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writes:me and my fiance, recently broke up and I moved to another town, i went out with another girl while I would visit my fiance thinking we could work it out. we have since reconsiled but she refuses to admit that we were broke up even though we lived in seperate apartments and seperate towns. so she accuses me of cheating even though i never did until i moved out,she constantly treats me like a cheater while i want to build our future together but she wont let go of the past. what should i do. by the way she also saw other men while we were seperated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2010): Look if you were trying to work things out with her then you shouldn't have screwed around. Simple as that. In my opinion, you cheated. If you were willing to screw around while you were separated trying to work things out, whose to say you wont do it now that y'all are back together? You sure didn't try very hard to work things through if you were busy with someone else.
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reader, Fefi  +, writes (11 August 2010):
 But, if you were visiting her, thinking that you could work it out between you, why did you rush into another relationship, say it did work out, then what??
i dont really aprove of what you did, you could have waited; your fiance could also have had a point, this may not have been a full break up, it may just have been an on-off, you may have been back together after some time to reflect and rejoin. if you are just using sex for comfort, then im not stopping you, but if you want to work it out for real, you both need to stop seeing people and talk this over. tell her what im telling you.
i dont know what the other aunts will think, but this is just my personal opinion.
hope you didnt take offense, wish you well and feedback to see how it worked out ;)
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reader, Booshfan1  +, writes (11 August 2010):
Just because you got back together doesn't mean you were never apart. You should ask her if she considers the fact that she was with other men cheating if she doesn't then that's kind of stupid because it's the exact same thing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2010): sounds like ross and rachel - we were on a break - no we weren't, yes we were, no we weren't, YES WE WERE lol Hmmm, suppose you have to honour her feelings, you were attempting to work it out so maybe not technically completely broken up. Though if she saw other guys then that would make her a cheater too. Perhaps try to talk it out a bit more - air your feelings etc. If she can't let go of the past though her past is also iffy, then it may be a case of having to go your seperate ways :(
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