Wife works Part-time...Full time problem...Help
Q. Wife works Part-time...Full time problem My wife only works ~25 hours a week and I work 10 hour days all week. Whenever we get into an argument I can't help but bring this up. I pay for basically everything including Health Insurance, Food...
A. 7 November 2008: Hi,
I don't think you are wrong in expecting her to do the housework, laundry, etc. She needs to understand that you work long hours and don't necessarily feel energetic when you get home as to have to start cooking and doing other house chor... (read in full...)
My girlfreind of 2 yrs doesn't like have sex anymore. I ask her why and she replies" because I'm tired of it !
Q. my girlfreind of 2 yrs doesn't like have sex anymore. I ask her why and she replies" because im tired of it and its not my first priority". Ive asked her if she was cheating on me she always tell me no that she loves me but just doesn't want to have ...
A. 7 November 2008: Hi,
The first thing that comes to my mind when I read your question is 'is he giving her attention in other ways?' 'is she feeling like a sex object only?'. If your answer is that she maybe feels that way, then perhaps you need to make her feel... (read in full...)
Is it always wise to come clean about an affair?
Q. Is it always wise to come clean about an affair? I've been married for 10 years. The affair happened 3 years ago and lasted for several months. At the time, my husband wasn't giving me much love or attention. The sex was amazing and I found it very ...
A. 7 November 2008: Hi,
hmmm sometimes it is better not to tell... If there is no chance in the world that the affair will be out and he would find out by a third party, then I would say keep it to yourself. Try to think of it as a lesson in life. Maybe it made you ... (read in full...)
He's scared of having sex with me because he loves me but is used to treat women like objects!
Q. Hi there my name is Jane and I have a boyfriend called Tom. I've been with him 7 months, just moved in with him but before was always in his house and him mine. He's my best friend and he makes me laugh my head off most of the time. But.. Tom's fir...
A. 7 November 2008: Hello,
I agree with Star. Your boyfriend needs to clarify his thoughts and views about women. He has already seen a different kind of relationship, the one he has with you, and if he has started to slow down on watching porn, that is a good star... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and feel I am ready for sex. Advice ?
Q. Hello, I am a 14 year old girl. You need to know that because my question is about being ready for sex. Its a long question even though it answers will probably be short. Well, I have been with my boyfriend for just over nine months. We are real...
A. 7 November 2008: Hi,
You seem to have given it a proper thought, even educating yourself about the risks involved. Whether you are ready to have sex or not, you will know. As you said, there have been times when one or the other has stopped it for whatever reas... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is starting to ask my help in paying her bills
Q. I have a girlfriend who i love very much and she says she loves me, she works nights in people care and exhausts herself doing it to pay her mortgage and bills and the money is not going far enough so shes started asking me for money to make up the ...
A. 28 October 2008: Hi, just be careful, money can and does get in between people. If you are not living together and have long term plans, I don't see why she should get angry or have rows with you if you don't lend her the money. It is not your 'duty' to pay for ... (read in full...)
How to give a hand job?
Q. Ok, so not the easiest of questions. I am in my 20's and want to know how to give a hand job as i don't know how and have just recently started dating someone and want to try it out but i am too embarrassed to tell this guy that i don't know how to ...
A. 28 October 2008: Hahaha Cowboy, you made me laugh out loud! :) Yes, I agree, let the boyfriend guide you and show you what he likes. It has worked for me this way. Also, you will be guided by his response if you decide to experiment on your own, without his help. ... (read in full...)
I don't want to leave my job but if it comes to it I'll have to...
Q. Hey, i asked for advice about 12 days ago, concerning a meeting with my boss and how my work was affecting my health. http://www.dearcupid.org/question/my-work-is-damaging-my-health.html Intially I was really pleased about my meeting. He real...
A. 28 October 2008: Hi AH,
It is difficult to be in an environment where we don't feel accepted, and I personally think you have been brave to put up with the situation and to confront your boss. Maybe it would be a good idea to talk to his female partner, and expl... (read in full...)
After having sex with me he told me "I don't want to be with you!"
Q. I am 25. My boyfriend ended things almost a month ago. Since then we've pretty much spoken everyday, and on sunday we met up for sex. I know, I know, absolutely terrible idea and I know that now. We had a great night and he stayed the morning after ...
A. 28 October 2008: I agree with was has been said about his two sisters. If they are real friends to you, they will be by your side in times like this, when 'women stick together' sort to say :)
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How do I introduce her to him and get things rolling for her?
Q. Hello everyone! I have this female friend of mine who would really like to meet a guy, problem is she's a bit shy. Her and I have been friends for 6 years so I know her quite well, I feel I have a good idea on how to help her but I would like any...
A. 28 October 2008: Hi,
Perhaps trying the old trick? Say 'look that is so and so' and then calling this guy so he comes to where you are and introduce them. then, when conversation gets rolling, you excuse yourself for a little while ;) Then it will be up to them... (read in full...)
How do I show her it's friendly with body language?
Q. I am in a relationship with 'Rick' and my friends, 'tish' and 'john' are in a relationship. things are a little rocky with me and Rick and i like John and he is always flirting with me and compliments me quite a lot. A different girl and I fell out...
A. 28 October 2008: Hi,
There is a difference between flirting and being playful. Flirting is trying to attract others attention in a sexy way, playful is being close to a person in a friendly way. Be as 'playful' with tish as you are with john. Hopefully she will... (read in full...)
After having sex with me he told me "I don't want to be with you!"
Q. I am 25. My boyfriend ended things almost a month ago. Since then we've pretty much spoken everyday, and on sunday we met up for sex. I know, I know, absolutely terrible idea and I know that now. We had a great night and he stayed the morning after ...
A. 28 October 2008: Hi, is it that you can't get rid of him because he keeps on coming back? Or because you dont really want him to disappear from your world? It is up to you to have around only those you want. Only because someone wants to be with you whenever ... (read in full...)
I need to find myself first...
Q. Here is a little background I have been married for 12 years year, have two children 5 and 12.. Have not been happy for sometime, husband is extremely verbally abusive to me and the kids and has basically ruined my self confidence. I h...
A. 27 October 2008: Hi, I would think it is perfectly normal for a woman to be impressed by a man who treats us well, specially after an abusive relationship. therefore, I see no wrong in having him 'in your mind' all the time. Maybe it has also made you realise ... (read in full...)
Help me understand how this is my fault! Why is she mad at me?
Q. About a week ago my fiancé through tear filled eyes told me she had just tested positive for HPV and had to get a biopsy for cervical cancer. Turns out she had tested positive for it before we met, but it hadn't shown up on any tests for a whil...
A. 6 October 2008: Hi,
Firstly, you haven't done anything wrong. And yes, it is natural that you are feeling frustrated by the situation you are going through.
Your girlfriend's reaction, I would think, is just due to insecurity. Not on your part, but on herself.... (read in full...)
Is she really stringing me along,what do you think?
Q. My ex wife, for the last five month's has been saying she still loves me and wants us. Last time she told me, she was trying to get to me, but her car tax has ran out, and hasnt got any money. I think now it is exscues she is just making, havent ...
A. 6 October 2008: Hi,
It is difficult to say what your ex is thinking. Maybe you should concentrate on you, what are your real feelings about going back together, about you being able to trust her (I see you are doubting her and what she tells you).
Tax car or n... (read in full...)
Is this bizarre?
Q. My boyfriend has a very disturbing relationship with his mother, it is a huge turn off.. I mean yes I would like a guy that loves his mother and gets along well with her but my boyfriend is way beyond that extent. I don't mean in a sexual sense, n...
A. 15 September 2008: don't worry too much (only a little bit) about the water matter...as someone said already, maybe saving on bills...
but think about the mummy's boy problem, yes, it is a problem, unless you are prepared to be second in his list of priorities.
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I put my girlfriend up on a pedestal and feel like I'm not good enough for her. It's ruining the relationship, help!
Q. I'm in need of some advice. I'm an average-looking 24 year old and am currently dating a very beautiful girl 2 years my junior. The problem is that I think she's too good for me. She's so sweet (personality-wise) and pretty and i'm convinced she's ...
A. 15 September 2008: Hi,
just think...if she is with you, isn't that because you are special to her? out her league? where did you get that from? Put your feet back on the ground and don't ruin what could be a beautiful long lasting relationship.
And..... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is always late, it's getting annoying. How do I bring it up?
Q. Im only 16 years old, and i guess you could all say i shouldnt be commiting mself into a serious relationship at this age, but ive nown my boyfriend since i was around 6 years old and weve always had that close bond. 8 months ago we got together and ...
A. 15 September 2008: Hi, Honesty is the best policy. Why not tell him that you understand he needs to do things on his own, just as you do. That is normal, each one needs to have time for thermselves. But in a relationship, there should also be respect for one ... (read in full...)
I'm gay and falling in love with my best mate, we experimented together but now I see him flirting with the girls!?
Q. Ive recently decided to come out of the closet. im gay. I told my friend grace that i fancy my best friend whos my room mate at uni. We expirimented but at first i didnt actually have feelings for him. He says he's decided that he doesnt want to do ...
A. 9 July 2008: Hi,
If your friend is showing interest towards girls, perhaps you need to consider whether it is just more important for you to see him happy and keep him as your friend. Sometimes good friendships are worth more than anything else, just thin... (read in full...)
How can I be there for my brother??
Q. This is more a question about how i can be there for my brother. My brother is 7 years older than me and has just split up with his girlfriend of 5 and a half years. He is moving back home tonight so his ex can find a new place which is close to her ...
A. 8 July 2008: Hi Dave,
Well, he is lucky to have you as a brother and a friend.
Now, answering your question... just remember that we are all different, that some people like to talk about things at their own pace, when they feel at ease. Sometimes it is not s... (read in full...)
I have trouble with new relationships after my ex and I broke up!
Q. After my ex ended the relationship with me even though I was deeply in love with him, I can't have a normal relationship with any guy. Now it has been almost a year since I broke up with him and all the relationships I have ended very quickly. In ...
A. 6 June 2008: Sounds like you are trying by all means to find someone to replace your ex? Give yourself some time to get to know new people, as friends and not boyfriends. Don't jump from one to another, you might be hurting their feelings and you might end up ... (read in full...)
Every time we see he blames me for the break up and he still wants to be with me despite thinking that I'm useless!!
Q. what to do with an emotional abusive ex-boyfriend? We have been together for 2 1/2 years, before I decided to end the relationship. He has been cheating on me several times, lied about money and his intention towards having a family with me w...
A. 6 June 2008: Hi,
It is right for you to want your baby to have her father in her life. Next time you see him and he blames you for the break up, or tries to belittle you, tell him that he is entitled to his opinions, but that you have your own. And, calm... (read in full...)
I am confused as to why my bf broke up with me...
Q. I am confused as to why my bf broke up with me. He didn't give me a real reason, just a text messaging saying its over. My ex bf's friend (who I met him through) told me that the reason he ended it was becaused he wanted to go clubbing and partying...
A. 6 June 2008: Yes, it sounds just like any excuse will do to brake up. Move on and find someone who won't want to change you and who would like to enjoy things together, or someone who is at least willing to try the things you like before 'banning' you from ... (read in full...)
They make fun of me because I don't share their vice... is this not childish?
Q. everyone makes fun of me because i dont smoke weed,do you think thats childish?...
A. 6 June 2008: It is childish what they are doing indeed! And irressponsible. You are doing the right thing in keeping clean, and perhaps it would be good for you to go out with people who are not into smoking weed and that sort of things. After all, you don't ... (read in full...)
Troubles while camping, help!
Q. Me and a few of our friends went camping. Thigs got a lil 'hot' in mine and my boyfriends tent but we couldnt have sex for a certain reason involving a sore penis. He was fingering me and playing with my clit which made me want to moan so i was ...
A. 4 June 2008: Were you pulling his hair? or it is just something he doesn't like? Foreplay or having sex is suppossed to be something both you and him enjoy. Doing things one and the other like, not forcing things one doesn't like. It is a time to bring you ... (read in full...)
Am I hanging on to a dream?
Q. I had been dating a guy for over a year and split early in the new year. Initially, it was my choice as he had become so negative, always talked about his ex wife and forgot about my needs. After a couple of weeks I realised that I really wanted to ...
A. 4 June 2008: You dont mention how along ago your friend broke up with his ex wife, but I am assuming not long ago? It is true that we all need time to sort out things, specially when kids are involved. But it is also true that it is not healthy to keep on ... (read in full...)
Does anyone have any suggestions for me?
Q. hi, Im having a bit of a dilemma just now. I have had feelings for one of my best friends for a while now and i was planning on asking her out when she came back to uni to do a placement over the summer. it now turns out that she didn't get it an...
A. 4 June 2008: Hi,
don't fear distance. If the feelings are right, it will work. It is just a matter of how much you and her want this to be a reality.
Good luck :)
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She broke off her marriage proposal, but still I feel insecure!
Q. I've been in to seven year relationship with a girl, but year before she had a relationship outside our relationship with the guy in his office they got along very well and guy proposed her marriage, but maybe she realised that its not good and ...
A. 2 June 2008: Hi
Well, either you forgive and forget, or let go. If you cannot rebuild your trust in her, I don't see how you can be happy in that relationship. You are the only one who will be able to tell if you really will be happy with her or if you pref... (read in full...)
I'm playing hard to get. What is he expecting?
Q. Is he expecting me to make the moves on him? We have demonstrated to be attracted to each other. He hasn't approached me yet we flirt and flatter each other. Two years ago he wanted to go out with me but I turned him down because of another ...
A. 30 May 2008: hahahaha the 'f' word sounds great. If he was really interested, he would be trying to start things with you instead of getting on with other girls. You sound like a very young lady still, so don't rush into anything, see how he behaves for a ... (read in full...)
He told me he can't trust me because I didn't tell him what friends and family were saying about him! Help!
Q. I have been in a serious relationship for 3 years, my boyfriends friends and family have been saying awful things about him to me. he lost his job he has children and they call him worthless. I didn't tell him and we are supposed to be moving ...
A. 30 May 2008: I think you will need to sit down, take him back to the moment when he was depressed, and make him see how bad finding out about what others were saying, could have been for him. Tell him how important it was for you, as it is now, to see him well. ... (read in full...)
I'm having trouble trusting him completely after he cheated. I know he's been in contact with her because I snooped! What should I do?
Q. ive been with my b/f for bout 7 years. he cheated on me 3 years ago, i found out we broke up and got back together. ive been trying so hard to trust him again but just cant do it completely. i check his emails and he doesnt know this, i feel bad but ...
A. 30 May 2008: Hi,
I know, it is not easy to trust a person once they have failed us. The problem is whether you will ever trust him again. If you think you cannot, no matter how much you try (and him keeping in touch with another woman doesn't help), then I wo... (read in full...)
I'm in love with a mature lady, the problem is that my classmates are making jokes about me! What should I do?
Q. Dear agony aunt, I´ve got a really big problem. I´m in love with a mautre lady. The problem is that my classmates know it and they make jokes about me. The girls in my class laugh and that makes me angry!! Why cant people leave me alone. I just wa...
A. 30 May 2008: Just try not to pay any attention to them, most of these 'making fun of others' comes form jealousy. Ignoring them could be the only solution, nothing much you can do about ignorance. Don't let the sillyness of other people affect you or your ... (read in full...)
I'm feeling neglected...is he being a bit selfish?
Q. I'm dating older guy (47), I'm 39. Things are somewhat ok. Lately, I feel neglected. It seems like all I do is play taxi/chauffer to him. All we do is go to stores and out to eat. How do I tell him I need more excitment than just going out to ...
A. 30 May 2008: Hi, we have to remember that men think different to women. Yes, men are from Mars :) . Perhaps you can take the initiative, make him think you 'are doing it for him', and plan a surprise date. Not a restaurant, but something else you would li... (read in full...)
I am worried that my dad is slowly killing himself with alcohol and drugs....please help!
Q. Can someone please give me advice, my dad wont listne to anyone who tells him to stop bieng so irrisponsible with alcohol and drugs.He regulerly smokes cannabis and drives, which really scares me. Yeserday he asked me if he could borrow for money ...
A. 30 May 2008: Hi, It is a very difficult situation you are going through. Seeing your dad destroying himself like that and maybe feeling impotent to do anything about it. I don't know how it is in your country, but I am assuming an adult cannot be forced t... (read in full...)
I want to spice up our sex life, any ideas would be welcome.
Q. This is not so much a great dilemma, just some fishing for inspiration. My boyfriend and I have been together two odd years, love one another dearly, and we have been having sex for about nine months now. Recently, it's gone from long lovemakin...
A. 30 May 2008: Have fun :)... (read in full...)
I want to spice up our sex life, any ideas would be welcome.
Q. This is not so much a great dilemma, just some fishing for inspiration. My boyfriend and I have been together two odd years, love one another dearly, and we have been having sex for about nine months now. Recently, it's gone from long lovemakin...
A. 29 May 2008: Hi! Just another idea for you: Enhance your intimacy and your sexual satisfaction. Bring heightened sensitivity into your sexual life. See what you can bring into the bedroom that would stimulate sensual pleasure. How does a feather feel on ... (read in full...)
Married less than "2 years" and no sex life!!! HELP
Q. Hi all, I am married for nearly 2 years, my problem is this, We have practically no sex life, it's like we are brother and sister or something just sharing the same bed. There is no passion, it's just a peck on the lips and then good night....
A. 29 May 2008: Hi! Well, sex life can change (not necessarily for the best)from as soon as 6 months into a relationship! What you need is to look at sex in a different way, and make your husband look at it in a more fun kind of way too. It is as when you look... (read in full...)
Should I forgive him after his drunken cheating?
Q. Hi, I caught my boyfriend on cheating. We were at friend's wedding. he was utterly and almost unconsciously drunk. He didnot know who I am when I entered the room he was with this awful girl. Trousers down, she was correcting her clothes, not sur...
A. 29 May 2008: Hi again.
It is not sad to think you would advice a friend to dump the cheating boyfriend. We do this because we hurt when someone hurts our dear ones. That is why sometimes it is better to talk to a person that is not so closely involved, some... (read in full...)
I'm getting bored with my girlfriend...
Q. My name is Anthony, and I've been dating my girlfriend for nearly two years. Without getting too graphic, certain area's of her body have changed since I took her virginity and we started having sex casually. I don't find her as attractive anymore ...
A. 28 May 2008: Hi Anthony, women's bodies do change when they get sexually active. What you need to think about is that relationships are more than sex. Yes, it is a major plus if you have a great sexual relationship, but that will wear off with time. Look into ... (read in full...)
Should I forgive him after his drunken cheating?
Q. Hi, I caught my boyfriend on cheating. We were at friend's wedding. he was utterly and almost unconsciously drunk. He didnot know who I am when I entered the room he was with this awful girl. Trousers down, she was correcting her clothes, not sur...
A. 28 May 2008: Sometimes we have to forgive certain things...the question is, do you believe it happened just because he was totally drunk? If you do, and you think he would not have done it otherwise, if you both love each other as much as you say, you loose ... (read in full...)
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