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writes:Ive recently decided to come out of the closet. im gay. I told my friend grace that i fancy my best friend whos my room mate at uni. We expirimented but at first i didnt actually have feelings for him. He says he's decided that he doesnt want to do the stuff that we're doin together but i dont know how to tell him that ive got feelings for him. I think im falling in love and i cant help it.I think he's made it pretty obvious that he doesnt feel the same way. i see him flirting with all the girls at uni and that kinda upsets me and makes me feel jealous. I dont know where to go from here
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reader, ucsdjosh  +, writes (11 July 2008):
Hi there friend across the pond!
I understand how you feel and it really is a crappy situation to be in. If you haven't been 'out' for a long time it makes things difficult too. I am not out, and in college, and I know how your first experience makes you head over heals in love with the other person. But you have to get over him if he doesn't feel the same way. It is the worst feeling in the world to care about someone else so much more then they care for you. You owe it to yourself! Your awesome, young, and have so much to look forward to! So be happy, enjoy school, meet new people, and though it may be awkward at first seeing he's your room mate, I promise you that in time everything will be fine!
Stay in there,
-Josh
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reader, StudentOfLife  +, writes (9 July 2008):
 Relationships are often more limited, time wise, than friendship.
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reader, Gio +, writes (9 July 2008):
Hi,
If your friend is showing interest towards girls, perhaps you need to consider whether it is just more important for you to see him happy and keep him as your friend. Sometimes good friendships are worth more than anything else, just think about it.
All the best.
Gio
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