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writes:about four months ago i was at a party and got drunk and my boyfriends friend took advantage of me and had sex with me but never 'popped my cherry', i never told my boyfriend because my friends told me it was for the best that i dont, my mind was full of guilt so i dumped him - never gave him a proper reason why!anyway - my ex-boyfriend is still texting me and i have never stopped thinking about him, and im not sure if hes moved on, and also im craving sex!, but i have no one to do it with, what should i do?????
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker  +, writes (11 August 2010):
 Try to talk to your boyfriend about it. Dumping him without giving a reason is going to mean a lack of closure for him and for you. It would really be best if you tell him what happened.
Look, if the perpetrator of this crime was a friend of his and other people know about it as well, odds are that he will find out from someone else eventually and that will hurt him a lot more.
Tell him, and leave it to him as to whether he wants to continue as friends, cut you off from his life, or give it another shot. You still seem to have feelings for him - why not give it a shot? Sometimes confronting the past can be the only thing that lets you put it behind you.
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reader, Fefi  +, writes (11 August 2010):
 It's understandable that your guilt had driven you to dump your boyfriend, but you have to follow your conscience, and that's to tell him the truth. i think it would be unfair for him to suddenly be dumped and im not surprised that he's still texting you to at least know why. you probably are afraid that something may happen between your boyfriend and his mate if you tell him, but this 'friend' of his started this without the right to do so and is going to have to face the consequences.
im not encouraging them to fight but for them to get one thing straight; the cops will hapilly take him for a tour of the prison cells.
For now, you need to look after yourself; i know you said that he hadnt popped your cherry, but you should still get yourself checked out at the clinic in case of STDs, infections, etc...
just try to get back to your boyfriend..
let me know what happens ;)
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