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writes: I know im young and naive(16),,,but I felt my girlfriend was the love of my life,,,but she completly ignored me all of the time! I feel as though i need her,,,and as though she needs me,,,but dont know what to do about it??!! She wont even speak to me! But friends have told me that she wants to get back with me,,,but is scared??!!! aaaagggrrrhhh!
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reader, AJC +, writes (11 November 2006):
Hey man, ive been there..and i proudly say that i survived it! Look, its hard to face the truth, sometimes we are scared of it, or sometimes we don't want to admit it...Im not saying that's impossible to get back together..but its not going to be easy, for some reason the girl broke up with you or you with her, and its real hard to show that girl that knows you, that you have changed and have solved that issue. As the saying goes "what doesn;t kill you, makes you stronger" and i my friend am a living example, i cried, a crawlled, i begged for more than 1 year to try and get with my ex, and while i was down, she had a boyfriend...it was hard times, i didn;t see a way out of the pain, but time cures the wounds..the point is, that if by any chance you won't be able to get back with your ex, take it like a man, and walk away.Stop talking to her, stop seeing her if possible, for more than a year...during that time try your best to change for the best, both mentally and physically, so when you meet her again, she can see the new and improved you..and that way she might think that "hey maybe he has changed"Best of luck, and hope everything turns out ok, but remember if it doesn't turned out like you planned, remember that other people have surpase that stage, so you can do it too..its easy to say but not impossible to do ;)
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reader, guardian87  +, writes (9 November 2006):
 dont worry about it. just chill for a sec.
think about it: how close r ur friends to her??? im guessing not very, so dont take their words for granted.
Try talking to her more often if u have to. Obviously ur feelings arnt going to let you give up, so grabbing her attention is of course going to be ur initial move.
However, if she tells u she doesnt want to be around u n e more (if u two ever talk alone), then i say just accept that and try to move on. Trust me, waiting around months on end for a girl is a huge pain in the ass. I know it sounds cruel and unromantic, but ive been through this b4. Even today, I have been waiting for 7 months for my ex to even talk to me as friends, and yet she still talks about me in a negative way and lieing to my face.
If u do grab her attention, good for u, and i hope everything works out for u.
-guardian87
PS: u r not niave to fall in love that young. i can tell u that knowing im the same age and am in deep love :-D
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