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writes:Is it possible to love somebody TOO much?I am engaged to a girl, she has made me the happiest I have ever been in my life. When we are together, I am in heaven, but when we are apart, I am like a lost puppy.When she is not around, I become moody and always upset and wishing I was with her. This is not good because there are times when I might not see her for a month.I did not think somebody could ever love anybody this much.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI hope so. We are already talking about living together and the future. We have only known eachother for a little less than a year though so we are trying to take it slow. Its just the fact we are so in love, we just wish it would all happen for us yesterday.
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reader, snowbird  +, writes (6 September 2006):
 This is so romantic! I feel your pain, and do hope you can very soon get together on a permanent basis - like the old saying goes - "Love will find a way"..you really need to look after yourselves though!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you very much, you have given me fresh hope.
We both are missing each other like crazy and its only been 4 days since we were together. It is her birthday tomorrow and we cant be together for it. I just wanna hold her in my arms and never let go. At least I can hold her in my heart forever.
She is not eating, not sleeping and is constantly feeling sick and down. I am not sleeping properly, just started eating and am constantly depressed. I think we NEED each other.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2006): I had a long distance relationship for a year in different contries. We never saw eachother more than a few days at a time and only once a month. The worst was 2months! Sheer torture. Everyone said we were mad staying together. I always answered that there was no other real alternative. When I first went back to my country we'd been together just a month and a half and didn't know if we'd see eachother for 5months.
Now we live together.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAnd again, I am just back from visiting her. I am so happy when I am with her that I wish time would stand still.
Now I am back home, distraught.
I do want to move closer and am currently looking for jobs in close proximity. She is hoping to move down here next year though. I just cannot go on like this.
I am already on antidepressants.
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reader, snowbird +, writes (31 August 2006):
Is there no way that you could move closer to her? Can't one of you re-locate? Silly question, maybe, as you have probably already considered it, but the way it is affecting you, even to take a cut in wages for a while, could go some way to alleviating this agony! Or see a doctor and maybe get some sedatives or something..you have got it bad, chuck!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionJust got back from seeing her, so feel ultra low at the moment.
She really is all I want, but the distance is killing me. I am not sure if I can take this anymore, I love her so much it tears me apart.
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reader, dannyboy +, writes (25 August 2006):
this answer might not be much help but i know what youre going through n id advise you not to do what i did n think to much. when i wasnt with her n i knew she was out somewhere i convinced myself things were happening, i think in some small way to make things easier to deal with, but it got to a point where i wanted to be with her so much she felt smothered, got more distant and i got even more irrational. there is no easy way and i dont know the answer but if youve got someone you lobve that much, dont ruin it n if you find the answer what to do let me know coz even though were not together anymore im missin her like mad n i need to get it out of my head, good luck
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reader, layla +, writes (25 August 2006):
 i think that you should use your friends to use the spare time to keep your mind of her for a while. I think shes the luckiest person on earth to be thought about so much. gd luck xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI would follow her across the world.
We are already in a distance relationship, 300 miles, so only get to see eachother when can travel.
3 times so far this month, plus visiting her at weekend.
We talk all the time on MSN and webcam, so the distance becomes slightly more bearable.
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reader, guardian87  +, writes (24 August 2006):
 Dude, i know exactly what your going through. I have a girlfriend here who i miss so much even though i had just left her place (sounds crazy, but its true).
But listen, you need to distract your mind somehow. How? i dont know, but she cant be all that you depend on. what happens if she suddenly has to leave you cuz shes travelling across the world? My point exactly.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2006): You love her-it happens and I know what it is like when you are in love and it can be hurtful but you have got to get to grips with it before it does drive you insane!You said that sometimes you won't see her for a month that is quite a while and in that time you can't keep cutting yourself up about how much you love her you need to get on with everyday life and look forward to when you get to see her.Believe me this loved up feeling won't last forever,everyone goes through what you are going through and no you can't love someone too much.Get out round the town with your mates,don't stay in looking at your phone all night and dwelling on how much you want her after all what will that achieve?-nothing.x
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionShe tells me she does feel the same, when I say I love her, she always replies with I love you more.
I am like, Oh I don't f**king think so.
Yes, absence does make the heart grow fonder, but it drives you to insanity at the same time.
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reader, snowbird +, writes (24 August 2006):
Just enjoy it - I don't agree that 'it will pass(!?!)..but it will calm down after you have been together for a while. It is the 'absence which makes the heart grow fonder' - a cliche for sure, but the only way that a cliche can grow, is if it is true!
I would love to know what inspires such a deep feeling for another person. I have felt the same way myself, but I don't think anyone apart from my 1st boyfriend (who was too obsessive) - has felt that way about me. Sorry to 'hijack', but it is relevant, I believe!
I trust she feels the same for you too, be happy - it sounds really special..
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reader, harshbutfair +, writes (24 August 2006):
 Sounds like you're "in love". It will pass.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOh, I have got too much going on elsewhere.
I am constantly working hard and being with family, plus I am very sporty. The other boxes are full, but she is just always on my mind, which affects every other aspect of my life.
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reader, harshbutfair +, writes (24 August 2006):
You need to build your own life because otherwise you'll smother her... Or you'll go to pieces when she leaves you.
Imagine your life as four boxes.
Leisure
Work
Friends/Family
Bird
Each should be even. You've allowed the "bird" (girl) box to grow too much. In fact I'd be suprised if you had much going on elsewhere.
So start to fill in the other boxes. Hang out with friends, get active, strive for promotion.
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