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female
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51-59,
*ricababy
writes:I have been in a serious relationship for 3 years, my boyfriends friends and family have been saying awful things about him to me. he lost his job he has children and they call him worthless. I didn't tell him and we are supposed to be moving together and I told him because I want us to go into this part of our new life with no secrets. he says he cant trust me but i was trying to protect his feelings because he is on depression meds. thats why I did not tell him from tthe start. was I wrong and what can I do to rebuld his trust? that stuff happened so long ago when he really was depressed so I didn't tell him until now. please give an answer. I love him and I know he loves me but right now he says he wants nothing to do with me because I didnt tell him.
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reader, Gio  +, writes (30 May 2008):
I think you will need to sit down, take him back to the moment when he was depressed, and make him see how bad finding out about what others were saying, could have been for him. Tell him how important it was for you, as it is now, to see him well. That no matter what others said, you were with him 100% facing them alone so as not to give them more worries. And how from now on, you want the two of you to face together whatever comes you way. You were trying to be strong for the both of you I am sure, and that was an act of love, totally unselfish. If he doesn't listen and keeps on blaming you about loss of trust, then maybe he is looking for excuses to break up?? maybe you should then listen to what others that love you say and analize the whole situation with your mind and not your heart. Good luck
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