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reader, Aussie girl  +, writes (10 January 2010):
 Wow!! I have just spent the last hour or so reading all your posts and first of all I have to say, you are a credit to your family and a credit to yourself. You not only made a huge decision at a young age but you followed through with it in a way alot of adults couldn't be able to do. You sound like you were just meant to be a mother, and I'm sure everyone on here is very proud of you.
It's fantastic you made a new friend along the way with Gina, and I think she gave you alot of great, supportive advice, she sounds like a great Mum herself.
I wish you and your babies all the happiness in the world.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni would never take advantage of my mother and father
sorry i havent been on for a while they are teething now it is truley a nightmair i will spend 2 hrs trying to get my lil girl to sleep and then she will just go to sleep and my baby boy wakes up i am run down and tierd because my mam is on holiday with my dad and i am on my own well i am not i just feel alone i have my boyfriend still.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2009): Wow.. lucky you. I got pregnant young too and i live alone adn have to pay for everything by myself and no one helps me.. people don't visit, but they always make me come out to see them which means packing everything up and driving over an hour. And then when i get there, they hold her while she's all cute and happy and then as soon as she's hungry or wet, they hand her over.
I wish i had a family like yours. Don't take advantage of them whatever you do and say thank you to your mom everyday. And take care of yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI know now i know why mam was rushing around i think i now know why my mam always used to say please dont be out to late because you dont want your children to leave your side they are truley your pride + joy.
I have noticed some phisical changes on my body after birth but i am loosing my baby weight quite quickley because you purley dont have time to eat so i am just snacking through out the day .. i have also lost my appitite i think i am to tierd to eat
anyway i wouldnt change it for the world
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reader, lm9hi  +, writes (11 October 2009):
 wow iv just sat n read all the coments,
just want to say well done, and i hope you and your babies all the happiness in the world. Im 17 and i dont think i could cope if i found out i was having twins, so really well done, most other girls would have ditched their responsibilities but you have been a true mum through all this.
good luck with the fucture
all my best wishes
lyndsay
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questiontime passes so fast nearly 1 month now x
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reader, greg290352 +, writes (3 October 2009):
 Well done! Delighted its going well. Such a massive change in a girls life but has so many rewards.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2009): Seriously bravo!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI do i love being with it still cannot belive i am a mum i think i am coping well but couldnt do it without my family x
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2009): well good for you sweetie, im 43 and i dont know if i would cope as well! Great job! hmm... i just reread my last post and i MEANT to say we will be sad if you DONT post :P so sorry!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni have spoke to my family and friends and asked them to ring before they come because i might have plans x
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2009): you are doing a great job here sweetie, and we will be sad if you post to us...About being tired of company...i mentioned before that i stayed with my daughter in law for a month. She and my son had asked if i would. She delivered with a midwife at home and one baby had to be fed by dropper for the first few days, and took a lot of care for the first mo. Also they had a 2 yr old. At the beginning, i was to stay longer. They live 7 hrs away so i couldnt pop back and forth. She started feeling the same way you do, just me being there all the time....finally i just asked her to tell me when it was time for me to go. She said, im frustrated because i still need you but im ready to have my life back. One day she said, ok, its gonna be hard but this is gonna be my life from now on...im ready to try it on my own. I hugged her, packed and left the next day. I wasnt offended at all. Maybe you could post some no visiting hours...or please try to visit between these times. Because it sounds like you are at that~ ok im ready to get in a rhythm because this is my life now.~ place. With twins you have to have some kind of schedule and try to get them on it and thats impossible with everyone popping in and out. Maybe your mum could speak to them, but it will slow down some on its own as the newness wears off. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthankyou gina + anonymous reader dont read the question if you are going to be harsh i like talking to gina and i think she likes talking to me to be honest is there a problem in that? i think not.
well yesterday i got a few bits in cluding two of them swings they fix on to the door but you can easily take them down. I have already got one of the mats and i have been looking in a place we have called mother care for a play pen they sound handy i want a twin-travel one though because our family owns a caravan for haven so when we go up there it gives me chance to get ready before you go out.
i love showing them off and everything but it is starting to get to me that everyones coming round everyday and i will just get them to sleep and about to have a lie down myself then someone will walk in and say hello and then they have woke them up i just want to get on with my life i understand there will be people but my friends+distant family will come at about 10am and leave at about 4pm and you cannot do much work when they on top off you and above all this i need to start packing and i know this may sound stupid but i dont have my energy back from the birth as i have never slept a full night. i know people will say its your fault and i would never never turn back the time i adore them both.
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reader, Confuzzled012  +, writes (25 September 2009):
 I got mine at Target for about 70 dollars... I don't know wht you have where you live.. but you can go to Target, Walmart, Babies R Us.. Basically any baby store or any supermarket store, that has clothes, automotives, food, home desgin. I'm sure your mom knows because she had to get baby stuff at some point too, 14 years ago.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2009): *tomy not playmobil
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2009): Do you really need us for that? , i mean you are using the internet now. Toys r us and playmobil will sell them and john lewis
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhey
where can you get them swings from and about how much the price does not matter though
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reader, Confuzzled012 +, writes (25 September 2009):
Well my daughter is the age that yours will be around christmas, just a little younger. THey still won't really know what you're getting for them at that age, I mean they won't remember or be able to hold it but i'll tell you what is colming in handy. She just moved up to 3-6 month onsies, she loveds loves her swing and it calms her down instantly. (it didn't used to do that), it's almost time for new nipples of her bottles, for the three month pour because they drin k faster.. and you may want to start getting them the playsets that they sit in and it has things attached that they look at and play with. She doesn't need it yet but she will soon. Make sure it doesn't roll though because I heard that that can get babies into trouble or danger.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionoh i loved it people came up to me and said how gorgeous they are and saying well done and to all thoose people that thought you would not do it ignore them you have them two god-sent angels. I was beaming with pride + joy.In the future i will make this up to my mother but they have got a bit of money but clearly less then before because my mum only works part time now as she is trainning to be a mid-wife she loved the experance so much. me and my mum are going to somewhere called the metro centre which is the biggest shopping centre around where i live to start x-mass shopping as i have the twins to buy for and my mum has three children and she said she still buying me (do u have santa where use live) because thats what i am going on about. so i have said if she buying me just get me a few things but buy me stuff for the twins. I dont have a clue what to get them but i want to make there first christmas special.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2009): You are very lucky to have your parents. They help you with your children, i'm amsuminig they help with money, and now they're buying what's proably a more expensive home for them to live in? I hope you thank them on a regular basis. I am really happy for you that they are so suppoertive though. That's great.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI had andrew in with my mum last night and fed maddison more and she did wake up but only twice once to get her nappy changed and once for no reason but she fell back asleep also when she cryed i picked her up dealt with her needs then put her straight down and ignored her she fell asleep so i am keeping andrew in there for till sunday and then i will have him back in to be honest i did not want them sleeping together yes i want them to be close but i want them to be able to be apart.we are moving house on the 17th of october so that when they are old anough in a cople of months they will have there own room and just there two cots will be in i think thats thoughtfull of my mum and dad to decided to leave the family home and move into another one.i am taking them to the shops today just me my boyfriend and the twins am quite nervous but we only going to have dinner.
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reader, Confuzzled012 +, writes (23 September 2009):
Wow. You guys are lucky! Everyone I knew handed her over right when she started getting fussy at night. No one has ever helped my wife take care of her at night. I'm not there, but I know that she sleeps straight through the night now, at only 3 months.
Try playing with them a lot during the day, keep them awake a little more, maybe they'll get more tired. Give her more in her bottle like Gina said..
You know I don't know that there is much you really can do.I hear most mothers say that their children wake up a ton at night and I think it's just something they have to grow out of with age.
Your mom mprobably wants to help you. YOu are still her little girl, and those babies are her grandchldren. If you turn down her help to many times, she may start to get her feelings hurt. I bet she wants to be a part of them and wants to make you happy. Pride is a good thing but not in excessive amounts and it seems are you too proud to accept. I can almost garauntee that she IS proud of you and not accepting her help to have one at night is not going to change that. It doesn't have to be forever, but just an adjustment period, like a few weeks. Or one night every week, or the weekend, or something.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthankyou so you think if i put andrews cot in with my mum and dad tonite it wont be showing that i love maddison more which is not the case i share my love? they are both asleep at the moment so i have made there bottels for tomorow and got there baby grows out for there baths i love watching them sleep
did you have your twins in seperate cots because i have mine in seperate but my mid wife today said they sometimes sleep better together also i asked her about raising the milk and she said thats fine
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2009): sweetie, i know that you want to prove that you can do this, but most new moms use help if it is available. I have twin granddaughters and i stayed with my son and daughter in law for a month! She kept them until 3 or 4 am and the i kept them from then until 8 or 9. Another new twin mom had her mother there for the first 3 months! Even new moms with only 1 new baby need help. Its a big job, and you are doing great. But...you will be a better mom if you are not so tired. It is not a sign that you are not a good mom to have help. Hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhttp://www.dearcupid.org/question/twins-at-13---this-site-helped.html
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i am tierd because all three of us are in one room and andrew + maddisons cots are at oppiset ends of the room one at the bottom of my bed and on at the top andrew will sleep fine until maddison wakes up and she does 4 times a night for about an hour each time she just does not sleep so of corse she wakes andrew up so when she crys i have to pick her up and move carry her down stairs have you got any tips on putting her to bed and making her stay asleep i have tried letting her cry but its inpossable to keep her asleep my mum said let andrew sleep in hers but i want them with me i want to show her i can do it without her help i want to make her proud.
I have started christmas shopping allready my first year been santa clause !
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI should be the ones thanking you i am going to write an article on this website about my jorney x
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (22 September 2009):
 Oh, I like those names! Those were the ones I thought sounded good--names that will serve them well through their lucky little lives.
Thank you, for letting us along for a tiny bit of this amazing journey you've been on, it is a real privilege to have been included.
You've got a lot of hard work ahead of you, and so many wonderful moments to look forward to!
Thanks again and well done, you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2009): congratulations! You will be fine, as you have been such a strong little gal all along. Im so proud of the way you have taken responsibility for these precious little ones. May God Bless and Keep you all!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMaddison ebony paige + andrew kia lewisthey are the best things in the world i am back at home and love been a mam getting up at night, bathing them, feeding, making bottles and loads more i havent took them for a walk yet though i am a bit nervus about that even though that sounds stupid i am going to take them just to the local shops on saterday our first outing as a family the twins my boyfriend and me xi am bursting with pride hope you like the names. they just suited them i did the backdoor test and talking to them with each name and me and my boyfriend love there names i am going to get there birth certificate signed and have offered there real dad to come but he reaplied he wouldnt be seen dead with them so in the future my boyfriend is gonna adopt them so he will legally be there dad x
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reader, CherryBoom  +, writes (18 September 2009):
Congrats! i would so love to see their faces ^^
i love babies ;))
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reader, greg290352 +, writes (15 September 2009):
Congratulations!!! You are going to be one very busy mum! You have a good selection of names there.
My daughter is pregnant now also.
Big totally life changing event having kids!
Good luck :-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2009): Actually.. Hayden kai.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2009): Harvey Graham and ebony grace.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (14 September 2009):
Congratulations to you and I'm bursting with happiness for you and your new family. How perfect, a boy and a girl and a lovely loving mum. You really are an amazing young lady and have a bright wonderful future ahead of you with your newborns.
I personally like Andrew Lewis and Maddison Paige best, but the names must suit the babies and you'll be able to figure it out. I bet you're already trying the various combinations out on them. Let's see what they think! ;)
So proud of you, well done and god bless.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 September 2009): Woo! Congratulations :).
I like these names the best:
ANDREW LEWIS + molly jane
but it's up to you. Good luck! Take care :).
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 September 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNOT PREGNANT NO MORE
my beatiful son and daughter came in to the world in the early hours of this morning (1.31 am ) the boy and (2.16am) the girl (they have not got names yet) my son was 6 pound 2 ilbs and my daughter was 5 pound 8 ilbs.
i went into labour at 3 on sunday morning so i was in labour for just under 24 hrs and it was long and hard but i would not change it i said i would just use gas + air but that lasted for three hrs and i decided to have an eperdural i cannot really remember much about the labour and i am really tired no but i have been asleep for 5 hrs i am sat on here and keep looking to my left at my son and my right for my daughter i cannot describe this feeling its overwelming i am amazed at how beatiful they look.
i have gone down to a few names
i will wright the boys name in capital letters and the girls in lowcase
MASON JAMES + ebony grace
ANDREW LEWIS + molly jane
KAI LEWIS + maddison paige
JORDAN LEWIS + kaytey marie (thats katie spelt kaytey)
HARVEY GRAHAM + graciey marie
HAYDEN JAMES + janey liegh
i like differant names what do you think sounds best try mixing the pairs up ? x
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question34 WEEKS 6 DAYS yeah they are I want to get mine christend at round about 5 months and I really want to turn my experiance into a book in the future and if this happens I will be mentioning you in this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni cannot wait any we have face mask as well haha !
well i am going to have a early night tonite so i am going to sleep after this
these friends that i am close to yeah there might only be 4 but they are like having a million to me
did u get your twins christaned if so how old were they ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question34 WEEKS 5DAYSi am home and just relaxing with some girly films and a few name books which i have flicked through about a million times and on name websites my girls are coming over tomorow for a get together just to talk eat chocolate get a take away a watch the tv ... should be fun.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question34 WEEKS AND 4 DAYSthats what my mam keeps saying you will know the names when you see them i really cannot waitthe doctors said i can go home tomorow if i dont go into labor as it will be the best as long as i take it easy my boyfriend is so sweet he said to me before that means you sit down and i have to give you anything i told him to go home to sleep tonite he said he did not want to but in a way i wanted some time alone and to have a good night sleep because i am phisicaly tierd and cannot be bothered to talk to anyone but he understands its just good to have someone there other then your family to hold your hand and give you a hug just to tell you its okay i think he is the one you know but at the end of the day i will have to see what he is like with the kids before anything he has told me he doesnt want to have sex with me until we are setteled down in the future and to be honest i am not going to have sex for a while its good to know he is not in it for that i have told him to not mess me about once the kids are here because i do not want them getting confuesed there is one thing i would like to ask seen as though the really dad is far out the picture should a call the partner i am with now dad ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2009): Hey,
I'm only 15, and haven't read the full thread, but you sound pretty mature to be dealing with all this at your age!
Good luck with the twins... do continue to post here if you need anything. ^^
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhey and thankyou both i am at that stage now when i want them out i want to meet them the nursery is sorted everythings ready for them and i have car seats wating on the tabel infrount of me that needs filling !i was wondering that after i had the baby will you still be here for help?i have not even set on names my mum said it will come to me when i am holding them.i thought i would let you know i have met a 16 year old boy that is even sat here in the hospital with me and has not left my side apart from to go home and get showerd he i do love him but he knows the twins come first and he wants to stand in as a farther figer. everything is perfect and i cannot wait to meet my girl and boy .x
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question34 WEEKS 2 DAYS
well i am in hostpital now but i am alowd my laptop thank god and the doctors said it was a false alarm but they said it will be anyday now :) i cannot wait i am in a bit of pain now and cannot get comftable but i will keep in touch on here because its my only ascape because i hate hospitals lol
anyway please write back x
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (3 September 2009):
Sweetie, I don't know, and it would be best if you had a proper medical exam! Here's a tool that can help you. Be sure to tell your mum and ring your doctor to see if you need to go to A and E.
There's a useful number here on this link: http://www.nhs.uk/NHSDirect/Pages/nhsdlanding.aspx
Take good care of you and the babies.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question34 WEEKS can i go in labour this early with twins and them be healthy i am pasing around my room i cannot get comftable am i in labour theres a sharp pain below like someone is stabbing me help
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question31 WEEKS AND 6 DAYS
yeah a ment gina sorry trisha though you have been a help
erm every things just one mad rush i have a new realise of energy but my hormones are all over the place
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (13 August 2009):
Good for you! Getting a job and getting ready for the babies, you are just a little gem, you are! As to your very sweet comment about "Trisha", I'm quite sure you meant to say "Gina" as she has been a true support and friend to you! I say kudos to you both!!!
I think you should be very proud of yourself as to how you've handled things and are going to manage as well as anyone could ever expect! Good job.
Hugs.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question30 WEEKS 5 DAYS
talking helps you might want to read the convo i am not getting rid i am nearly 31 weeks pregnant with my twins and am overjoyed with them i would never go back and yeah i maby young but age does not prove nothing and geuss what i went and got myself a job yeah it might only be min.wage but at least i am trying i have never been hapier
and you can see trisha is the only one that has helped me she never told me to get rid and yeah u might think am having ago but am a tad hormonal today.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2009): You live in the U.k, which means you can go to a gp, order an appointment for the hospital go to the pregnancy part and talk about abortions, since it was a drunken mistake and you're so young, IF YOU choose to have an abortion, then it shouldn't cost you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni will they are my life i just cannot wait to see them :) they are the most important things in my life even before they are born i read on here another story about a teen having twins i hope i dont get postnatle depression
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question29 WEEKS AND 4 DAYS
i know i read through them i think i have grown up a hell of a lot personaly and i have even prayed for gods help through the future as i know it is gonna be hard
i am so greatful to have had some one like you to talk to and i have read through some other advice of yours i think your quite possibly the best agony ante on here
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question29 WEEKS 4 DAYS
i realy like alecia and aaron they are really nice names but i also like maddison and jordan .... kai is prononced
kaye like that and mai is prononced may i have gone of evie mai a bit though
a thanks for the good luck fiveteen
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reader, Fifteen +, writes (25 July 2009):
hey i'm your age, and i just read your conversation below. just wanted to say congradulations! and i really like the names you marked as your favorites(:
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (25 July 2009):
Sounds like you're really coming along nicely! Well done.
Okay, names. I have a question. How do you pronounce Evie-Mai? Is that Ee vee may or ee vee my?
Same with Kai-Lewis. Is that Keye or Kay (rhyming with eye or aye)?
Do you see why I'm asking?
If it's May spelled Mai and Keye spelled Kai, the ay vs eye sounds will confuse people.
I like Paige, Maddison too, Jason, Mason, good, Aron reminds me of Elvis's middle name. The double names remind me of names from the American South. Like Billy Bob and Shirley Mae. Kind of interesting!
Do the backyard shout test: stand in the back door and scream the names you've chosen. Which one sounds funny when it's yelled at the top of the lungs, "Evie-Mai you get your little behind in here right this minute!!!" You get the idea. Sometimes that will tell you which name doesn't work. Also, try to figure out any possible nicknames other children might come up with later, with the rhyming and puns. Like "Aron-baron" or "Mase" for Mason. Play with the names again that way.
Have fun and keep well!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question28 WEEKS
i feel like i am going to pop ! i love been pregnant and i cannot wait to see my two darlings
names help
girls - PAIGE .... MADDISON .... EVIE-MAI .... ANY OTHERS?
boys - KAI-LEWIS .... MASON-JAY .... ARON .... JORDAN ANY OTHERS?
please vote on my names and give me some off your names ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question19 WEEKS 1 DAY
yes thats what everyone has been saying you will have names in your head and then see them and name them somthing completly differant
i am trying to think what i need i just carnt think.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question18 WEEKS 5 DAYS
i realy want to see them both now, its unbelivable how much i want to. i have just about got everything sorted for them both now its just names ANY IDEAS one boy one girl heres my ideas
GIRL
maddison
evie-mai(my fave so far)
sarah
brogan
abbie
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james
kerian
kenzie
ben
kai-lewis (my fave so far)
joe
any ideas i like names that arnt to commen but arnt dead strange and i want both off thouse names to sound good together if you no what i mean.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question18 WEEKS AND 2 DAYS
hey yea anoo i am realy getting uncomftable now and again i am finishing school on friday which is whitweek and i am going to get home schooled so no i am not quiting just getting realy tierd and think i will be more comftable working in my own home i will carry on been home schooled after 2 months off after the birth of them both it will be hard but my boy friend is moving in and he is also getting home schooled so we can both swap over and take care off the baby every cople of hours while the other one gets home schooled.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question17 WEEKS AND 4 DAYS
i am starting to panik about the birth i feel realy funny tonite i carnt get comftable my belly is realy herting am going to try and go in the bath to get comfy x nite x
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionto the anonymous reader
you need to read the full conversation i have told my mama and i am expecting twins incredable i know
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2009): you need to tell your mom. you will be suprised at how supportive moms can be. When i fell pregnant at the age of just 15, i totally freaked out! my mom, like your mom had high expectations of me. she wanted me to be a doctor or lawyer. she wanted me to succeed in life so badly, as i had a younger sister who was born with down syndrome. when i told her she cried. she avoided me for a few days. she was angry. but at the end of the day, i am her daughter and she came around. and supported my decision to have this child. and now i have the most beauiful little girl! i wish you all the best with your baby.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question15 WEEKS 4 DAYS
i am tierd all the time ... i am going to buy bits and bobs for the room today with my best friend and her son jayden xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionokaii i went bak todaii will write backk later off shopping
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question14 WEEKS 6 DAYS
to be honest am off again and a realy am getting tierd of school do you think its to early to stop been 11 weeks off the summer holidays ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyou didnot offend me gina i was talking to the other person sorry am realy moody today ignor me anoo use are only triying to help i will take all these things into accont x
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reader, wonderingcat +, writes (21 April 2009):
 Yes, of course. I understand. It does not have to be now, and it does not have to have your name on it (or you can use a pseudoname). There are legal and psychological issues that have to be considered of course. That is why I mentioned turning your journal to a "professional" so it can be polished up as deemed necessary. You still have the full copy right of course.So keep your journal entries intact for now. But I still strongly believe that your writing is a gem! And later in life, when you have gotten your university degree, you can be a good educator for teens.A book on teen pregnancies does not mean that it has to be either pro-life or pro-choice. A good book would simply describe here are the difficulties as well as the happiness as a result of the consequences [of the choices] you made. So it would be neutral as much as one can be neutral in any situation.Please don't let people who look down on their noses and condescending toward you weigh you down. You don't need their negative energy, so keep away from them as much as you possibly can, or just smile inside your heart so the babies feel your positive energy. You need positive energy as much as your babies do. Life can be tough sometimes, and we adults sometimes go through tough times as much as young teens do. Just different issues, and different proportions.Right now, if you have Mozart, Beethoven, Bach, etc (classical music), you can play it so your babies can hear them. Apparently, unborn babies react positively toward their music. Prenatal studies have proven that unborn babies' brain cells react positively (calming, more stable hearbeat, etc) while in their mother's womb! You can put your ipod's earphones on your belly. Try that! It's good for both mother and babies :-)Cat
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhi to be honest i not sure if i want to be publicide by this i am a mam to be and gonna consentrate on that sorry but maby in the future after i have finished schooling.i dont want the press involved because everyone will just look down there noses at me sorry x
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reader, wonderingcat +, writes (21 April 2009):
Sorry that I have only come in your posting recently.
May I suggest that you keep a diary (print and/or electronic) on your experience, and later turn them over to be professionally published? Or be professionally edited, and published for free on the internet? I think it would be very useful for other teens to read what you have gone through, and learn from it. It will be very educational I'm sure. Hopefully, the message that you will be putting out there would be "think many times before you do this at such an early age"
Hope you and your baby are keeping well and healthy. Twins are so lovely! My mother is one, and her twin sister has the most beautiful twin 2 yo girls.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question14 weeks 5 days
i am due on the 26th of october but they said it will probably be sooner since i am quite big already i think i am going to stop at school till i realy am tired i am off today because i realy could not get the energy to go and my legs are feeling quite saw. i am looking through some baby names and then going shopping for clothes and wardrobe
i was also wanting to know what is the legal age to buy a house or rent a flat because to be honest because they have to share my room and to be honest it was okay with one but two realy is gonna be a struggle.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhey
thankyou for the site will have a look in a minute
yes ano it is great to have a mum near me for surport and for girls that have got pregnant like me tell your mam they are a good help.
Is it true that your more likley that your due date will be early
yes i am shatterd and i am back to school on monday and to be honest i can not be bothered.
write to you later
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question14 WEEKS AND 2 DAYS tell me about it i have gone today and took back my pram for a double one and i have my head held high and to be honest my younger sister is over the moon ... you feel special dont you when you find out it is a feeling you've never felt that way before my boyfriends mam and dad look at me even more in descrase as if it is my fault and to be honest am not that bothered because i have never realy got on with them so i dont let people like that get me down they are time wasters.i have been to see my friends baby jayden today and it made me so happy to no i wouldn't just be having one little star i would have two and she let me know that she was always there for me and that is good to know because shes been there but shes 15, ohh i almoust forgot i am 15 one Monday my mams buying there cots for it i love her so much xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question14 WEEKS 1 DAYS
OH MY ITS TWINS..a boy and a girl
i had a heart attak well not a real one haha...i think me mam was more shoked then me and my boy friend they both started crying a was just speachless but now we just carring on like you have to but deep down i feel like running to my mam and bersting out in tears but i am a strong person and i think i have become a stronger person since i have found out i was pregnant...i am so lucky and blessed to have one of each a girl and a boy people try years to get one of each the names a adore at the moment are for a girl evie-mai or maddison and for a boy
mason-james or kai-james wah you think
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question13 WEEKS 5 DAYSI have felt ill all week and haven't been out of bed and all i have ate is 4 slices of toast all for the past five days not good and when you have a little one inside of you am going to doctors after tea for a scan because i have to go to have another scan cause they said they could hear two heart beats but last time one could have been hiding behind the other if i found out am having twins i think i would probably cry but there again i think i have a strong family and should survive can i just wish my friend well who has just given birth to a gawjuss little boy 'jayden brooke carson' today all the best katie x
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question11 WEEKS AND 5 DAYS
hiyahh
yes i know it is great that i have found some one to talk to and found to my use and not judged me like some people. Nothings realy changed all still well, have a baby shower planed for two months away me and a few friend not for preasants though i have said not alowed, just think it will be fun to get together with my mates before the baby.
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reader, lipgloss +, writes (25 March 2009):
wow! ive just red this convosation between the two of you and Gina seems to be helping you alot.
its nice that yuo have found someone on here that you can actually talk to and actually stays in touch too.
Its goood that your trying to get your self prepared for this baby coming. i think you should be proud of your self.
you sound quite grown up for being 14.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question10 WEEKS 5 DAYS well today i went to a teen mum thing on the nhs hospital and we had to discuss how we want to give birth such as water/home/hospital i am having it at hospital with me been so young there are high risks for the babys, and i dont want to go through them risks. Also we had to practice holdind the baby and feeding a baby and in two weeks time when i go again we are able to talk to other teen mams who have given birth and how to handle the pain. I am so proud off my self because i was going off the rails a bit before i found out i was pregnant but now i have got my head down i have got a friend who is 15 and was 3 months gone and has just lost her baby and has to give birth to a basically dead baby and has not been to school for a week understandable though you cant really describe the pain she must be going through but the doctor said that miscarriage are commen in women especially teen mams to be and are an awful thing to go through that carnt be helped i have a little mooses basket it is yellow and white and looks gawjuss!! I am still eating my icecream and picelss and have been told to watch out for people who use you to see the baby by my best mates mam ... i have grown up quite a lot and am a waitress not much but at least i am trying on a weekend and wednesday night ... my breasts are quite saw and have grown qite a bit i am not complaining about this though i have gone from a D to a E and can just about fit into my trakys but are uncomtable so i am going shopping on sat for some new clothes and underwear also a protecter sheet for my matress coz i have found i carnt quite make it from my bed in time imbarison i know happend to my mam though i am having a movie night in lots of love for nowmum to be .x
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question9 WEEKS AND 5 DAYS
havent been on in a while been busy you know sorting things out also my second scan it was magical because you can finaly see the baby forming also my bump is getting bigger now its also strange you carnt describe the fellings you have .. it is a great experiance but i am scared for the pain that is to come the morning sickness has worn off (a bit) and i have noticed slite cramps in my stomak but nothing to be worried about as i am saying though it is great but wouldnt advice it because you get judged you wonder what your life would be like without been a mam and also what your mother and father think of you but the thing i have to accept and i am fine with it is i am going to be a mam and i will prove all them people wrong who say i am hopeless and what sort off a life for a baby but i am going to be a good baby and do the best i can for it and i probley will put my footdown a bit more when its older because i dont want it falling in the path i have .. i am proud that i am gonna be a teen mum and over joyed and dont care what anyone thinks i have the made chocies and this one is right for me i will go back to school because my nan said she will pay for child care ive lost friends but i have a big supporting family around me and they all carnt wait to see the new addion to the family , i know deep down they are upset,diserpointed but i will make them proud of me.
thankyou bye for now
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question8 WEEKS 5 DAYS
Yeaa i know, you have been the most helpful one of them all the person below and i love you for that i have a lot of growing up to do and have started to do this also i went shopping the other day and got the pram and carseat i realy attached to them
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question8 weeks and 2 days. Ever since you've said that I have had cravings for pickles, I can't get enough of them... getting bigger.From mum to be
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question7 WEEKS AND THREE DAYS!!!!Getting a bit of a bump now its flying over nearly 2 months ee its all exciting but scary...my mam went into the school..its settled down a bit now thank god but you still get the odd bitch which you expect i just let it fly over my head mam said thats the way to do it..also the cravings have kicked in (I THINK) with me never been pregnant before i dont no but mam says i have i am addicted to fizzy cola laces and strawberry ice-cream i love them went for me first scan the other day ... i was nervouse you couldnt really see nothing but the experiance was magical and will cherish it forever..i am going for a natural birth with no drugs and go to mother and baby classes on the nhs for younger mums must say i'm the youngest there although this sounds like fun i would not rekermend it is a lot of stress and you get realy tierd also i have lost a few friends. love mother-to-be !!!p.s. I'M STILL IN SHOCK ITS GONNA BE MINE!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthankyou
but i'm having second thoughts i'm finding it hard to cope with the names i'm getting taunted by and ive been spat at by people in my school ... also i heard my dad and mam talking about it when i went to the shop and just came in but dad said to mam that 'do you realy want her to go through with this' and my mam said 'no, but i love her and will surport her through everything then i walked in .... i dont want to disapoint her
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhiyyyahhh
me again i have already piked out some names thats how excited i am... what name do you all prefer for a boy i chose ...mason james ... jayden ellis ... for a girl i have choose ... maddison ... evie-mai ... do you like them what do you think ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni have told my mum and my boyfriend , my bf wants the baby my mam said that she will support me. so i am going to keep it as life is too pretious and it was my fault. will keep you informed.6 weeks gone, and really cant wait....and to the person who told me to eat dry toast it really did help thank you.I still attend school, and will till i'm 7 mnths...and will go back i dont yet no when though...now i have a gorgeous baby girl/boy on the way will tell you what it is when find out.at the moment i have to go to the doctors every 2 weeks because i'm young i could lose it she said up to 16 weeks is my main risk area. so i'm keeping it beetween my mum and the bf....will keep you informed and post pics....[Mopderator's note: We advise you not to post any pictures for your security - to protect your identity and your family's. It is part of the site's policy. Thank you.]
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (21 February 2009):
I see you're posting; I'm curious as to what you have done? Have you told anyone? The longer you put it off, the more difficult it will become. I'm sure the people around you know that something is wrong. Why not go ahead and start to get the support you know you're going to need to face what's ahead?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyess because i thought you had to be over 18 to go on the site
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2009): Am I the only one that's noticed that you put yourself as 18-21 but say you're 14? Probably nothing.
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reader, CeeCeeBaby +, writes (20 February 2009):
 well hun i got pregnant at 16. a young age the way i told my mom was askin to get put on birthcontrol. sounds dumb but at the time i rather her find out from someone else cause all children or young adults how ever you look at think there parents are going to freek out and that is mostly the case my mom ended up kicking me out. i had no where to go and had to live with a friend now my son is one year old i have my own and i provid for him as a single mother it can be done you jus have to want to do it thats all best of luck. and abortions are running from somethin you created.. thats my opinion but that is up to you
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2009): this might sound harsh but i would suggest u tell ur mom and ask for an abortion. u can still abort up to 3 months of the pregnancy. u r seriously too young to take care of a baby, even if u might get support.
the fetus u are carrying hasn't really developed well. it is still a cloth of blood. so consider aborting.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2009): Hi I totally agree with what the anonymous readers said. We cannot sympathise and say we are sorry as what you did is wrong. Not only you are too young to drink but too young to have sex, your body is still growing, you are not yet a complete woman. You were drunk but you were able to have sex. I think you will have no choice than to tell your mother the truth. She will be upset.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthankyou all so far keep them coming please
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (20 February 2009):
Oh dear, this is not an easy situation to be in, is it? You know that you will have to tell your mother at some point, and waiting will only give you more days of worry. I think you need to be very brave, and tell her.
And I did want to clear something up, there is a pill that can be prescribed to induce a medical abortion (as opposed to a surgical abortion). It requires a doctor's supervision and the patient must be carefully monitored. It is the RU-486 or Mifeprex pill.
There is actually an abortion pill, but it works best up to 9 weeks gestation. RU-486 (Mifeprex is the brand name).
http://women.webmd.com/mifepristone-and-misoprostol-for-abortion
I'm not suggesting that you do this, poster, I'm trying to provide accurate information.
You can call on the resources that exist for children in the UK:
Call ChildLine on 0800 1111.
www.childline.org.uk
The NHS also runs a website and has a phone number you can call for confidential assistance.
http://www.nhsdirect.nhs.uk/
0845 4647
So I hope you can tell your mother, perhaps another relative that you feel you can confide in, your teacher or counselor at the school, or one of these organizations so that you get the support and assistance that you do need.
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (20 February 2009):
 first of all you don't have to have the baby - you can get an abortion up to 3 months in - in fact a friend of mine was told she HAD to wait 3 months before she got the abortion. however - i think you should tell your mum either way. if you keep the baby the reason is obvious.
if you decide to get an abortion, its something that no one should do without the love and support of their mother, as it can be difficult for some time after and you need someone older to support you. you say it was a drunken mistake - wat are you doing even getting into that situation at 14? no matter how drunk i've been i've always had my wits about me and would never have "accidentally" had sex. i think that you should definitely consider not having this child as you obviously are nowhere near mature enough to handle becoming a mother.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2009): Sorry, I was very incensed by those posts that I didn't answer your question.
But Gina, Martini and Anon32 have already said it all, great advice you should listen to.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2009): Both gumbo and anonymous reader are completely wrong and haven't got a clue what they're talking about.
First off your GP is obliged to tell your parents everything because you're under 16, as for 3 month abortion pill sounds like an old wives tale to me.
Anonymous reader's comment is retarded, completely patronizing and unhelpful. She didn't ask for your opinion on her mistake, this is an advice site you preachy, sanctimonious prick! She has enough to deal with, without your idiotic hurtful shit!!!
Anyone who has had an abortion will tell you that it is not as easy as anonymous reader describes, it's not a quick solution and it is something you will have to consider carefully.
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reader, greg290352 +, writes (20 February 2009):
These things happen. You need to get to a family planning clinic who will be totally confidential. Then ask for help. The three month Pill is the obvious way to go. You also need to go on the BC Pill to prevent the same thing happening again.
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reader, gumbbo +, writes (20 February 2009):
There is the 3 month abortion pill that you can take, it is a pill go and ask at your local hospital or GP, they will not tell anyone. It is a fetus yet nothing has developed significantly.
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reader, Anon32 +, writes (20 February 2009):
The advice above is good. You are so very young, you need your mother.If you are only 1 month gone, you still have the option to terminate the pregnancy. You need to seek professional advice as soon as possible. The longer you leave it, the fewer options you will have available to you.Tell your mother and see a doctor.I wish you all the luck in the world.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank youx
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2009): Unfortunately, you have to tell your mom. If it makes you feel a bit better, try going to your school counselor first OR a trusted relative to help you talk with your mom. I mean, what else can you do? Just be responsible, regardless of how scared you are.
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