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writes:I recently turned 17 and I am almost certain that I am gay. I am not out of the closet yet. If I ever do come out soon, I would want only my future boyfriend to know. I have never been in a relationship before with another person of the same sex, but I have had one girlfriend about a year ago as well as hooked up with a few other girls. This relationship and these hook-ups have merely been cover-ups so as to make others less suspicious of my real sexual orientation. But I need a change in my life. I am tired of doing things that are quite frankly meaningless to me, and I want to be involved in another guy's life.There is this one guy who I'm basically in love with! He is also my age and is a good friend of mine as of about a year ago. Him and I are both somewhat masculine, as we are very involved in competitive swimming and don't fall into that gay "stereotype." At first, I didn't question his sexuality, and he is percieved by others as straight, I believe. Yet, especially in the past few months, I have been wondering if he is gay, or at least bicurious. I have also had this growing desire for him (both romantically and sexually) which has only grown much stronger as of late. By the way, he is very fit and good-looking, and, if he is gay, I am probably a guy that he'd be really interested in as I am very toned, tall, blonde hair/blue eyes, and tan. I really do care a lot about him. The signs that his has been giving me tell me that he is also gay and is into me. I am just trying to convince myself, "Yes, he is gay for me," because I simply want him to be gay, or is he actually gay?He will often do things at swim practice like slap my a** in a joking manner when we are in our speedos. He even does this a lot in front of others as a joke. Note that this particular action he does sometimes to other (most likely straight) guys on the team as well. I am well aware that there are some straight guys that will slap guy friends on the a** as a joke, but would a straight guy really say and do all of the following things to another guy friend without being interested in him at the least? He occasionally says things to me like, "I want (you) to f**k (me) you so hard" and, "I want your c**k in my mouth." It seems that he says these things in a joking manner, but at times I wonder if these are more than just jokes. He also occasionally tries to show me his d**k (more often his ba**s). He calls me gay at times, but it seems moreso in a friendly way. He has also asked if I would go out or get with him if I was a girl or gay. Yet he occasionally talks to me about girls that he thinks are hot and even tells me about sexual things he would like to do to some of them. What's up with that!?!? He can be a real jokester too though. He talks very openly about sex (straight and gay) with people, including myself. He's not just a straight guy that is so comfortable with his sexuality that he feels he can act like this, right? Has he really gone above the limit of the straight guy just trying to be funny?He has been very touchy at practice (including earlier today), grabbing onto my feet and pulling me back, and I would often reciprocate that act. He seems to be having a lot of fun, laughing and all, when we do mess around like that. I know I am! When we went to the beach together a couple weeks ago, we often playfully wrestled on the bed and slapped and lightly punched each other jokingly when we would kill each other in this video game we played a lot of. He would put his arm around my shoulders and even lean his head on my shoulder in the car sometimes. He occasionally tells me that he loves me and then just laughs. He also gave me a short lap dance in just his speedo once at this big swim meet about a month ago. I want to get with him soooo bad!Is he gay or bicurious?If so, is he into me as I am really into him?Advice on what I should do would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!
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reader, camray +, writes (6 September 2010):
I answered this question on your other post, but I have a few extra thoughts. The whole talking about girls and what he'd do to them thing, it could be a way of judging your reaction. He may be fishing to see if you're gay or not, because the same thoughts might be going through his head about you. So again, go for it. He seems at ease enough sexually that even if he's not gay he'll be fine with it and won't react in a negative way. Again, let us know the outcome. I hope the two of you hook up.
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reader, LLindy87 +, writes (6 September 2010):
 Sounds like he's into you and gay.
I don't know many straight guys who would rest their head on another guys shoulders. He is definitely touchy feely with you, thats awesome.
ASK HIM. I'M SURE YOU WON'T BE DISSAPOINTED!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2010): How many hints does he need to give you? GO FOR IT! Jump his bones, or let him jump yours. In fact, delete the 's' and just jump his boner.
He's really put himself out there with all the things he's said and done...seriously, read your post again, count the incidents and come-ons...there's a pile-up there! I literally can't think of a more overt, 100% unambiguous come-on than "I want (you) to f**k (me) you so hard" and, "I want your c**k in my mouth"...and if I could, I'm sure I would have used it by now, but that last one usually works.
The only risk I think you run is missing out on the opportunity.
Obviously be discreet in terms of other people finding out, but...Don't let your chance go by.
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reader, Meee666  +, writes (6 September 2010):
My guess is that he is straight. But that doesn't mean he couldn't be a little bi curious. If he asks you 'would you date him if he was gay?' why don't you ask him ;) He seems very open and confident with his sexuality and obviously hasn't got a thing against gays. I'd hate to ruin such a beautiful friendship but you could just tell him you think that you're gay. From the sounds of things, he'd be fine with it.
And you never know, he could reply with "Me too!" :)
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reader, Fefi  +, writes (6 September 2010):
 it might just be a chance that he is wittingly funny and likes to exciten the atmosphere..
but in my honest opinion, he wants you all over, because it looks like he is most comfortable with you than anyone else. he gives away such flimsy signs that he is attracted to you, c'mon, he puts his arm around you?!?!
YOU SHOULD BE EXCITED DUDE!
as for the talk about the girls, in my deepest opinion, he is waiting for your reaction, he may want to turn you on or get jelous over it; there's also a chance that he is bi..
he may be thinking the exact same thing about you now..
good luck and tell me how it goes ;)
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reader, jodieleigh  +, writes (6 September 2010):
 just make a move.. only way to find out!
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