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writes:Man, I'd say I'm feeling like s*** right now, but lemme show y'all my situation:I met this gorgeous girl.I loved her at first sight.I think she loved me too, cause she started gimme signs, for instance: keep staring at me all the time, giving me conversation, this kinda thing. It kept like this for 3 months, I didn't do nothing, and suddenly, she got a boyfriend. Ya know, they don't seem very close to each other, and now can't stop thinking about her.What the hell do you think I should do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2008): Man - I know the feeling! I met a married woman at work a few years ago. Knew in the first 5 minutes of talking to her that she would become a 'problem' to me one day. Recently married at the time, though, so I thought I'd just keep my distance and get on with my job - i.e. show her utmost respect. Over the years my resistance slowly started to crumble. Decided to ask her out earlier this year only to discover that she had started seeing someone since probably late last year (another office guy). In the words of Hugh Grant (FW and a F): "Bugger!". Me: tall slim, Capricorn. Him: short stocky, Gemini. Me: strong quiet posh type. Him: brash geezer type. Me: not very wealthy. Him: slightly wealthier. Me: feeling the heart ache of not being with her. Him: probably feeling the willy ache from being with her. Me: Audi driver. Him: BMW driver. He got there first, basically, and I think she didn't even know I was in the race until I turned up after he crossed the finishing line! Try to be the exact opposite of the guy she is with - this might give you enough of an edge to make you appealling to her in the long run. But don't hang around forever, and remember to hang around on her radar long enough to register. Out of sight is out of mind - so don't let him have a clear run for his money - dangle yourself as the carrot and see if eventually she comes up for a bite. Good luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2008): I read somewhere that when a cat doesn't catch a mouse, it doesn't spend time feeling sorry about it, it just goes for another one!
You've learned from the experience so next time you might hang back less. Don't forget that everyone is different though and some people do prefer a slower approach.
You just need a bit of practice. Maybe there is someone just right for you who you'll meet soon.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (19 November 2008):
Why on earth did you wait so long? What were you waiting for?
Your only hope now is to wait for her to split up with her boyfriend and then when she's a little bit over him then go up and ask her out and tell her you're an idiot and have wanted her all along.
Good Luck!! xx
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