to forget about him and next time you meet a guy you like, play the game a bit better, men love the chase and we secretly like to think we worked hard to get a woman in bed, not because we are no good but because she isn't easy. A man will move mountains for a woman he desires. Mark.Ps. It's not love, it's just an infatuation. True love very different from sleeping with some guy and obsessing about him for months after.
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reader, Enya +, writes (18 February 2009):
 Hello, Well if you tell him you love then only one thing will happen...he will run and very fast....Slow down..You need to take stock of the situation...Are you really in love with him or in love with the idea of being with him??...Yes some people do fall in love at first sight, but it is usually a feeling on both sides..you dont say how long you have known him, or if he feels the same way..you need to give this time to develop more before you make a love announcement to him or you run the risk of loosing him completely..Enjoy being with him and allow things to happen naturally and when the time is right you will know, then and only then tell him you love him, and he may just say it back...All the bestEnya
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reader, gumbbo +, writes (18 February 2009):
Difficult one to call. Problem with just sleeping with a guy is we tend to put you in the "just sex" category. For me if i just sleep with a woman and nothing else, she could be a great person, but in my head she's done with unless she wants to have sex again. Don't hold your breath with this guy, if he hasn't shown any interest in you since he probably never will, unless he wants sex again of course. Lots of women do this, they sleep with a man, then start to have feelings for him. It happened to me a few times, once the woman said she wanted no strings attached sex then decided she was in love with me and called me up all the time for almost 6 months. Now i always bear this in mind when considering sleeping with a woman, it's sometimes just more hassle than it's worth.Mark.Ps. It's not love, it's just an infatuation. True love very different from sleeping with some guy and obsessing about him for months after.
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