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writes: is it wrong for me to like older men i am 18 and i am wondering what people think the right age of older men i being 18 should go for 18-2021-2324-2627-2930+which do you think would be the oldest older man suitable if you where concerned about age gaps.thanks for your time
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reader, GRIFF TANNEN  +, writes (24 June 2011):
 Hmmm
18-20, 21-23, 24-26, 27-29 or 30+?
You know there is a very good formula for calculating the right age of a potential partner. Purely based on statistics and logic, can't go wrong.
Only suitable for people who obviously have alot of choice like your self.
Works a treat, just google it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2011): Date whoever you want but take responsibility for it. Don't date some guy way older than you, and then say he took advantage of your age when the relationship becomes toxic. If you have the right to be dating him then you have the responsibility not to blame his age when there is trouble.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (13 June 2011):
 why limit yourself to a particular age.
IF you meet someone and they are over 18 and you are over 18 and you two click then go for it.
age is a number...
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reader, Dlawube  +, writes (13 June 2011):
 There is no problem with that, but i will prefer u date some one not older then 23. You are stil young and might get into an older man who just want to have sex with you, how are u sure he is nt married, if you stil want to date older man then you muse be ready to face what ever comes your way!
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reader, LadieK +, writes (13 June 2011):
 Go for whatever age group you like. I personally am into younger men. Nothing wrong with it. Just stay safe and date people who respect you and treat you great. Could be a 18 year old and could be a 35 year old. Whatever you feel comfortable with, go for it.
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (13 June 2011):
 This is very tricky, but for a girl aged 18 I would say no older than 24. So your age range should be about 18-24.
The reason for this is that you change so much between 18 and 21/22, especially if you go to Uni. So it is very difficult to form relationships with guys who are a lot older than you because they are at a different stage in their lives.
Say a man aged, 27-30, he will hopefully be working full time, maybe buying a house, and looking to settle down to get married and have kids. Whereas you, aged 18, will just be starting out in life. You will be going to uni or getting a job, wanting to spend your money on shopping and nights out, wanting to go out clubbing or to bars, going out with your friends etc, probably living at your parents still. You must be able to see here that what an 18 year old girl wants is completely the opposite to what a 30 year old man wants, so the relationship would never work and would only cause you both pain.
However once you get to about 22-23, and you have left uni, have moved out of your parents house and are working - then age differences matter far less. I think it is fine for an age gap of about 10-12 years once you get to 22, because a 22 year old woman will not be too far behind a 32 year old man in terms of maturity and what they want from life. Whereas an 18 year old girl will be the complete opposite of a 28 year old man and the relationship will just go very wrong!
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, Barrybaggs +, writes (13 June 2011):
Age is truly just a number. I know girls younger than my youngest sister, yet to me they look and act far older. Maybe that's a reflection on my sister looking young, or perhaps it's because I view other girls and my sister in far different lights (i.e. I'll always see her as my baby sister!).
The key thing is - do you both connect? Do you feel any gap in maturity, interests? Does he make you laugh or bore you? Also, the thing is, if you seem immature and boring to him or can't make him laugh, he will likely not see you as a long-term and see you as a trophy 'I'm with a young girl' type thing.
I'd say make sure you connect with him, trust him, can talk and that he isn't just after one thing. Then it doesn't matter if he was born in which ever year or what day of the week. None of that should matter. Some of us die when we're 90 years old, some of us don't survive birth.
Good luck and have fun!
Good luck.
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reader, maverick494 +, writes (13 June 2011):
This is going to sound strange from a girl who tends to fall for older guys, but I advise you to stay close to your age range. You're 18 and though you are an adult for the law, it doesn't yet really apply in real life. Not compared to say, guys who are 30. You're a kid to them. Though I thought I was pretty mature at 18 I think differently of myself at that age now I'm 23. You will still grow lot as a person, something which hopefully never stops.
So with that in mind, guys aged 20-23 could be right for you. They have a couple of years on you so the immaturity factor of having a boyfriend exactly your age a lot of girls complain about won't be a problem. Sure, sometimes things click with someone who is older, maybe even a lot older than you are. But it rarely works out.
The problem with age gap relationships is that they bind two people together who are at a complete different phases in their lives. The one also has a lot more life experience than the other. Sometimes, these gaps can be bridged by being on the same wavelength, but more often than not it ends up simply not working. At your age, age gaps still present a big problem. Dating a guy who is 10 years older at 25 is already less of a problem because you're both in the phase of having a career.
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