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writes:Is he expecting me to make the moves on him? We have demonstrated to be attracted to each other. He hasn't approached me yet we flirt and flatter each other. Two years ago he wanted to go out with me but I turned him down because of another commitment back then. He was with another gal the other day but that was just for oral sex (I have reason to believe he wants more than from me) cause now he's back to demonstrating his interest in me, and I think he knows that I know he was with her because I backed off yesterday, flirted with another guy, didn't want to see him. I think he's been accustomed to getting anyone he wants, and I'm really giving him a challenge because, although I give him signals sometimes that I'm interested, I'm basically playing hard to get. I am also seeing, by her behavior, that the girl he was with knows he's interested in me. What do you think I should do? Should I approach him, maybe put a note and/or flower on his car? If I approach him what should I say? Or if I see him should I tell him to f... himself?
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reader, WastedLife +, writes (30 May 2008):
Your question does not mention your age. Do you love this guy or do you just want to "have" him? Why are you playing hard to get? Some guys love the challenge, but some hate it and won't even play the game. I am part of that latter group, though there are plenty that are not.If you are going to approach him, I would be fairly direct - no notes or flowers, just a suggestion that you two should go for coffee and just hang out some time. Romance and innuendo at this point will probably be misunderstood. See where things go.If a girl told me to just f... myself, I would write her off immediately. I've got better things to do with my time. He might too, and he's already got someone willing to be with him. Why should he bother playing games when he can enjoy someone that's easier and more fun to be with? If you only want him because he is with someone else, it may be time to take a good look at yourself and ask what you really want and why.I hope you don't think of this as terribly harsh - but this is an advice column and I tend to say things as I see them. Some women are good at games, but many of us guys are not, and we don't like them or need them. Good luck figuring things out.
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reader, Gio  +, writes (30 May 2008):
hahahaha the 'f' word sounds great. If he was really interested, he would be trying to start things with you instead of getting on with other girls. You sound like a very young lady still, so don't rush into anything, see how he behaves for a while, if he stops his relationships with other girls, or if he persue you in search of a real stable relationship.
Good luck
Gio
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