I love him too much to just be friends with him
Q. What do you think? did I do the right thing? am so upset:(? My ex boyfriend apparently was having a hard time after he dumped me. We went a month without contact then he got into contact, said he misses me. and asked to be friends.. Cos he...
A. 24 May 2011: You did the right thing. He moved on and wants you to move on which is great, but he must understand that you are not him and it will take you some more time to move on and be able to see him as a friend.
Also, the wisdom teeth removal is not a hu... (read in full...)
Family issues affecting our relationship.....what can I do to help her?
Q. Hello, i am typing this because i simply dont know how to handle this situation anymore and i have no-one else to talk to. This question is about my girlfriend having issues with her family, but let me lay down some background info to help you ...
A. 19 May 2011: Oh, that's a lot to bear for people as young as you both are. You have been through hell and back. I don't think you should leave her. You really care about her and if you think you are ready to live together then go for it. Even if you are out of ... (read in full...)
Will she ever go back to being the loving affectionate person I fell in love with?
Q. my girlfriend came to me as her cheating/violent ex partner of many years finally beat her so badly that he put her in hospital she was to scared to go back and i offered a place to live. A few months later we started getting on well a physical ...
A. 17 May 2011: Well, she's obviously been through terrible times, so she's probably still very affected by what happened. Is she having any kind of counseling? Is is very important for victims of domestic violence to talk to a therapist.... (read in full...)
35 year old virgin - have I missed the chance at relationships?
Q. Do guys prefer virgins? Cause I'm still one at 35 years old. :( Been told its something to be respected. I've never really thought I was pretty. Is there still a chance for me or am I officially done in the "relationship department"? ...
A. 17 May 2011: You are young. Why would you be off the relationship department? When my parents got married about 35 years ago they were both 25 and my mom was considered past her "marrying age". Times have changed a lot (thank goodness!) so being single at 35 ... (read in full...)
Should I be worried about the way my breast looks?
Q. When I'm in the shower I usually check my breasts for lumps and such stuff and recently I noticed that my nipple is a strange colour. But when I havent been in the shower its normal colour again. My left nipple has always been a little bit darke...
A. 16 May 2011: Maybe you should have it looked at by a doctor. Perhaps it is nothing but it is better to be safe.... (read in full...)
Why did my youth leader reveal this in front of everyone?
Q. Why did he have to do that? I feel so bad.:(? ? ? Last week I went to a prayer meeting with the youth at my church and when we were praying the youth leader said the Lord revealed to him that I've done something physical and the Lord has giv...
A. 16 May 2011: Wow, and he calls himself a youth leader? If I were you I'd get away as far as I could from him and his group. But not before exposing him as what he is. Talk to the person in charge of the church about it. No one has the right to humiliate you, ... (read in full...)
I do miss him. Does he just want me as FWB? He is unresponsive.
Q. Hi, i was dating a guy, but then i realize he just wanted me as a friend with benefits, so i wrote to him, that i felt that he just wanted me like that, and he was not intesrested in me. I know he was interested in dating many girls at the same time...
A. 10 May 2011: I don't think a guy like that is worth at all. He just wants to use you. You deserve better.... (read in full...)
I'm now off the pill and it has changed my period. Any other woman experienced this?
Q. I came off the pill at the very end of February and I had a period but I haven't had one since. I have taken a pregnancy test which was negative and I don't think I could be anyway because I haven't had sex much but when I did we used a condom. I ...
A. 6 May 2011: I'm on the same boat here. I was on it for 6 months and decided to take a month off (a stupid decision it was). 3 weeks after taking the last placebo I had a light bleeding for a few hours and then nothing. It's been 6 weeks now and still no period. ... (read in full...)
Doctor proposed HIV tests to my husband, and I'm freaking out.
Q. My husband and I have been married for 7 years, but we've been together for almost ten. When we started dating, we both did HIV tests. All of them came negative. In the past 4 years we've been living under extreme stress, mostly caused by financ...
A. 5 May 2011: Doctors will try to get as much information as they can. A year ago I had an acne outburst and my dermatologist ordered some tests done. Hormonal mostly, but she even included syphilis tests! And it was just acne that came (and went) for no reason. ... (read in full...)
It's been four years and I am still not over him. What can I do?
Q. Hi everyone. I have a problem. Huge one. I will have to start from the beginning and for that I am sorry...It's a long story folks... It's been over 4 years since I broke up with the ex-bf in question. We have spoken now and then. I have had oth...
A. 3 May 2011: Oh dear that is too long. There is always the "I thought of my ex" thing going on. Something your current bf says or does that brings him back to mind. The brain can be tricky. But you shouldn't confuse that with feelings of wanting him back. You ... (read in full...)
Is this relationship worth working out?
Q. ok so....me and my boyfriend and father to my child have been together for 3 yrs we have been through so much together. From him cheating to being dirt poor. We broke up for a few months last yr and when we got back together in october it was with ...
A. 3 May 2011: Hm, straight answer would be no. Anyone can get some bad luck and lose their job, but he doesn't seem to care about it too much right? He quit his new job and had you take care of everything, knowing that you must also provide for your child. That ... (read in full...)
Keeping my ex as a friend. Is it pathetic?
Q. Its almost been 1 year since me and my ex split up and im still finding it hard to get rid of the feelings. I did love him, then i found out he cheated on me, which caused us to split. Now i dont love him, i just feel certain things for him. I g...
A. 1 May 2011: Not everyone can be friends with their ex. It depends on many factors. One of them surely is the cause of the breakup, and yours wasn't a pretty one. Now, if you're still somehow attached to him emotionally it is better for you to take distance. ... (read in full...)
Please help me to move on...
Q. When i was 17 i got pregnent with a baby girl. At first her father and i were still together. But sooner or later he started to stray from me. He started talking to other girls. Once we broke up he dated and had sex with another girl. I fought to be ...
A. 30 April 2011: You should consider what you want for yourself and your girl. If the guy keeps cheating, specially in this moment of your life in which you need a lot of support, maybe he's not the best for you and your baby. He'll always be her dad, there's no ... (read in full...)
How can I put on more weight as I hate being called skinny?
Q. im a 14 year old and i weigh 86lbs. before you call me bulimic,anemic,or anything else let me tell you i do none of those things. i dont know what to do people at school make fun of me and tell me im skinny. it really bugs me cuz i eat but i dont ...
A. 30 April 2011: Alright, I have to ask you: have you already had your period? Many girls gain a little weight after they start menstruating and their bodies change further into a woman's body. I was very very skinny for all of my childhood and early teens. No matt... (read in full...)
Boyfriend broke up with me and I've lost my best friend!
Q. I just realised last night that I've lost my best friend. My boyfriend was my best friend and a month ago he dumped me, the reason for this was because he had become incredibly depressed and had no strength to keep up a relationship because its so ...
A. 30 April 2011: Mm I've been there, asking if there was any chance. It is so exhausting.
I think distance is the best thing for you. You don't want to be friends (in most cases it is impossible). It's only been a month, so it is normal that you feel pain, spec... (read in full...)
Is it really over and how to heal a heartbreak?
Q. I have been seriously dating this guy for a while. We started off with me still being in a relationship with my ex. Within a month or two, I broke things off with my ex and had full intentions of being committed to this new guy. I've always had ...
A. 28 April 2011: Oh, so sorry. It gets like that sometimes. You'll heal in time, but during that process there might be some things to make you better. I wouldn't try any strong medication unless a doctor prescribes you some, but why not some natural sedatives ... (read in full...)
Its been 3 months since we broke up, can I wish him a happy birthday?
Q. Split up with my fella after 7 months - he said he thought the world of me but needed to be alone, wanted space, couldnt handle our relationship as he wasn't over his ex - they havn't got back together and won't be, i agreed to give him space, it's ...
A. 28 April 2011: I think it's ok but only if you text him what you wrote here. And don't expect an answer. Just do it to wish him well and nothing more. Good luck.... (read in full...)
Is a vast age-gap between friends strange?
Q. Hey all I work in a shop a couple of days a week, and there's a man who works there as well sometimes, and we talk a bit now and then. Last week he asked me for my e-mail address (in a friend-type way, nothing romantic or suggestive) and ...
A. 28 April 2011: Not weird. If you have things in common and talk casually there's no harm. If things get weird you can always block his address. If you don't want to meet him outside work just keep saying you're busy with exams/work/family/whatever. He will pro... (read in full...)
Birth control without my parents!
Q. I am 17 and i want to get on birthcontrol but i dont want my parents to know because i dont what them to think im having sex everytime im alone with my boyfriend. So how do i go about getting birthcontrol without my parents???...
A. 28 April 2011: You can have an appointment with your gyn even with your parents' knowledge. Even if your mom goes with you the doctor will find a way to make her leave the room before s/he pops the "are you sexually active?" question. Ask about the birth control ... (read in full...)
I want to be happy since our breakup but I'm not sure how to be!
Q. My ex broke up with me on mid Dec. It has been truly hard for me because I do love her. She has acted like a royal c*nt because i refused to stay friends. I mantained no contact for a while... recently, I have picked up the phone when she calls, all ...
A. 28 April 2011: GeeGee's right. Stop picking her calls. Change your number if you have to. She just wants to hurt you. She's the one not moving on, not you. You want to be happy. She doesn't want you to be happy. I spent more than 3 yrs in a relationship and when... (read in full...)
Too shy to call
Q. so im 16, never had a girlfriend, but i finally found a girl that i like a lot and cant stop thinking about. Im pretty sure she likes me, but its so hard to tell how much she does. I go to an all boy school and she goes to an all girl school, and we ...
A. 27 April 2011: Oh I know how you feel. I'm terribly shy too. And so is my boyfriend. I'm pretty sure you have seen signs over Facebook and the other sites that she treats you in a different way than she does other guys. So you're sure she likes you back. I think ... (read in full...)
Its been 8 months and I still love him
Q. Okay, so me and my ex split up in august 2010 and we was together for 16 months. We split up as I found out he cheated on me. I'm always hanging out with my girl friends to try and take my mind off him, and everything that happened but it doesnt w...
A. 26 April 2011: Oh dear, you must be in a lot of suffering right now. I went through something like that a few years ago and I know how hard it can get. Focusing on the things that made you leave him surely helps, but I know how the good things seem to take ... (read in full...)
How do I french kiss???
Q. My bf and i have dated two other times before, so we just pick up from where we left off....He tried to french kiss me but i pulled away. I told him why i did and he said he didnt want to pressure me. But now i rly want to... oh and the reason y...
A. 26 April 2011: There is no Howto for french kissing, and it really varies depending on the people involved. Your bf seems to be quite understanding (I suppose he's about your age?) so he won't be judging you or anything like that. Just relax, don't pull away this ... (read in full...)
Please help. I can't move on or let go and it hurts.
Q. I am really struggling to come to terms with my break up. I was with M for 2.5yrs. I moved across counties with my son to be with him after only 3mths. I know you will say it was too soon. Over time his temper and verbal aggression reminded me of my ...
A. 25 May 2008: You did nothing wrong. You tried to give him everything. Things didn't work well for him and he blamed you. Think about the bad things: he hurt you and claims you made him do it?
After my own bad breakup a few months ago a friend told me this: Do... (read in full...)
I feel unappreciated and unhappy!
Q. Hi. I moved in with my boyfriend in jan, we hav been together nearly 4 yrs. Since moving in I have been feeling pissed off with him as he drinks much more than I knew about and he doesn't seem to want sex when he has had a few! He is never a nasty ...
A. 25 May 2008: Well, if he has a drinking problem you should talk to him about it. Is there anyone else you can go to? A relative, mutual friend, etc. that can also make him see he has a problem. It's the first step I guess.... (read in full...)
He has me on a 7 pm curfew! And he blames me for what he does to me! Am I doing the right thing planning to leave him?
Q. I'm now 21 years old. I was barely 19 when I MOVED IN with my boyfriend. Things have gotten worse since I turned 21. He has me on a 7PM curfew! If I'm a few minutes late he doesn't talk to me for the rest of the night. Hes even locked me out for ...
A. 25 May 2008: A man who does even half those things to anyone, let alone the woman he's supposed to love, doesn't deserve being in a relationship. He's no one to control you, and treat you like that. And, if after only 2 years of being together he's doing this, I ... (read in full...)
Does it sound like he might want to reconcile or just clarify what he meant in the email?
Q. Hoping someone can help. Pretty straightforward question...nothing too dramatic. My boyfriend ended it with me..completely back in March. He did it by email and I assumed I was kaput. No matter. I guess I still like him but have moved on and am d...
A. 25 May 2008: I agree. Talking can be a good thing. But if you've moved on and decided the best for you is not being with him, then keep that in mind all along. Maybe he's feeling sort of embarrassed because he broke up with you by email (a crappy thing to do ... (read in full...)
I feel this is all my fault and I just don't feel the will to carry on. How do I learn to forgive myself?
Q. Hello again. My ex and I have been apart for 5 weeks now after 3 years and a half together. It was a bad breakup and if we both had not assumed that the other wanted it over we might not have ended it. It's been 5 weeks and my sadness is growi...
A. 25 May 2008: About 3 months have passed. And now I can proudly say that I'm out of the biggest part of the mess. Distance and some good friends made me realize that it's not the end of the world.
I still keep in touch with my ex, though he's been acting i... (read in full...)
My boyfriend broke up with me and now I think I might have depression
Q. My boyfriend broke up with me because he said he didnt want a relationship. Hes all i had and made me so happy. Recently ive had sickness, memory loss, anger, stomach pains, headaches, and ive had a period thats lasted 2 weeks+. And i havn't ate...
A. 14 May 2008: It happens, sweetie... I was really really depressed over my breakup not so long ago. Give yourself some time. Keep busy. You need your mourning so it is just natural that you'll feel like that. Except for the memory loss I had every symptom you ... (read in full...)
I feel this is all my fault and I just don't feel the will to carry on. How do I learn to forgive myself?
Q. Hello again. My ex and I have been apart for 5 weeks now after 3 years and a half together. It was a bad breakup and if we both had not assumed that the other wanted it over we might not have ended it. It's been 5 weeks and my sadness is growi...
A. 2 April 2008: I love him, I know that. And the worst part is: we took a 1 week break i october, and I saw how much I missed him then. Then all the vacation things happened. Today I told him how bad I feel and asked how he managed to get over me so easily. He ... (read in full...)
All my friends are dating, should I worry that I don't have a boyfriend?
Q. hey again you guys have been so much help to me.. well here i am writting again i have so much things on my mind right about now i want to date and have a bf.. but the embarassing secret is that i only had 2 boyfriends throughout my whole ent...
A. 1 April 2008: You're very young. You shouldn't worry about it. I never had a boyfriend till I was 23!! I don't mean it's good to wait so long (the lack of younger, less mature relationships has caused me a lot of problems) but you said you've had 2 bfs already, ... (read in full...)
I feel this is all my fault and I just don't feel the will to carry on. How do I learn to forgive myself?
Q. Hello again. My ex and I have been apart for 5 weeks now after 3 years and a half together. It was a bad breakup and if we both had not assumed that the other wanted it over we might not have ended it. It's been 5 weeks and my sadness is growi...
A. 1 April 2008: The story is a bit complicated. He was really into me and wanted us to move in together etc etc. My mum (she has quite an amount of issues) used to like him a lot but then, as the relationship became more serious, she started to develop feelings of ... (read in full...)
Can our relationshipship survive despite his depression?
Q. I have been in a good relationship for 4 1/2 years and we planned to get engaged very soon, he's already bought the ring. It now comes to light that he is sufferring from depression due to stress and pressures from variuos areas of his life. We ...
A. 24 March 2008: This sounds exactly like my last relationship, but the other way around (I was the one suffering from depression).
I really can't tell what will happen. In my case we grew apart not only for my depression but also for some radical changes in his p... (read in full...)
I found his Nirvana hoodie in my laundry the other day with all these notes I never gave to him...
Q. Well, I have a lot of my exs stuff, but I think he wants me to have it all or just doesn't really care either way. Anyway, I found his Nirvana hoodie in my laundry the other day with all these notes I never gave to him, you see, I used to write ...
A. 22 March 2008: Perhaps you should read them first and then decide if you would like him to read them or not.... (read in full...)
I love my girlfriend but when my grandmother finds out it will break her heart, how do I keep them both?
Q. I'm trying to give my girlfriend space as I know women need. The thing is,I'm so jealous that when she's not talking to me,I worry she's talking to someone else and I end up texting her.She has a full live and doesn't think about me as much as I do h...
A. 22 March 2008: Look, I've just lost my boyfriend mainly because of the need to keep everyone (IE my mother) happy, so I know how you feel. If you want this relationship to work, then fight for your space. Don't be a fool as I was. Try to talk to your grandmother, ... (read in full...)
I feel like my dad doesn't approve of anything in my life...
Q. hi, im sixteen and i need some advice. I want to be an architect but my dad keeps saying that job doesnt pay well for women and idk what to do. Thats something i really want to do, i just feel like my dad doesnt approve of any part of my life, he ...
A. 14 March 2008: I think Eve is right. If that is what you want to be then go for it! It's a great career choice. Many careers that were traditionally done by men are now being also done by women.... (read in full...)
I feel like a slave but he doesn't hit me too hard so maybe he will be better after we have children...
Q. My husband comes from a family where the men are always in charge. He was very nice to me when we were dating and after we got married he changed like he thinks he is my master. I feel like a slave sometimes and if I don't do what I am supposed to ...
A. 14 March 2008: I really don't think a child would change him. Domestic violence is a serious issue. Is anyone in your family aware of this? Is there anyone you can go to for help?... (read in full...)
I don't live with my partener - is this normal?
Q. I've started a new relationship right after my divorce. This man is 18 years my senior. He makes me feel loved and wanted. We get on well and been together for 2 years now. He's got his house and I've got mine. I stay overnight at his house 3 ...
A. 13 March 2008: I think Annalisa is right. If you're both comfortable with it then there's nothing wrong about it. I know a 58 years old lady who is divorced and has been in a relationship with a man (about her age, alittle older I think), also divorced. Each has ... (read in full...)
I still cry over all the hurt my ex caused me...any tips how to get through this??
Q. I don't know what to do anymore. I still can't completely get over my ex. I am much better than I used to be, but I still think about him everyday. Sometimes I still cry when I think of him or how he broke my heart. I don't know if I still love him...
A. 13 March 2008: I can see you're very young. What did he do to you I wonder? Have you got any friends you can go out with to get over him?... (read in full...)
My ex-girlfriend split with me after 6 years and I am very low
Q. Hi all, Well, where do I start. Let me give you some background information. I was with my ex-girlfriend for over 6 years and she split with me last weekend, 1st March. It was her choice, we split as she thought we didn't feel right and...
A. 11 March 2008: Hang with your friends. Go out, but avoid places that bring up memories. I'm going through something similar and the worst part of it is thinking and rethinking about it. But also give yourself time to grieve: I had to cry out of sight because my ... (read in full...)
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