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writes: PLEASE HELP....I am lost. I am a 23 yr old bi female, my aunt (55 yo) just came out to me as a lesbian. We are from a very religious family, and I am the only one in the world that she has told. To make things more complicated, she has NEVER had a serious relationship, maybe dated 2 men in her entire life for very short periods. She is in love with a woman (which prompted her to finally come out) and this woman has rejected her. Because of her lack of experience, she is basically 16 yrs old dealing with her first broken heart. Even though I'm 1/2 her age, I have 10X as much experience in relationships as she does. I am trying to support her the best I can, but I don't think I'm making her feel a whole lot better. It's so much to deal with and I'm all she has. Any suggestions to help her through all of this? THANKS!!
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reader, guardian87  +, writes (25 August 2006):
 man, things like these are never easy, especially coming out to ur family. Saying to my parents that i was bi (i really am, so i can understand wut ur aunt is goin through) wasnt easy, and they still chose not to accept that part of me.
One thing that you could do is to try to help her find another woman in her life. Try to encourage her to meet other women, like at a gay bar.
But the most important thing you can do is be there for her and try to give her some wisdom words (seeing as you have been through this heartbreak thing b4). Sometimes things need to get worse for them to feel better, and this may be one of those cases.
This is a huuuge burdon to carry for just one person, so maybe telling someone else for support help would be neccessary, but only if she would be comfortable to agree with this.
I hope everything turns out well for you two!!!
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