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writes: My boyfriend really wants a threesome. It will be me and him (obviously) and one of his friends, who is male. I have told him i wasnt interested but he is kinda talking me into it. however i do need some questions asking.Is it a good idea to be having sex with one of his friends? I dont know who else would take part but i am pretty sure it wouldnt be a friend, am i right?Also the the other guy did split up his last relationship as he was too aggresive apparently. Is it clever to have a threesome as he could become competitive with my BF?could my BF be using me and after it is done, break up with me?And fianlly, as we will all be entering me somehow, does that mean that we are all guarnteed to get an STD (or STI whatever) ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWe had the 3some and it was the best sexual experience of my life. my boyfriend was on form and his friend was amazing. i had multiple orgasms. it was as if they were competing for my orgasm , in a good way. It was perfect, my bf and i are still together, no STDs in sight, not preggo, perfect.
I WILL ALWAYS FOR THE REST OF MY LIFE RECOMMEND A THREESOME.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2011): Keep us posted on how it goes and if there are any after effects.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWE ARE HAVING A THREESOME. on the 16th of July we will be getting down and dirty. I am sooooo horny i cant wait. I really really want to do it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2011): Just because your boyfriend wants something doesn't mean it's your job to provide it. The dynamics of an FFM threesome differ from an MFM (not that I'm recommending you participate in either). Unless a woman has a strong ego, a clear sense of herself and what she wants and both men are working hard to please her, she'll end up being tag teamed by two horny men high fiving each other over her head. A man whose sexual aggressiveness has already wreaked havoc on your boyfriend's prior relationship is still a candidate for a stud fest with his current one? You already know how sound an idea that is.There is no more guarantee of a sexually transmitted disease from having sex with two men than there is from having sex with one. However the risks increase with the number of partners you have. As does the risk of pregnancy. If you find yourself with child and abortion isn't an option for you, do you think your boyfriend will stick around to raise his friend's offspring? A child that was conceived right under his nose? How would you feel if you discovered you were conceived during an orgy?When it comes to sex, young men have big mouths. Your boyfriend and his friend(s) have already discussed this before the event. Do you think they won't also talk about it afterward?Time for cost/benefit analysis. Are the risks involved in a threesome worth whatever reward you're hoping to obtain from it?
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reader, alex74  +, writes (2 July 2011):
 I think if your boyfriend doesn't mind sharing you with another guy says it all. He doesn't care about you and doesn't respect you. If you want the experience of being used by two guys or if you get off on being the center of attention of two guys, then go for it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2011): So you are pretty sure that you are going to go through with the 3-some. In that case....enjoy. I wouldn't do it with a best friend, but definitely not with a total stranger. Maybe with someone that one of you knows, but who is not really close to you. Make them get std tested and then go to a hotel....never at your house. ENJOY!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2011): ok well what do you mean by his friend was too agressive in his last relationship? do he and his friend try to do this with all of his girlfriends?? if so it seems like they have more of a relationship then you might have with him! by what youve said i do worry that he could be using you.but as far as being safe use protection.but its just seems fishy to me.
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reader, GRIFF TANNEN +, writes (1 July 2011):
 I've said this before and I'll say it again, threesomes TOTALLY fuck relationships!
If you want to enter the world of sorrow, guilt, jealousy and other emotional misery, threesomes are the way to go.
Threesomes should be done with 2 prostitutes, PERIOD!
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker +, writes (1 July 2011):
 If your state of readiness is 60% it means you're not ready. It's the sort of thing you should only do if you are absolutely convinced.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2011): "My boyfriend really wants a threesome."The big question is "why". Because it is a bad idea."Is it a good idea to be having sex with one of his friends?"No."I dont know who else would take part but i am pretty sure it wouldnt be a friend, am i right?"It definitely won't be a friend unless it is a guy he fancies sexually himself."Is it clever to have a threesome as he could become competitive with my BF?"Threesomes are not clever, they are stupid...just stupid."could my BF be using me and after it is done, break up with me?"Most definitely, the chances you will be together after this are essentially zero."And fianlly, as we will all be entering me somehow, does that mean that we are all guarnteed to get an STD (or STI whatever) ?"Not unless one of you has an STD to share.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2011): I had the same experience as you with an ex.
I fancied myself to be the liberal freespirit type, and thought I would be fine with it. I ended up really uncomfortable and deeply embarassed afterwards.
A guy who wants to share you with another guy is either bicurious, childishly showing off to his buddy (look at what my girlfriend does!) or gets off on pushing the limits as to what you'll do (is there anything she WON'T do in bed?!?) The last two answers don't show a lot of respect for you as a woman or as a girlfriend.
I found out later that my ex and his best friend had "shared" girlfriends before. Ick.
Don't do it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2011): could my BF be using me and after it is done, break up with me? ......Yes!!! Anyone wanting to do that,especially at that age group is not thinking long term. He may not finish with you instantly,there may be more he wants to use you for first. remember,when the gossip starts,that youre more likely to be asking why do guys only want me for one thing?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2011): If everyone is clean, then you won't get any STD's. You can get everyone checked out, including yourself, before you partake in a threesome, but specifically having a threesome doesn't increase your chances of STD's. If you plan on having anal sex, than I would advice you not to have vaginal intercourse with that same person because you can get an infection like that.You shouldn't have a threesome unless you're completely sure you want to. Don't do it to please your boyfriend. I've had threesomes before and I would say that you should do it with someone you both don't have to see regularly, especially if you're new to experimenting with open relationships. Sometimes there's feelings of awkwardness or jealousy, and these are better to deal with when that person isn't a perceived "threat" to your relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2011): DON'T DO IT! I can tell you this will not turn out right for you and will lead to dire consequences. Tell your boyfriend that you will please him in everyway as long it involves only you two, no third person.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI really want people to focus on the questions i asked. I am 60%40 that i am going to do it so please.
Thanks anyway though guys, but focus on the bestfriend thing and the STD's.
Bye for now
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reader, RedAthena +, writes (30 June 2011):
 It does not sound like you have really talked with your bf about your concerns/questions/mutual understanding about what to expect here.
If you can not talk about it and agree to it all..then
JUST SAY NO!
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reader, PR_Scorpio +, writes (30 June 2011):
If you feel that strongly about not doing it, then don't do it. A threesome should involve 3 willing participants. Although your boyfriend wants it, you have some hestiation. I don't think you should go through with it if it makes you uncomfortable. If your boyfriend loves you and respects you, he will understand that you do not feel comfortable with this and leave it alone. Never allow anyone to pressue you into doing something you don't want to do. You will have regrets and probably even resent him later.
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reader, jc2008  +, writes (30 June 2011):
So your boyfriend wants to watch another man have sex with you or does your boyfriend want to have sex with this man with you watching or participating? Is your boyfriend bisexual?
Most men don't like to watch another man have sex with their girlfriends, its a male possesive thing. Personally I won't do a threesome, three is a crowd and sex should be between two people. I'd seriously be questioning what eachothers role is but the golden rule is as always, if it doesn't feel right, don't do it.
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reader, Adorskable  +, writes (30 June 2011):
 I can share with you my experience, I had a threesome with my husband and my best friend. My husband would always tell me he wanted a threesome and I would always say no. One drunken night I ended up having it and I regret it up till this day. I felt awkward and to ashame to face them. Things ended up fading away but there is this distance between my bestfriend and me now. At times I resent my husband for having sex with my friend, I feel like he cheated on me with permission. I honestly feel if the threesome would have been with another man, my husband would have most likey leave me because the images stay in your head.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (30 June 2011):
 if you don't want to do it DON'T DO IT.
i come from an open marriage... it will only work if both parties are totally committed to the openness.
if you are hesitant it will not work.
say no,
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