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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2008): just came out of a similar situation. guy i met had a girlfriend said they didn't get along. made myself available didn't take me up on my offer. so this went on for a while and like an idiot i stuck around for it he played around with my feeling for a long time and i fell in love with him. we did eventually get together he used me and i ended up being cheated on too. so what goes around comes around. believe me its not worth it. i ended up with a broken heart and a guilty concious.
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reader, eddie  +, writes (19 November 2008):
 Maybe his integrity is causing him grief. Maybe he discovered he has more moral fibre than.....hmmm...the woman chasing him. Maybe he's not interested. The fact is, you should leave him alone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2008): I don't try to figure out guys anymore. I know for sure you get what you see. You offered to meet with him so many times and he doesn't want to, there is no much room here for any hope. I don't pursue guys, they like the chase, so I give it to them. I give them my phone number, but never take theirs, only when I intend not to call. The funny part is more than half of them never call. I stoped caring about it long ago. They do what they want, and we spend too much time trying to figure them out.It has nothing to do with how you look, or your age. If he really liked you he would find ways to meet up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all your advice! - Some guys I just can't make out!! - He's not a bouncer by the way - he's only little!!
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reader, Conslw  +, writes (18 November 2008):
Okay well I have several ways I could answer but I try to explain it the best I can in one way with out going all moral. Ask yourself this :Do you want a guy who takes it that easily? what if you fall for this guy since you are already feeling like you would do anything for him. Say hypothetical situation he takes you up on your offer and cheats on his gf and even leaves her. What happens when you are her? and some other woman wants him like you? Do you want him to be that way? or do you think it would be different? Personally it sounds like he knows it's there and is tempted but afraid of the reprocussions (maybe he actually is afraid to lose his girlfriend or at the very least doesn't want to hurt her) and really has nothing to do with how attractive you are and sexually appealing.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (18 November 2008):
Look, there is only so much you can do without actually kidnapping him and tying him up in your bedroom.
If he is too pitiful to get out from under his girlfriend's thumb to get with you then he is not worth hanging around for.
He's had his chance, it's his loss if he doesn't take it.
Move on.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, Butterflyfly +, writes (18 November 2008):
 and please do not tell me he a bouncer in a westend nightclub... I dont know, just a wild guess.
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reader, viethuni228 +, writes (18 November 2008):
Usually it does happen that way when guys are given the opportunity they take it. Even if you are irresistable he might resist the temptation because he loves and cares about his girlfriend. So he tells you that she doesn't get on with him. It really doesn't matter when you love someone nothing else matters and maybe that's how he feels. This time it's not you it's him literally.
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reader, Butterflyfly +, writes (18 November 2008):
If he confessed to you he doesnt get on with his gf he sounds like he likes to be the puppy bunny little boy and perhaps expecting you to persuade him more to court him out of his reluctance? He seems like he doesnt know what he wants. Expects 'mummy' /as in any other woman to make the decisions. Why has he got a gf if he doesnt get on wiht her? Why would he share that info with you?
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reader, Skeez +, writes (18 November 2008):
 hes got a girlfriend. simple as that.
To me it sounds as though hes just probably making up all these stories about him and his gf not getting on and he just wants a bit at the side.
Or there could be a possible chance hes terrified his girl will find out and i think any boyfriend would.
You should deffinetly talk to him about this and ask him where exactly is this leading to. Tell him if he wants you to be together, then he does it and leaves his girlfriend.
But to be honest i think you should go find someone else who hasnt got strings attatched.
youll be much better offf.
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