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writes:i've been together with this girl for over a year now. about 5 months ago, i found out she cheated on me with a classmate of hers. When nov and december came, everything was fine, but i guess from sep to dec, there had been alot of lies and i keep figuring them out. it hurts alot at that point of time. From then on, i kept to myself. I didn't even want to tell how i i felt. It's like in school, she's ashamed to walk together with me, cause she's afraid that people would think she's a slut. She told me she blocked that guy off facebook and would stop messaging him and stop being friends with him. Turns out, she gave him her twitter account password and facebook password. I'm like what the fuck? She expects me to be there for her at her beck and call. It's January now, school started and she's sitting next to him. i found out about that and she promised me that she would change her seat. Guess what? She did not. Infact, she wants me to accept the fact that she's friends with him. She's still constantly messaging him. What should i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2012): I am sorry...sometimes we don't think. Your girlfreind is extreamly selfish and is only thinking of herself..My advise would be to let her know that you will not be with her because of that and see what she says. Maybe she will wake up and realise how foolish she is being. I believe that she thinks it is easy to walk all over you. You deserve better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2012): just because she wants you to accept it, doesn't mean you have to. Tell her you don't accept it, and prove it by breaking up with her and cutting off all contact with her, for good.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2012): "My girlfriend wants me to accept the fact that she's friends with the guy whom she cheated on me with!"
"What should i do?"
Do you really have to ask?
Do you really lack one microscopic speck of self-respect and self-esteem, good judgement and common sense, morals and values?
Are you really so absolutely, completely and totally devoid of shame or conscience?
Are you really letting your dick overrule your mind and soul to the extent where you're willing to crawl through any gutter, sewer and cesspool as she drags you down to her previously unplumbed sub-oceanic floor depths just because she's an easy lay?
Assuming you answered "yes" to all of the above, my advice is tell your girlfriend to accept the fact she is no longer your girlfriend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2012): Tell her to accept the fact that she's not your girlfriend anymore.
She is forcing you to choose between being with her and respecting yourself. The answer to this one is pretty easy.
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reader, eternallyinfinite  +, writes (2 February 2012):
What should you do?
Well, first of all, she cheated on you. And she's still friends/in contact with the guy. She lies to you. She doesn't want to be seen with you in public.
So ... my question is ... why are you still with her?? I don't see your relationship working out, because she treats you like crap! And you shouldn't put up with it. So, to answer your original question: You should leave her and find someone that treats you properly! (i.e. with respect)
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reader, feeling +, writes (2 February 2012):
time to move on, dont waste any more time on a girl that cannot respect herself or you!! there are so many other girls out there looking for a great guy to be with, be confident and strong.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (2 February 2012):
 Leave her. She's not treating you right, and if you stay with her you are only allowing her to treat you poorly. She does not respect you, she is a cheater, and she does not care for you. I know you care for her, but she is not worthy of your care, or worthy of the time and energy you put into this relationship. This is a one sided relationship.
She's a cheater and she is worried she'll look like a slut when walking next to you? I'd tell her a slut is defined by her actions, not appearance. You'll be happier without her. She doesn't make you happy, she makes you miserable.
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