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writes:Promise/purity rings. When you see an older person wearing one, how do you feel about it? I'm 21 years old, and I have worn a "promise" ring since I was quite young. It was given to me by my mother. I don't consider it a "purity" ring per say. I consider it more of a "reminder" ring, a reminder to always be consious of the decisions I make for myself. My ring has no religious ties to it, nor does it relate to abstinece/premarital sex. However, that being said, I have refrained from actual intercourse, but am sexually active (no need to explain that haha). Things happen when they happen, I believe that. So, my question is: If you met someone (with relationship potential) would it affect your feelings for them if they wore a "piruty/promise/reminder/etc." ring? How do you aunt's/uncle's feel about these rings? Let me know what you think about this topic, thanks. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2008): I think a purity ring is a symbol you want to stay sexually pure until you marry. It takes a Special Man to observe, discern, ask questions about you before he approaches you. A man like this is LOOKING for a sexually pure woman, because he values that in her. He has self control and wants to make his wedding night the real deal.If you give your heart/body away to different men in your life, how much will you have left for your husband?Unless you make a decision to change the way you're living, you really shouldn't wear this ring.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2008): I like the idea. I don't think it necessarily means you have to remain a virgin until your married. I like the idea of it being a reminder to be careful about the decisions you made. And, I think any guys you date will feel important because they will know how careful you are about your choices.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (20 November 2008):
Well I was a man and I met you then I would check which finger it was on. If it was on your ring finger then I would assume you were married and back off - and if you came on to me I'd be worried as you had a boyfriend / husband who might come after me.
If you just wear it on any other finger then I'd just assume it was a ring and ignore it unless it had "SEX IS BAD!!!" engraved on it, which I doubt it does.
What jewellery you wear is up to you, but if you wear it like a wedding / engagement ring then it is open to misinterpretation.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2008): well, i am a girl, and if i ever imagined meeting aguy with a promise ring, i think i would respect hima nd his decsion, but maybe a bit less if his parents gave it to him and it wasnt fully his decision. also, it is good to be able to see if you and your partner are sexually compatable before you get married. i wouldnt not date a guy because he had a promise ring though.
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