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writes:i cant decide between 5 dresses which one i should wear for a date.. please someone give me a clue on what type of dress we have to wear on a date. your answer will be appreciated Reply to this Question
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reader, Princess Aunty  +, writes (18 January 2011):
Any ideas on where you going on your first date?If you can, have a conversation with your date to find out where you're going. But be simple with your questions to make sure you dont' sound to controlling. This will help immeasurably, even if you can just get a sense of the formality of the occasion. A good tip is it's always better to be a little overdressed. We've all at some time or another ended up at the baseball game in a frilly, walk-in-the-park sundress, which beats hell out of going to see Itzhak Perlman wearing skateboarding pantsIf you are still on your first few dates with a guy or girl, stay away from the serious dramas, bloody action flicks, and overly sad romantic (mushy-gushy) movies. Try sticking with up-beat, light hearted movies that are in the romantic comedy genre. He'll enjoy the comedy and you can enjoy the little bit of romance.Advice On Shoes: Comfortable vs. SexyFind out if you will be walking, and if so, how far. If the guy's at all exercise or nature oriented, double or triple the estimate he gives you and you'll probably come close to the truth. (And if he flat-out lies about how far the walk is, don't go out with him a second time. Use this estimate to choose the durability and support of your shoes, and if you aren't confident, pack along some cuter, (invariably less comfortable) shoes in a bag. The Little Black Dating DressIf you're having the classic dinner date in a place created to impress women on first dates, the choice is simple. There is no substitute for the little black dress (known in fashion circles as LBD). It is equivalent to the men's fashion outfit: the classic dark grey suit. If you don't have one of these must-haves, get out the catalogs, visit your favorite designer on-line and choose the version that suits you best. Add a purse, pumps and stole to match, and there you have it. For premium wearability, your LBD should be of medium length, and although the classic is sleeveless (meant to be worn with opera-length gloves), choose the sleeve length based on your comfort.The little black dress saw Audrey Hepburn's character through most of "Breakfast at Tiffany's", and there's no reason why you shouldn't wear yours to parties, first dates and anytime you want to feel absolutely classic. Vary your jewelry and accessories, and you can wear it to work, for lunch in the park, shopping with the girls and dancing with the boys (or the other way 'round, if you prefer).The Coffee or Lunch Day time DateIf your date has read the advice columns that say to take the pressure off by having a coffee date or a daytime date, you can expect to dress more casually. In this case, it doesn't much matter what you wear (as long as it's neat and put-together), because you already know they guy is either nervous or non-committal. In the first case, you can graciously put him at ease: in the second, you can keep him guessing.Choice of the low-impact date does not indicate a man's potential as a long-term romance. Cheapskates and guys who aren't sure they want to "really" date will choose the daytime scenario because it's simple and cheap. They get exposure without investment. Nice guys and shy guys will choose this date because of its low-drama possibilities. They get to be with you without having to act like Cary Grant. Nice guys and shy guys will either up the ante or wait quietly in agony for you to express interest in seeing them again. Cheapskates will expect you to pay for your own coffee. Non-committal guys will say they'll call you, then won't.I want to add an aside about the coffee comment above. I struggled with this question for years, and paid for a lot of coffee (and dated several cheapskates) until I figured out the flaw in the feminist tao. You see, feminists are expected to buy their own stuff, and sometimes the guy's stuff too, in order to show how liberated we really are. The mindset is, if you're going to be "freer" than non-feminists, you should expect to pay your own way. The fact is, if you adhere to this policy, you will be less free than other women because you will have less money. The other important fact to consider is that women still earn about 60% of what their male counterparts earn. Until we're paid equally, men should always buy the coffee.There is a creepy idea (often unspoken, often assumed) that if a woman in not planning to become sexually involved with a man, she should pay half. If you ask me, that's selling sex pretty cheap. I say, forget all that crap and hang out with guys who don't have a problem buying your coffee and dinner or waiting until you're good and ready before making any moves on you. Besides all that, if you're dating because you're looking for a commitment, you want a guy who's going to be willing and able to pay on a mortgage, and later, for child support. His willingness to shell out $2.50 for a latte is a very slight indicator of his potential, but it's better than nothing.Who Should Pay on the First Date? Guy vs. GirlAlthough you shouldn't expect to pay for things on a first date, bring along plenty of available funding. At least enough for cab fare home.If you think he's the sincere type and you want to show that you like him (without saying anything scary like, "I like you"), you might add an element to your daytime-date outfit that you don't wear every day just to acknowledge that something nice is happening on this day. Wear a pair of pants one shade nicer than what you usually wear, or trade walking shoes for pumps. Don't make big changes in makeup, though. Men have definite feelings about and reactions to make-up, and if your face looks noticeably different, he will become frightened and disoriented.Wedding and Special Occassion Party DatesPart of the way we judge a potential relationship is by the events we attend together. In straight relationships, going to a wedding with a date is an automatic increase in that relationship's potential intimacy, if the man has invited the woman along. If the woman invites the man and he's not ready for the commitment of witnessing someone else's commitment, he will either decline, bail at the last minute, or attend with great discomfort and break off the relationship soon after. In same or opposite-sex couples, asking someone to attend a wedding with you is a bold maneuver to be taken on only if you're sure your relationship is ready for it, or if you want the other person to break up with you. (A sit-com scenario. Someone asks a woman, "What do you say if you want to get rid of a guy?" Her answer: "I say, 'I love you and I want to have your babies'".If you get asked to a wedding on a first date, you're either with a social inept, a potential stalker, someone who's been in love with you from afar for ten years, someone who thinks it'll be a good way to get laid, or someone who has nothing left to lose. For these reasons, I would not accept such a first date, eliminating the need for discussing what to wear at such a debacle.Dates to Baseball or Sporting Event GamesJeans or chinos, a hat, layers, and bring a thick sweater if you live near the sea. Nothing too sexy, nothing that can't be washed if you have beer spilled on you or if you sit in gum.The Sleaze Factor: Don't Dress Too SexyIt's tempting to dress as sexy as the magazine models, but in the harsh light of day or the romantic candlelight of evening, it rarely works out that way. Sexy has a way of turning sleazy when you least expect it. The artistry of dressing to impress means utilizing restraint, so save the micro-minis and see-through tops for those rumpus-filled evenings at home and opt for looking pretty in public.
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (18 January 2011):
 You live in Saudi Arabia. I thought women and men are not suppsed to go on dates to begin with - or if so, should be chaperoned??
Not only that but whatever dress you wear - and it SHOULD be something modest - you have to wear the black chador and be completely covered, according to my understanding of your country's social customs. Would this not mean that he will not be able to see what you have on underneath your cloak??
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reader, foolishsage +, writes (17 January 2011):
 Somewhat depends on what you two are doing for your date, but as a general note - I agree with the comment about wearing something that makes you feel confident and yet is maybe a little bit on the conservative side. Don't want him to think that you're uptight by being too conservative, but a little conservative is good on a first date for sure.
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reader, Jendorset  +, writes (17 January 2011):
Something comfortable, pretty, not to short and revealing. Or maybe just wear your favourite because then you will feel more confident.
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reader, Fabulosa +, writes (17 January 2011):
 Petina is right. But it also depends on what your doing on this date and what type of relationship are you wanting?
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reader, PotF Fan +, writes (17 January 2011):
 I agree with petinal here but i would add that you should wear what you like cos your opinion is part of who you are and in a good relationship you should love who they are
and not that dress they wore on a date :)
good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2011): This depends a lot on the type of guy and the context of where you are going.
To a certain degree you should mirror his sense of style. If he is very laid back, you should dress perhaps a little more casually.
If he values nice clothes and takes a lot of time grooming himself, then perhaps step it up.
Where is he taking you?
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reader, eternallyinfinite  +, writes (17 January 2011):
Something that you feel comfortable in :) Otherwise, you will probably look and feel awkward (and he might attribute it to you not liking him)
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reader, petina1 +, writes (17 January 2011):
 A nice comfortable one. Fashionable, age appropriate. Don't show too much flesh on a first date, you want him to notice y our eyes and personality first.
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