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writes:I am confused as to why my bf broke up with me. He didn't give me a real reason, just a text messaging saying its over. My ex bf's friend (who I met him through) told me that the reason he ended it was becaused he wanted to go clubbing and partying and but I woudlnt allow him to go apparantly. This doesnt make sense. On many occasions during our relationship, I had friends going clubbing and would want to go just so I could catch up with my friends and I would always invite my bf with my bf, but he would always convince me not to go and say things like "its not a good idea to go clubbing when you have a gf/bf". My ex bf was the one not allowing me to go, not the other way around. I know my ex bf has always been into the clubbing/partying lifestyle but when we dated he stoped doing that and now hes gotten back into it.Do you think he honestly broke up with me because he wanted to do all that stuff? It feels like such a lame reason to break up with me over. What are you thoughts?
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reader, jay12toes  +, writes (6 June 2008):
 i dont think thats the reason. i do believe thats what he told his friend the reason was but more then likely there is something that goes a lot deeper, something that you probably could only find out from him, but my bet is he wont want to talk to you about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2008): Aw that's awful. I am sorry this happened to you. He sounds super immature, and just by the way he dumped you shows so much about his character that I can guarantee you you're better off without him. But I know it still hurts...
And yeah I guess it is possible that he broke up with you because he wanted to go clubbing. If that was his reason then that's lame. You don't want to be with a guy who thinks having a girlfriend means you have to stop having fun. Obviously you want a guy who will go to the club with you and wherever else for that matter and just have fun with you no matter where you are. I think this is a blessing in disguise.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2008): Maybe he's not ready to be in a relationship right now... and he thinks of the club is some mecca for babe fetching. He WILL be dissapointed, and come running back... sometimes men need to be idiots to learn what they really want.
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reader, Gio  +, writes (6 June 2008):
Yes, it sounds just like any excuse will do to brake up. Move on and find someone who won't want to change you and who would like to enjoy things together, or someone who is at least willing to try the things you like before 'banning' you from enjoying them any more!
Good luck
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reader, inneedofattention  +, writes (6 June 2008):
 hunni, in my opinion that wasnt an excuse. the relationship obviously working out for him, but at the end of the day it his loss! dont you waste your time thinking of what you did wrong, or hy hes given these rubbish excuses. move on with your life and meet a guy who appreciates your amazing ways, and enjoys going out with you!!!
all my love and luck, in need of attention. xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2008): I think you should discuss this with the guy that broke up with you and not his friend( your exboyfriend). I further suggest that if this guy still wants to go clubbing without you, he might just not be that "into" you. He might want to be free and not have a committed relationship with you or anybody for that matter. Call him, try to meet him for coffee and ask him to be honest with you.
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