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anonymous
writes:Me and my boyfriend are going out two years. He recently went on hols with one of his mates. He told me he met afew people there and that they hung out with two girls and went for dinner etc. He added them on facebook and they put up photos of the four of them hanging out eating, laughing, socialising, touring and messing. I found this upsetting as its just two guys and two girls and they look very chummy in some of the photos. (I should add his frd is single) Am i being mad to feel uncomfortable about this or is this what young people do on holidays? I dont have any male friends as the few i had turned into more and i dont contact them now that im with him. I guess im very down the line. Im also embarassed that all our friends will see the photos and see him interacting with these girls. Please help and give me advice. I know im a bit insecure but this has made me feel worse. I dont want to say it to him as he will freak out thinking im stopping him from having female friends now.
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reader, GRIFF TANNEN  +, writes (7 July 2011):
 I like girls, and I like holidays. But if i was married or had a girlfriend, I would certainly not splash such photos about on the internet and FB. Too be honest I think he's behaving like an idiot teenager with his FB activities. To be flirting with girlies is one thing, but to advertise it on FB for your friends and family is another.
You should go do the same thing, flirt with a stack of guys and paste it on FB, he'll get the picture.
I'd be pissed if I were you, really pissed, and this is comming from someone who likes girls and lots of them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2011): Not a complete over reaction, i would feel a little uncomfortable, but i doubt he would be posting picture's or adding them as friends on facebook if there was anything more too it. They can see the two of you are in a relationship? If your still insecure, why dont you ask a few questions about them? If they have boyfriends, where they're from. See how much he knows. Maybe sugguest you's all meet up down the line? See how he reacts.
As for your friends seeing, who cares, your the one in the relationship and as long as you know he hasn't done anything you should feel comfortable with them seeing pictures.
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reader, Boy X  +, writes (7 July 2011):
If you don't think anything happened, then there is no need to worry. Easier said than done, I know. But just think of it this way: If he went and met some guys and took pictures, would you care? No? So why does it matter if they were girls (and you don't think he cheated).
If you're still feeling insecure, then it's best just to mention it to him and see if he can get his mate to make the pics private or something so not everybody can see em. You wont necessarily seem controlling if you conduct yourself in the correct manner.
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reader, sammy1986 +, writes (7 July 2011):
i would ask him to make an arrangment to meet them and go with him say you just want to get to know them seeing as they are your new friends and when you do watch out for any signs of flirting or uncomfortableness with any of them it could be totally innocent as men and women are entitled to have male and female friends or it could be a sign he has cheated on you
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