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writes:I know you probably get a lot of questions like this on here, so I regret to tell you that this is another one of them. I apologize if this seems a little long winded, but I need to get this all off my chest and I've always thought that it's difficult to give out advice if you don't know the full story, so here we do.The bottom line is that in a typical teenage fashion, there's this guy that I really, really like and I have no idea if he likes me back.I'm a guy too and I live with my dad and his boyfriend of four years. I always knew my dad was bisexual, so it's never really bothered me. My mum's always joked about how alike we are, so it didn't come as any surprise to her when I told her I thought I might like guys too. That was three years ago, when I was still living with her (I moved out sometime last year when I was sixteen, and I'm currently living with my dad and his bf looking for an apartment to rent) and now I'm pretty sure that I'm gay. My family have always supported me through it, so that isn't really a problem. Not many people at school know I'm gay, other than my best friend, and she only knows because she liked me a few years ago, but that's all in the past now. She's my best friend in the whole world and I love her to pieces (but not, you know, like that).The reason not many people know I'm gay is because I'm part of the school swimming team, and if a bunch of guys had to splash about half naked with me in a pool, there would undoubtedly be a lot of problems. I'm not a pervert - I don't ogle people blatently in front of me, I don't check them out and I don't watch them in the showers or anything. I have pretty old fashioned values so I think people shouldn't be looked at without their knowing, especially since it's by another guy. I'm also not a very 'typical' gay, since I don't have an accent, don't really find feminine things 'fun' and I'm not very open about it. I don't really do anything obvious, but that's just the way I am.Anyway, about a year ago a new guy moved into my school, and we hit it off right away. He's kind, understanding, very smart and he makes me laugh until my sides hurt. I thought nothing of it, since I assumed he was straight, but when I think back on it now he was always doing pretty weird stuff, like hugging me and touching my leg when we watched movies, that sort of thing. I got into a fight with one of my friends and got pretty upset about it, but he could tell instantly when he saw me that I was upset, and he was so sweet about it. He hugged me for well over an hour and stroked my hair, telling me everything was going to be okay. He's always been very sweet like that, but I think that's when I suddenly realized I liked him, and I had liked him for quite a long time.That was a few months ago, but it's not the last time something like this has happened. He joined my swimming team about four, five months ago (about three weeks after the whole crying thing) and sometimes I think he's checking me out in the showers or in the pool, but I don't know because I don't want to get my hopes up too much.The only other thing that's really confusing me is something that happened a few weeks ago. We sleep over at each other's houses quite often, probably once or twice every month at least, but the last time I was over there he was acting a little weird. He was being very distant and I think he kept staring at me, but he just looked kinda flustered when I asked him what was wrong. He didn't say anything but later I accidentally fell asleep on his bed when he was taking a shower (I normally sleep on the floor) and when I woke up he was just kinda holding me from behind against his chest. In the morning he was acting really jumpy, stuttering when I tried to bring it up (I just really wanted to tell him I liked him, but in the end I couldn't) and eventually I dropped it. He's acting the same as he always is, hugging me and stuff when I go to his house, touching my hand, being there for me, but it's killing me a little inside not being able to tell him how I feel.I think I'm falling in love with him, and I wsh I knew how he felt too. So, dear readers, that's my story. My question to you is, what do you think? Could he like me? Should I tell him? I'd really appreciate any advice you can give me, and I'd love to hear as many opinions on this as possible.Thank you, and I'm sorry for rambling. I appreciate any advice x
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reader, der_zyniker  +, writes (24 August 2010):
I think he does like you. The way he was acting the last time you were at his house where he was acting distant is the same way I acted around one of my friends when I wanted to tell them that I liked them.
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reader, AvgGuy1 +, writes (23 August 2010):
 Sounds like HE is as confused about it as you. HE wants to tell you/be with you but he doesn't know if you like him and what not. I would say, in this case, just come out to him... tell him you are bi/gay, that you really like all the physical attention and emotional support and that you've developed feelings for him but that you don't wanna ruin the friendship if he's not into guys... etc. If he IS bi/gay then you probably have a boyfriend. If not, he'll probably be very understanding and you'll just have a really good friend.
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify +, writes (23 August 2010):
 clearly he likes you- go for it, you have nothing to lose!
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reader, CaringGayGuy +, writes (22 August 2010):
 I'd say he likes you and he's left hints he's just waiting for you to pick them up. I've been in a similar situation but before I told him that I liked him I came out to him and carefuly watched his reaction in my situation he said it was fine but a week after he came out to me too and told me that he liked me and were together untill this day so I'd say that you should come out to him and if he seems disgusted then he's straight but if not he's either a really good friend or he likes you but if he doesn't come out to you after a week since you've told him then you should tell him you like him and if he says that he doesn't like you but still giving you hints then you should maybe kiss him if he's disgusted then he's straight but if he enjoyed it then he's gay but with those type of hints hes gay! Good Luck! Xx
-CaringGayGuy
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reader, yum yum  +, writes (22 August 2010):
 It looks like to me that he is in love with you. I believe you should tell him that you find him very attractive. Go for it !
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (22 August 2010):
 Yeh, I'd say he likes you and yes you should tell him, or at least hint back that you like him.
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reader, Fefi  +, writes (22 August 2010):
 i think its best that you tell him the next time you sleep over.. its obvious he likes you, there's nothing stopping you from telling him your feelings, you just have to find the right time and place where you will both have each other at peace with no distractions...
dont let him stutter you out, just come clean with him, tell him that you have feelings for him, and that you understand if he doesnt aprove towards it, but try and catch him out ;)
i find it really sweet that you two are so close, and i hope that everything turns out the way you want it to..
good luck ;)
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