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I am often very impressed with the advice and information posted on DC. Many writings are an absolute pleasure to read and contain better information than any book. There are countless regular participants here who are very talented and gifted people.
I am not one of these people.
Most people don’t like me here on Dear Cupid, mainly because I give bad advise that nobody likes to hear. Just look at my rating.
In the past I have received personal messages from people calling me a jerk, a bastard, sexist bigot and so on. These people obviously did not appreciate my honest opinions, they preferred kind hearted bullshit.
If you’re one of these people who doesn’t like what I write, well you’re quite lucky because at least 2 thirds of my answers get blocked by the mods.
If all my answers got past the mods, then my rating would be 0.
However, I write in all honesty, and not in the generic bullshit that you often come across on DC.
So if you’re looking for good, decent, compassionate advice, don’t come crying to me, go see the others.
Griff.
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My job interviewed didn't offer me a job but asked me out on a date. Is this appropriate?
Q. I am job hunting. I recently got call from one of the jobs I was interested. In the middle of the interview, the interviewer did not offer me the job due to my school schedule clashing with the days he had available. Instead he asked me out on a ...
A. 25 January 2018: You said no and he was disappointed and that was that.
How is this even a "situation"?... (read in full...)
I found my best friends sex tape online
Q. This is unbelievable. There is a girl I’ve been friends with since we were two years old, and we are now 24. I recently found a video of her on a porn site (one of my friends who met her at a party sent me a link saying it looked like her). It 10...
A. 17 January 2018: In all honesty why should you even really care?
This type of stuff will almost always end up on a porn site somewhere, one way or another. People filming their own sexcapades normally should know this.
Mind you plenty of girls want to flaunt t... (read in full...)
He wants me to text dirty ...
Q. my boyfriend wants me to send him dirty/horny texts and i don't know what to write.i need some ideas please help....
A. 3 February 2014: Easy.
"The dishes are dirty and are still in the sink. I'll do the dishes when I get home from work"
"Oh and I should do the dirty washing this evening, or would you be so kind as to put all the dirty clothes in the washing machine before I get... (read in full...)
I can't seem to hit a girl's g spot
Q. i have 6.2 inch penis 4.5 inch straight and and around 2 inch slight down curve.. i had sex with thirteen different girl but i never get any negative comment but i still fell insecure because i think i m not able to satisfy and make girls orgasm in ...
A. 31 January 2014: Could you convert those measurements to metric? Would give me a better picture of what we are dealing with here.
Too be honest I think you are worrying about a problem that really isn't a problem. I'd only start worring about it if the women you ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend keeps pressuring me to perform oral and I hate it.
Q. I don't know how to say all this without coming out like an asshole but please hear me out. My girlfriend keeps pressuring me to go down on her because she goes down on me but I really don't want to. I've tried it before with several girls ...
A. 31 January 2014: "I don't like eating pussy" "I've tried it. it was gross".
WTF?
Good lord, after reading your post I ask my self, how can you be so disgusted by the most beautiful species (women)on planet Earth???
Mate I am sure that in about 10 years time y... (read in full...)
Do I leave my wife over breast implants?
Q. my wife lies to me she had a breast implants done without my permission i dont like it what will i do. leave her?...
A. 4 September 2012: Mate are you mad??? Your wife gets herself bigger boobs and you consider leaving her? Seriously, do you have any idea what you’re saying??? I don’t know what’s got into you, but if a women wants to make her make herself even more sexy, I wouldn’t be ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend cant get hard, even after 2 years! What can I do?
Q. So, my boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years and we're still not having sex but we do fool around the problem is my boyfriend can not get hard when we're fooling around. I've gone down on him and given him a hand job and he'll even try to ...
A. 22 June 2012: "My boyfriend cant get hard, even after 2 years"
Well it normally takes me about 2 minutes to get hard, so I agree 2 years is a bit long.
But seriously, my guess is that he's jerkin the ghirkin and slappin the salami a bit too much. It could b... (read in full...)
Lost virginity to two Malaysian hookers. Should I feel bad?
Q. I am in the navy and am 21 years old. When i was in Malaysia a couple years back, me and my friends were partying at a club in downtown Kuala Lumpur. We were all drinking and getting pretty drunk. Then late into the night, the club started to ...
A. 22 June 2012: “Should i be ashamed or embarrassed?”
WTF?
No, good Lord why should you feel bad? You lost your virginity to TWO women! How many guys in the world that can say that???
Chin up mate, you should be proud!!! Because if you aren’t, your Dad and your... (read in full...)
The love of my life used to be an escort... can I forgive her?
Q. I met the girl of my dreams... or so I thought. A little background... She is a senior in college and I'm a few years older than she is with a solid career. She is beautiful, intelligent, exciting, fun... she was the perfect woman. I never ...
A. 19 June 2012: Ok DHL we get your point. But seriously, the girl, like most people in the world, has a job. Like it or not, it’s her income and her own right also. The point is, she was already an escort BEFORE she met you. Did you really expect her to quit her ... (read in full...)
The love of my life used to be an escort... can I forgive her?
Q. I met the girl of my dreams... or so I thought. A little background... She is a senior in college and I'm a few years older than she is with a solid career. She is beautiful, intelligent, exciting, fun... she was the perfect woman. I never ...
A. 19 June 2012: Yeah you could call her but I'd be more worried about if she would even answer. Sound's like it's too late if you ask me.
Women like that have got 1000s of guys on the waiting list who couldn't give a flying fcuk about what she does for a livi... (read in full...)
B/f has hot body I want him to go shirtless!
Q. My boyfriend has a hot body and he rarely takes his shirt off. I want him to go shirtless more often. How do I get him to go shirtless more often?...
A. 20 December 2011: Why in the name of the good lord do you want him to go “shirtless” as you put???
And Cindy’s got a point, where would he do this “shirtless” thing???
In all seriousness, why on earth do you want this???
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Uncomfortable around our house with teenaged daughter walking around in just underwear!
Q. Our oldest daughter is now 15 and tends to walk around the house in just her bra and underwear or nothing at all. My husband and I get on her about it all the time, but she doesn't seem to care. Will she grow out of this or will it get worse? Is ...
A. 18 November 2011: OP I don’t see any reason for concern, she is a child within your family. If she’s walking about naked or almost naked in the presence of you and her father, that means she feels very comfortable with her parents and that’s a good thing. She’s not ... (read in full...)
Was this online girl for real?
Q. I started using Zoosk a couple of months ago, and contacted a few girls. One named Naomi replied to me, and we started to chat casually on email. She told me she wanted to exchange pictures, and although I regret it, I did send her some indecent ...
A. 20 October 2011: Most likely not, although if this bot happens to be made in Japan, nothing would surprise me.... (read in full...)
What can I say?
Q. Hey right iv been speaking to this guy via text n fb know him through a friend we get on great actually its scary how great we get on but i need ideas of things i can say like short texts to like turn him on and stuff if you get me wer both in our ...
A. 18 October 2011: For a start you could use capital letters at the beginning of your sentences and some full stops wouldn't go astray either, would make easier reading. You question hasn't been the easiest to understand so maybe you could rephrase and give some more ... (read in full...)
My wife thinks I have a small penis!
Q. I have a troubling issue in my marriage. To get right to the point, it has to do with penis size and my wife's perception. I am about 5.75 by 5 around and I always thought fairly average. When my wife and I talk it is clear that she thinks ...
A. 9 September 2011: Good lord what a woman, like you can do anything about it. Tell her that you'll head down to the local retailer and exchange it for larger size deluxe model... (read in full...)
Due to be married to a woman who thinks sex is only for reproduction! I don't know if I can deal with a life without sex....
Q. hello everyone. I had a chat with my fiance the other evening. I was concerned about our lack of sexual activities. I asked why she never gives oral no hand jobs without asking. And very little sex. When we do have sex i do all for her oral and ...
A. 9 September 2011: Mate I've met girls like that before, sometimes it takes a cold shower to wake them up out of their little dream worlds and bring them back to reality. Go the hard line and tell her you are not prepaired to reproduce without a normal sex life!... (read in full...)
Guys - which is best - your woman or porn?
Q. A question for the straight guys: If your girlfriend/wife gave you the ultimatum to choose between her and porn, which would you choose? Regardless of her reason, would you choose her if you knew that you would never be allowed to look at porn...
A. 21 August 2011: Most definitely porn!
Why the question? But more importantly, why must there be a choice???... (read in full...)
I don't get hit on! Is it because I'm a redhead?
Q. Hi guy, just a question thats been troubling me for sometime now. I hardly get hit on by the opposite sex. I was wondering if its to do with the fact that im a redhead and have a lot of small freckles on my face and body?. After seeing comments...
A. 18 August 2011: You hardly get hit on by the opposite sex. Oh dear.
Well I can tell you this, I NEVER get hit on by the opposite sex, and I know plenty of people who never get hit on.
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Fed up of being treated like an idiot.....
Q. I wake up in the morning angry and upset. Not so long ago I had 3 jobs, on top of the 3 jobs I would also do literally everything in the house, including cooking, cleaning, washing, tidying up etc on behalf of my partner. Once he gets back from ...
A. 17 August 2011: I see 2 simple options,
1. Dump his arse and leave him.
2. or do NOTHING more around the house. After just one week of no washing/cooking/cleaning/etc he'll already get the picture. You're NOT his slave. Household work is an entire job in it's sel... (read in full...)
How long does it take for breast size to increase while on the pill?
Q. Hello all, I've been on Microgynon 30 contraceptive pill for just under a week now. I am 22 and this is the first time I've been on the pill. I went on it mainly to try and calm down my bad periods. But I am hoping I may increase my breast size a ...
A. 15 July 2011: Small breasts are nice you know, very nice!
Appreciate what you have, cos even if you don't others will, believe me.
And frogs, since when is a B cup "little"? :-)... (read in full...)
I found my dad's been surfing porn and maybe using escort services, what should I do now?
Q. I was on my dads computer and I found sexual escort websites...I also found pornography on his cell phone. I am really worried that he is using these escorts and really don't know what to do. I would rather not confront him but its one of those ...
A. 15 July 2011: DO NOTHING, really you need to do nothing! He is not doing you or anyone else harm, so you do need to leave him be.
You also don't lay awake at night worrying about it, your old man is doing nothing sinister or against the law. It's just his busi... (read in full...)
What do my b/f's comments during sex mean?
Q. Hi all. Your insights plz?I have been with my bf for about four months,and during sex he often tells me not to give myself to any other man,and not to give my private part to any other man. Why does he say this? Is he possesive? How should I take ...
A. 12 July 2011: Why does he say this????
Is it not pretty normal that he doesn't want you to give yourself to any other man, and not share your private parts to another?
Or would you prefer that he asked you to do just that, to go ahead and give your self t... (read in full...)
Could this method make me seem like a virgin again?
Q. hi everyone i need to no if any wome had used alum/salts to make your vigina tight like a virgin? you see i had sex about too year ago and i havent had sex since ,i know my hyem is gone cause i bled when i slepth with my ex but im due to marry in...
A. 11 July 2011: Y_v Just gave you the medical explanation which is very clear and has just saved allot of time for you.
And wiseoldman is very correct, I do second what he says. Your sexual past and your body is your business and not only that, it belongs to you ... (read in full...)
He's around 23 and I'm 18. He keeps touching me. Does he like me? Or is he trying to take advantage of me?
Q. So, I have a huge issue. I kinda liked this guy, and I met up with him today for the first time in about 2 months. We hung out in this old shopping center (fun place to hang out) and then we headed out to a park closer to his house. I will admit th...
A. 8 July 2011: "23 is a bit too old for 18" "you are both at very different stages" ??? How so???... (read in full...)
Boyfriend looks very friendly with girls he met on holiday. Its making me very uncomfortable. How do I handle this?
Q. Me and my boyfriend are going out two years. He recently went on hols with one of his mates. He told me he met afew people there and that they hung out with two girls and went for dinner etc. He added them on facebook and they put up photos of the ...
A. 7 July 2011: I like girls, and I like holidays. But if i was married or had a girlfriend, I would certainly not splash such photos about on the internet and FB. Too be honest I think he's behaving like an idiot teenager with his FB activities. To be flirting ... (read in full...)
Is it because I'm a virgin?
Q. Hey, so im 16 and im dating my brothers friend who is 23. We are very close and have no secrets. He wants to marry me and have me live with him once I turn 18. He has this issue down south and he gets an extremely unbearable pain if he doesnt have ...
A. 7 July 2011: Mate, errr I mean girly, he can jerk off to relieve this pain he speaks of you know. Don't believe any more crap that he tells you. If he starts complaining like a idiot again, tell him to start jerkin the gherkin or get lost.... (read in full...)
Is it wrong of me to think of my hot cousins when masturbating?
Q. sometimes when i masturbate i think about my cousins and second cousins. they are pretty and i know this sounds wrong but i think they are hot. its just so much easier to think of them because they are so hot! is it wrong for me to do this? any ...
A. 6 July 2011: Quite simply NO, what on earth could be wrong with it? When I was your age I used to jerk off to my teacher, the woman across the street, my mates mum and even my very, and I mean smoking hot aunty!
All those years of jerking off never did me or a... (read in full...)
Questions regarding a threesome...
Q. My boyfriend really wants a threesome. It will be me and him (obviously) and one of his friends, who is male. I have told him i wasnt interested but he is kinda talking me into it. however i do need some questions asking. Is it a good idea to be ha...
A. 1 July 2011: I've said this before and I'll say it again, threesomes TOTALLY fuck relationships!
If you want to enter the world of sorrow, guilt, jealousy and other emotional misery, threesomes are the way to go.
Threesomes should be done with 2 prostitu... (read in full...)
Dignified but exciting sex positions?
Q. What kind of different sexual positions are dignified but also exciting? I am thirty-one and I have a girlfriend but it is a bit boring in bed. All we do is woman-on-top, missionary, and she gives me blowjobs. What are some exciting positio...
A. 28 June 2011: "have a girlfriend but it is a bit boring in bed. All we do is woman-on-top, missionary, and she gives me blowjobs."
Good lord! do you have any idea how many people out there don't even get as much as you do? I've known poeple who count them sel... (read in full...)
Is there really an issue with age difference if I am over 18?
Q. is it wrong for me to like older men i am 18 and i am wondering what people think the right age of older men i being 18 should go for 18-20 21-23 24-26 27-29 30+ which do you think would be the oldest older man suitable if you where concerned...
A. 24 June 2011: Hmmm
18-20, 21-23, 24-26, 27-29 or 30+?
You know there is a very good formula for calculating the right age of a potential partner. Purely based on statistics and logic, can't go wrong.
Only suitable for people who obviously have alot of cho... (read in full...)
Somebody please talk me out of cheating.
Q. Somebody please talk me out of cheating. I am married with kids ( marriage has become a little boring , rutine and very predictable), but I'm craving that excitement of the affairs. I know for sure I WILL NOT get caught ever, and I am sure I WILL N...
A. 24 June 2011: I don't get it, you are sure that you WILL NOT get caught ever, and are sure that you WILL NOT feel guilty.
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Then why do you ask the question?
It seems that your mind is already made up for you. You know exactly what you want, you have several... (read in full...)
Is this guy just faking poverty or does divorce really affect dads this badly so far down the line?
Q. A question to people, especially men, who are more than 3 years post divorce. How come a guy would still be struggling financially at that time to the extent that he can’t afford to rent the most basic apartment or run his car? This is assuming ...
A. 24 June 2011: and I doubt that anyone would fake poverty.... (read in full...)
Is this guy just faking poverty or does divorce really affect dads this badly so far down the line?
Q. A question to people, especially men, who are more than 3 years post divorce. How come a guy would still be struggling financially at that time to the extent that he can’t afford to rent the most basic apartment or run his car? This is assuming ...
A. 24 June 2011: I think you need to simple maths. His monthly salris, -maintenance, -rent, -car costs, -food and other living costs and then you've got bugger all left over if anything.
Unless you live in a communist country, it's almost impossible to live on a si... (read in full...)
How often do guys think about sex?
Q. Okaay, this is a bit of an odd question, but following this conversation I had with one of my guy friends about how often guys think about sex (7 seconds, or something??) I was wondering: Guys, how often do you think about having sex with girls yo...
A. 23 June 2011: Hmmm odd questions maybe, but pretty easy to answer.
1."sex with girls you actually know"
If I find them attractive, then always!
2."or girls that you like but haven't made a move on yet?"
Sex is the first thing that comes to my mind! I'm al... (read in full...)
My conservative wife wears low-cut tops that show her bra?
Q. OK, this is going to sound odd, because I certainly find it odd. My wife is in her 40s. She has always been very decorous. Serious professional, dedicated mother, married for 20+ years. A virgin when we got together. Very conservative sex...
A. 27 May 2011: Hey man, I don't get your point. Are you suggesting that what she's doing is a bad thing??? Just enjoy the view man!!!... (read in full...)
Just how likely is my penis size going to be a problem when I do become sexually active?
Q. This will seem like it's verging on a question I've seen asked a hundred or more times across the net, but bear with. Does size matter? I've read up on it enough to have my own thoughts on this, but it's still playing on my mind a lot. I've rece...
A. 25 May 2011: Well said cindy, well said... I was just about to write something but there is really nothing to add...
I'll try somewhere else and quick! before Cindy gets in :-)... (read in full...)
Husband hired a sexy escort to work for him!
Q. I really need some advice as I am in shock and don't know which way to turn. I dropped by my husbands office (he is 43) recently as he left his phone at home and walked in to find him drooling from his desk at his new receptionist as she was walking ...
A. 24 May 2011: Well I think he has done well, I probably would have done the same as him. If she interviewed well and apart from him looking at what's pretty, what's the problem? Only your jealousy getting in the way?... (read in full...)
I have the hots for my older Land Lady! Does this relationship have a chance?
Q. I feel confused by my land lord. Shes 64 years old and not married. I'm 36 years old. I feel something for her; she likes it when I buy her gifts sometimes she lets me kiss her on her lips but that's it, nothing more. I feel I want more than that. ...
A. 12 May 2011: I agree with Trance, bring the younger ladies home and try to keep it civil with the land lady, or you might run into uncomfortable problems. Try for women about 10 to 15 years older than you, I guess you like older women right?. A women of 64 is ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend seems to be a creep -- is this all there is?
Q. My bf of 2 years seems to be a creep. I was looking for a movie to watch on my laptop and stumbled into Google documents for the first time ever. I saw everything that my bf looked up on the laptop for the last 5 years +. I saw all kinds of ...
A. 5 May 2011: I'm guessing he's around your age right? And he has an interest in teenage girls? In other words: children!
You do no NOT want to risk your childs future with this guy hanging about.
Don't waste any more time and boot his ass out of the house... (read in full...)
Why is my g/f so frigid? Am I that repulsive?
Q. My girlfriend (27y) of 9 months and I (26y) have never been intimate, never discussed sex (she gets extremely uncomfortable), never ventured our hands between each others' legs. I always respect her comfort level. I feel unwanted. I feel...
A. 5 May 2011: What should you do?
Dump her ass!
and move on. Do you think this is going to get any better? It won't. Look I've met girls like this before, they only see their world and what suits them. This is only going to get worse, what she is doing is not n... (read in full...)
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