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writes:I am 33, married to a 34-year-old man, we've got a 6-year-old son and a 5-year-old daughter.Recently some longtime friends of ours asked our husband to cook for their wedding (my husband is a particularly good cook) and he did.I thought all was well, until all the guests, including me, and the bride and groom, came down with food poisoning.A few weeks after the incident, and when everyone had recovered, I got a furious phone call off my friend saying that she never wanted to see my husband again, and neither does her husband (who says he wants to never speak to him again!)I asked my husband why he gave everyone food poisoning, and he said he was stressed out from work-related issues, but didn't want to offend our friends either. His cooking's never normally given people food poisoning. He said he'd lost his confidence at cookery.How do I heal the rift and resolve this?? My husband's a good man, a good father, and well-liked, so I can't get why our friends turned against him.Jennifer
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (20 November 2008):
Food poisoning can kill.... and if it doesn't it's really not very nice.
I think it's perfectly justified that they would be a little bit miffed with the person who did this to them.
Give them time and they will forgive him. He'll just have some apologising to do... and possibly buying a nice gift for the bride and groom.
And next time, if he is stressed with work and asked to cook for a wedding, get him to ask for someone to come in and help him.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2008): Wow, I might be wrong, but I don't think your husband caused the food poisiong on purpose. There probaably was something major that went wrong and he must be feeling "rotten" about it. Please give him your love and support... I do believe you need to talk to him about this wihtout judging him and he needs a chance to explain the facts to the bridal couple.
Be patient and be loving and caring...this is something that can happen to any cook and it must be very humiliating and soul destroying to him.
We can all make mistakes, but maybe this was not even his mistake, however, as an old Chinese Proverb is saying:
" Do not use a hatchet to remove a fly from your friend's forehead".
do not judge in haste.
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