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writes: I have just met the man of my dreams, but i dont know whether i should tell him i am a virgin at 38 as he might think i am some sort of weirdo or something or will he work it out for himself, also as he is thin i am over weight he has not mentioned it to me but this is also putting me off having sex with him in case he does not realize i am so fat. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2008): i am too a virgin at the age of 33 wow i thought i was the only 1 left
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2007): One minute you say hes the guy of your dreams , the next minute you say hes gonna go baistic when he finds out your NOT a virgin. I think that hes probably already figured out what size you are by now. I think you need to relax a bit more. Me and all my friends insisted on virgins for our wives so if it bothers him that you are still a virgin , I think hes the one thats a weirdo
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reader, Ms. Tanya +, writes (5 September 2006):
 If you love and trust him enough for you to give him your ultimate gift, you should love and trust him enough to tell him your giving him your ultimate gift. If he asks why you've never had sex before tell him you never found the right guy. He'll know your the sweetest lil' thang around. Never put yourself down. Your a gorgeous sensitive smart young lady, and he loves you!
All the best dearie!
~Ms. Tanya
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2006): u could, but that would be acward dont u think?, his gonna fin d out on bed anyways...
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reader, let me help! +, writes (26 August 2006):
Get to know him first. You are not a weirdo, and being overweight shoulnt matter to him if he hasnt mentioned it. When you both are ready to take the relationship to the next level, explain to him calmly that you are a virgin and take it one step at a time. I have seen lots of adaults are virgins, but it does not get in the way of their future. If you want to lose weight, start a new diet and exercise regrime and join a gym. xXx paula (go 4 it!!)
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reader, bonym  +, writes (26 August 2006):
 If he loves you then he will not think you are a weirdo at all because there is nothing weird about you at all. Dont put yourself down my dear, you have met someone special, let your moment be special. xXx
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reader, Helen1986 +, writes (25 August 2006):
 I think that you should tell him when you feel comfortable enough. Being a virgin is nothing to be ashamed of. Infact I think he will love the fact that nobody has touched you before and I think it will be special. Don't worry about being overweight because it obviously doesn't bother him because if it did he wouldn't be dating you. If at any point you do feel that you want to sleep with this guy explain that you are worried and don't know what to do, I am sure that he will guide you gently. I am sure that your first time will be special and I hope it is. Good luck
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reader, layla +, writes (24 August 2006):
 hi, i think that you should stop putting yourself down too much. If he thinks your fat or overweight then he wouldnt be with you. And yes, i think that you should tell him the truth that you havent had sex and start your relationship honestly.
My friend classed herself as a fat overweight girl. But it turns out that every where she goes she gets chatted up and asked out on a date. Now shes stoped putting herself down and settled down with the man of her dreams.
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reader, Astrid  +, writes (24 August 2006):
 I would recommend you to wait a bit to study his behavour and decide if you would like to have sex with him or not, I told my first boyfriend about it and he seemed o idiot to me as he told me his friends-just met- thought it was weird, I broke up with him, other men just take for granted you're not and ask you for sex after a couple of dates, it's not a good idea to say yes unless you want to have a go just to try..., I think a proper guy should let things happen, be patient and listen to you when you tell, otherwise he is not worthtrying, remember it would be really easy for you to have a one night stand so... good luck and please do not hurry up
love
astrid
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reader, lucyloo135 +, writes (24 August 2006):
 hi hun ok if you are looking for this to lead into a serious relationship then yes you should tell him be honest and hopefully he will accept you for who you are woouldnt you rather him love you for the way you are and if hes a decent man he will accept the way you are and be able to boost your confidence in the bedroom department good look xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2006): If you have just met this man, then it is not necessary to tell him you are a 'virgin'. Why don't you date him, get to know him slowly and then if it comes up for discussion , at some time down the road, tell him. . Don't rush into a sexual relationship..respect yourself and hold off. For so many woman, sex drives the heart and you want to proceed with caution. Right now, you want to use your head and discern that he has good character, is a kind man that respects you and that he really is the 'one' for you. This is your first step. As for you being a bigger girl, I am sure he has noticed it and if it isn't bothering him..do not to worry about it. For some men, size doesn't mean anything. Remember, confidence and a glowing personality is very sexy to men, so just be yourself, have a blast and enjoy, Good luck and take care, dear
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reader, guardian87  +, writes (24 August 2006):
 Well, maybe after a while of dating him you should tell him, or atleast untill he asks. I am no expert on this, but coming out too fast or too strong can sometimes scare a person off...not that this fact is too strong anyway. But you get my point. Feel more comfortable around him first and let him feel more comfortable with you. then you can tell him how ur a virgin.
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