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*andie
writes:Hi readers! I just need help on this situation right here: My boyfriend and i are in a long distance relationship, i'm very much in love with him and he's in love with me... Well atleast he tells me that everytime we talk. Now he's been currently busy with work so much that he has very little or no time at all for us. One and sometimes three days would pass without hearing from him and i would make every effort to keep things going. I text him everyday or leave messages in his face book inbox, i also call to hear his voice sometimes. Even though i'm also busy with my studies. I once called during the day when he was resting and he told me he's sleeping and that he'd call when he wakes up, he did not and when i asked him why he never returned like he promised he said he'd forgotten (i was totally SHOCKED to hear that part) then he tried to explain just how much he loves me and stressed the fact that he get too busy. So last night we were both chatting when he suddenly said he wanted to take a bath... I logged off and logged in on another chat site which i never thought he had signed up in. I could tell it was him from the way he replied and the information he revealed.My concern is why would he tell me he's going to bath when he didn't truly go for it and why has our chats suddenly turned from very exciting experiences that i look forward to to something that seems a boring routine on his side... Its more like he forgets about me, especially when he's away!
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reader, Candie +, writes (20 February 2009):
Candie is verified as being by the original poster of the questionGuys, thanks for your replies. Its very much appreciated... I have started today to try and do as you have all advised though i should admit, it is very hard to do that to him. Having to pretend that i don't care about him is the first and hardest thing i have to do and its just the beginning. But i believe it will make him open his eyes. Thank you so much guys!
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reader, aman  +, writes (19 February 2009):
As others have said,Try doing what he does to you. Let HIM be the one to call/text you. Be hard to get a hold of for a few days. If he starts calling you more, trying to bridge the gap, then he cares about you. If you don't hear from him, or he doesn't try very much to contact you, then maybe it's time to have a talk with him about how he really feels about you and where the both of you see your relationship going.
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reader, gumbbo  +, writes (19 February 2009):
Honestly. And i'm talking from experience. Me and my ex would just run out of things to talk about and it became annoying, just saying things for the sake of it. We were long distance for a year. I'd leave it until he calls you, in fact, let him be the one to call for a little while. When he doesn't hear from you he'll soon start wondering whats up, then play him at his own game, say you had loads of work on or you were with friends. He'll think about you a lot more if he thinks yous out having fun instead of sitting home dreaming about him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2009): Could you have taken the thought to realise that to much communication is becoming to much for him, and it could be depressing him because he cant be there with you? So thats why he shy's away or acts distant? I am in a LDR and i did the exact same things your b/f did, and my SO had the very thoughts that you are having, i had to explain to her that it was becoming to much for me having so much contact because it made me miss her to much that it physically hurts! I suggested we cool down and talk every now and then, so far so good! LDR's are hard because all we have are there voice/txt's and not being with them physically. Talk to him about how you are feeling and you might get the same explanation, in fact i guarantee it! COMMUNICATION IS THE UTMOST IMPORTANT TO KEEP A LDR ALIVE AND KICKING!
REGARDS
MIKE
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