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writes: This is not so much a great dilemma, just some fishing for inspiration.My boyfriend and I have been together two odd years, love one another dearly, and we have been having sex for about nine months now.Recently, it's gone from long lovemaking sessions to a twenty or thirty minute routine sort of thing. I'm not dissatisfied, not in the least, but I'm looking to add a little variety into the bedroom - something other than the old missionary/on top/from behind stuff.So I'm after suggestions - I'm open to quite a lot. What are some techniques that work for you folks? Foreplay, positions, equipment, handy websites?Any ideas would be appreciated. =)
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reader, Gio +, writes (30 May 2008):
Have fun :)
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reader, aphexinfinite +, writes (30 May 2008):
most welcome :) hope it helps x
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the advice guys!
Aphex, that website is just the sort of thing I've been looking for - all I've been able to find is the standard issue positions, and the stuff about 'know your body, know your partner'. I know both, I just want to know what to /do/ with them, haha.
Gio, I think I recall reading the same exercise, but I had forgotten about it until now, so thanks for reminding me - I think I'm going to have to do a little shopping this weekend...
And the margurita sounds a good addition too - I always find I'm a wee bit self concious when it comes to wearing the sexy lingerie, so perhaps I just need a little something to loosen me up, heh.
Again, thanks a bunch! =)
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2008): My husband and I have been married for 12 years and have 3 children. Neddless to say sex had gotten boring. Last summer he talked me into trying things I had always been to shy to try. The first thing I needed was a marguritta to get me to relax, next was some very erotoc lingerie, and last was a camcorder and digital camera. We had a blast! I never felt comfortable watching porn so now we make our own. After you get over some embarassment you find yourself not being able to wait till the next time. The only thing is now we need new ideas for our for our videos and photos. If anyone has any ideas I'd love to hear them. Hope this helps.
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reader, Gio +, writes (29 May 2008):
Hi! Just another idea for you: Enhance your intimacy and your sexual satisfaction.Bring heightened sensitivity into your sexual life. See what you can bring into the bedroom that would stimulate sensual pleasure. How does a feather feel on the back of your/her knee? How does it feel to have a recording of the ocean playing while you/she runs the rough (or smooth) edge of a seashell along her/your inner thigh? Be creative Build this kind of pleasuring activity into each and every sexual encounter, the goal is pleasure and connection . I am copying here an exercise that I read recently, :#1This exercise is designed to help you get in touchwith all the areas of your body and learn about howand where you like to be touched, and how yourwhole body can respond to loving touch. It is an exercisein awakening your senses and experimentingwith different sensations.The goal is to learn about how your body responds to touch. Each partner will take a turn at giving and receiving pleasure. Set aside at least an hour for this experience. The room should be comfortably warm and you need to arrange not to be disturbed. Turn off the phone.Warm the lotion. You might also want to use candles,music, aromatherapy, or whatever else would enhancethe sensuality of the experience.Partner A is to simply lie back and enjoy the experience.He/she disrobes and lies on his/her stomachfirst. He/she may want to close their eyes in order tofocus more effectively on bodily sensations and feelings.Partner B should begin by putting lotion on theirhands and beginning to caress and touch Partner A’sbody beginning just under the hair line at the back ofthe neck and ending with the bottom of the feet. ThenPartner A is asked to turn over onto their back andbeginning with the face, Partner B pleasures the frontof their body, the breasts and genitals. (Thisapplies to both male and female)You are asked not to talk during the experience exceptto tell the pleasuring partner if the touch needs to bemodified to make it more pleasurable. If one area isparticularly pleasurable, you might want to ask thepleasuring partner to spend a little more time in thatarea.The entire process should take at least twenty minutesper person.At the end of the pleasuring, both partners might wantto rest for a few minutes before trading places. ThenPartner B should simply lie back and enjoy beingpleasured while Partner A strokes and caresses him/her using the same process as before.Then choose a time when you can be uninterrupted laterand discuss the experience using these “lead-ins”:“What I liked best about the experience was...”“The type of touch I enjoyed most was...”“I loved it when you...”“Next time we do this, I’d love you to try...”Focus on the positive, and what felt best for you,physically and emotionally. Enjoy it :)!
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reader, aphexinfinite +, writes (29 May 2008):
crap i posted it twice omg i look so dense sorry lol
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reader, aphexinfinite +, writes (29 May 2008):
oops forgot to add web site lol http://101-sex-positions.com/ x
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reader, aphexinfinite +, writes (29 May 2008):
oops forgot to add web site lol http://101-sex-positions.com/ x
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reader, aphexinfinite +, writes (29 May 2008):
why not go to ann summers and see if anything tickles your fancy. why not try ice cubes whipped cream chocolate fruit. outfits handcuffs..vibrators, handcuffs, blindfolds...lol goes on and on..how about checking the web for different positions ie the butterfly spooning 69 ..this gives you A good explanation on positions pictures too. hope that helps aphex x
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2008): u could try going to a sex shop and getting a sex game...it great foreplay and u get to do things u wouldnt normally do and find out things u dont know about each other sexually. it is a way to spice up ur sex life...something ordinary can seem soo much more exciting.
hope this helps
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