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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:THis isn't really a relationship question but I really need some help and guidance right now. I have a friend whom I met in Uni, (a girl) - lets call her Lola. She is wonderful. I have such a great time with her and over the years I have come to love her as a sister. After three years of friendship, I got into a relationship with a man who did not approve of my friendship with this girl- he thought she was a bad influence and that me going out with her or even spending time with her would only lead to trouble. So over time, every time me and Lola made plans I would have to cancel at the last minute. I did sometimes see her without my partner knowing but I made sure we didn't do anything that he would disapprove of (drinking etc). However, today she sent me an email and told me that things felt different and that our friendship does not feel the same anymore. To her it feel like I am neglecting her and every time I cancel plans, its unfair as she only gets to see me once or twice a year. (I moved away from London to live with my partner in another city Up North lol). I understand how she feels, but also I see my partners point of view. I love my partner but I adore my friend and do not want to let her go. I do not have that many mates as it is and she is REALLY special to me. What can I do? Thanks in advance Reply to this Question
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reader, Fefi  +, writes (6 September 2010):
 you are you and you get to make your OWN choices now. you should have a right to see who you want because im sure you see him with his best mates every day.
if, like sab123 suggested, he is only doing this for your protection, then yeah, i guess he has a point, but you know right from wrong and he knows that, your not a kid.
good luck and tell me how it goes ;)
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2010): Well from past experience, he needs to stop being so possessive and let you have your own freedom; he should learn to trust you more, if he can't trust you then he isn't the man for you.
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