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*acBreez
writes:So me and my girlfriend just broke up because I keep going to hang out with my friends at least once or twice on the weekends. Should I have just stoped hanging out with my friends to make her happy?
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reader, MacBreez +, writes (27 November 2010):
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2010): Depends, where you doing weekend stuff with her by herself? To prove to her she was important to you?
Going out with the lads is important, as it is going out with your girl. You have to find a mix that works. As long as she was getting to go out with you too, just as a couple, you going out as a couple with your friends and her friends... then no.
If she never got weekend free time with just you, then she's going to complain, most women would, unless they were out chatting guys up as well!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2010): She should allow you to see your friends because friends are just as important. Also as many others have stated here , it is healthy to spend time with others , if you spend to much time with one another , you end up suffocating eachother , so if she doesnt want you to have friends , then she doesn't really get that you have a life too , and you should move on
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reader, DenimandLace44 +, writes (26 November 2010):
 You did the right thing...I think you know you did. I think that you are sad and lonely and second guessing yourself, but down deep you know you cannot live in a relationship that dictates you cannot spend time with friends.
I have been married a looong loooong time, and I would be loony-er than I am, without my girlfriends, and the occasional girls night out. By the same token he needs time with the guys. They may hang out down at the fire house, or they may hunt or fish, but they do it without their wives...its healthy. It starts while you are dating.... hugs, denim
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2010): No, you shouldn't have, it really isn't a big deal to only hang out with them once or twice a week! If your girlfriend was really interested, and wanted the best for you, she would have let you hang out with her friends! My boyfriend is constantly hanging out with friends, and I am always ridiculously busy, it ends up being that I only see him about once a month--if that! On the days when I am free, and he has plans to hang out with his friends, he will always offer to cancel because I am more important, but I told him that he needs to have a life of his own, and that he shouldn't have to drop everything to see me. The girl wasn't interested in your best interests if she was behaving like that. You did the right thing.
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reader, eternallyinfinite  +, writes (26 November 2010):
No, as long as you make sure you balance your time with her. It's healthy and necessary to do things outside of each other.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (26 November 2010):
 No you shouldnt have, not if it was only one or twice a week, at the end of the day you need to spend time with friends as well as a girlfriend. Explain to her that you are not going to stop going out with your friends at the weekend but maybe compromise that you take her on a night out maybe every second weekend.
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