I thought we were in a relationship but obviously she didn't agree!
Q. I met this girl at a mall, and for the first time, i asked a girl for her number, and i succeeded in doing so. We texted each other for a little bit, then, to kinda test her, i didnt text for about 5 days, she texted me back, and she started ...
A. 19 October 2010: The girl herself started calling him "baby" and "sweetheart" just after 5 days. That gives the idea that they're close, if not in a relationship. I know I call a guy those names only when we're in a relationship. I do agree with Dear Jilly however ... (read in full...)
Wife wasn't happy about my marriage proposal, what can I do about it now?
Q. Hi there This is a question for men and women! I'm looking forward to get answers from both, male and female! I proposed my now-wife 1 1/2 years ago. She said yes, but was very disappointed by the way I asked. So I asked her a second time beca...
A. 16 October 2010: What an immature lady! You asked her TWICE, had a great wedding, yet she's not satisfied?! Personally, I wouldn't care how I got asked to be married. As long as the person I love is asking that question, then everything about it would be perfect.
B... (read in full...)
Can I trust his wife around my child
Q. Moderator's Note: Two questions combined. Q: 1I need help and understanding of what I should do. I was in a relationship/affair whatever u wanna call it with a married man. I am now pregnant by him and due next month, and he is also back with his...
A. 16 October 2010: The child's father will always be his/her father, so you can't change anything about that. You will want to keep the father in your child's life, but that doesn't mean you have to live with him if you don't think the relationship between you two is ... (read in full...)
Why would she stand me up after I flew 3,000 miles?
Q. I have been talking to a girl long distance for over a year now. We talk on the phone everyday for over an hour a day. She's mentioned she likes me but she doesn't know what it means. She also says she kind of dating someone. So I flew to go me...
A. 15 October 2010: Well in that case, I'm sorry she stood you up like that. She might have gotten nervous last second and decided to bail out. Some people like the comfort of the internet and might not be so willing to finally show themselves.
Has she contacted you ... (read in full...)
How can I get up the nerve to break things off with my long distance girlfriend?
Q. I'm a rather shy guy, and not very good at standing up for myself, so it was really hard to try and break up with my girlfriend. My girlfriend and I had been long distance for well over a year, but things haven't been going so well. I decided that ...
A. 15 October 2010: You both deserve the right to be happy in a relationship, so if the person you're with currently isn't helping you meet that need, you need to move on. You don't want to be miserable for more time than you already have. However, I would say to ... (read in full...)
Why would she stand me up after I flew 3,000 miles?
Q. I have been talking to a girl long distance for over a year now. We talk on the phone everyday for over an hour a day. She's mentioned she likes me but she doesn't know what it means. She also says she kind of dating someone. So I flew to go me...
A. 14 October 2010: Did you ask her if she wanted to meet BEFORE you flew out? Did she say yes/no? If she said yes then stood you up, only then does she deserve blame. But if she had said no and you still flew out to see her, then the blame is solely on you. If she ... (read in full...)
Can some Turkish people please tell me how serious it is to meet Turkish parents?
Q. I have been dating a Turkish man born in Konya for 6 months, including a 3-month long-distance period. Recently, his family came to visit him and he hasn't mentioned me in front of his family at all. He directly told me that at this st...
A. 23 May 2010: It's not just about religion. Turkish people are very cultural and has their strong traditions. His parents want him to marry a Turkish girl because she'll know the culture and traditions and follow them. He wants to wait to let you meet his family ... (read in full...)
How can I build a relationship with my mother?
Q. Okay, here it goes.. I've offten wondered.. am I wrong?.. IS all of this my fault?.. Am I bringing all this on myself?..Am I just emotional?.. I keep doubting myself.. and now I wonder..am I broken?.. I've had just the worst relationship with my ...
A. 30 April 2010: Your mom was young when she had you. She wasn't mature enough to understand that once you have a baby you're supposed to take care of it, not just physically but emotionally too. When I see 17 year olds today, most of them would not be willing to ... (read in full...)
Should I pursue this secret relationship with this teacher?
Q. Ok, so I need some help. I'm 21 years old and just got a job at my school 2 months ago to help out another teacher with some things. I work in an office house, where there are 6 or 7 teacher offices. I work in the kitchen, so when teachers pass ...
A. 25 April 2010: Don't get involved with a man that is married and has kids!!! It also feels like he might be doing this with other pretty girls he meets. Sort of like, "if she says no, I'll find another." The fact that he's married (and has children!), yet he's ... (read in full...)
I just had a horrible "first time", or what should have been. I'm too hurt to move on, what do I do?
Q. "Wow, hun...You're so much smaller than my ex...I'm sorry." That's what she told me when we were just about to...yeah Then she got up, apologized, and left quietly. I felt so terrible after, I actually cried lol. We don't see each other anymore. ...
A. 24 April 2010: Size wouldn't matter in a serious relationship, because in a serious relationship you've come to love the person for who they are, not for the size of a body part. You didn't say whether you were in a relationship with this girl, or if it was just a ... (read in full...)
I hate Facebook.
Q. Well, I really need advice. My boyfriend and I had been together 2 years. We started having problems and needed time apart. The arguments were about money and stress and living in a too small apartment. We both loved each other,but then one day ...
A. 18 April 2010: If this going out he did was during the time you were broken up, then I don't know why you would stay bothered about it. He didn't concern himself with your opinions about his partying because you weren't together anymore. His friends not knowing ... (read in full...)
I can't trust a single freaking person on the face of the earth not even my husband.
Q. How does anyone trust anyone? How can you believe what anyone says without having proof? How the hell do I know that my husband isn't talking bad and acting bad behind my back if i never have proof that he isnt?? It's not just faith.. you can't ...
A. 27 March 2010: I understand how you feel. I also feel like I can't trust anyone. I can't believe what people say, or trust in what they do because I think they are doing the opposite behind my back. I don't want to be the fool, that's why I can't trust anyone; I ... (read in full...)
What physical attributes do you like in a man?
Q. What physical attributes (body parts) do you like in a man? Ladies, here is a question which I hope you take your time in answering. I bet you Women hear that most guys love a women's "butt" or Breasts" or even "Height"...so now its your turn....
A. 23 March 2010: How fun! I get to say what I like in a man! =D
I like facial hair; strong, masculine hands; doesn't necessarily need to be fit, but in good shape; needs to have body hair!; have a prominent nose (not huge, but small is too feminine for me); be tall... (read in full...)
She wont look at me when I talk to her, why is she doing this?
Q. I talked to a girl that ive found cute after class that has the same major as me in collage that seems really timid. She doesn't talk ever even when the rest of the class has conversations and just sits and stairs at her computer working or surfing ...
A. 22 March 2010: I bet she's a very self-conscious girl, which is usually how shy people are. When I was younger, I was a shy individual and didn't feel comfortable looking into people's eyes, or being looked at straight to my face. I was afraid they would notice a ... (read in full...)
I feel horrible that my wife was crying whilst we had sex! Does this mean she finds me repulsive?
Q. hi this is driving me nuts. me and my partner have been together for about 5 years we have children together and seem happy we have are ups and downs no big deal.but are sex life has got dull and not a lot of it i mean big gaps.we both made jokes ...
A. 22 March 2010: Maybe she was crying because of how sweet you were to do what you did (lighting candles, the massage)?
Tell her to have a frank talk with you about anything bothering her. Your sex life can be improved with a little more variety and imag... (read in full...)
My husband has colon cancer... need prayer and information.
Q. Hi. I have been married for over a year and a half now. July 16th will be our two-year anniversary. My husband has stomach and colon cancer. His hair is starting to fall out. He recently lost his job, and will be trying to look for another one so t...
A. 22 March 2010: I will pray for him, and pray for you too. Hearing a loved one has cancer is tough, but those who are patient are rewarded with Heaven (according to my religious beliefs). I will continue to pray for both of you.
I know two people who had colon canc... (read in full...)
He refered to me as his girlfriend, but his facebook status still says he is single.
Q. Heyy Okay, I have started seeing this guy, however he works on cruise ships and I see him every 4 month. I know what seeing each other means, but when I asked him what he meant ... ie seeing only each other or seeing each other with no committmen...
A. 21 March 2010: He either doesn't see the need in changing it, it's out of his mind, or he forgot. Those relationship statuses on Facebook aren't really a big deal to me, like I wouldn't go change it (it wouldn't be the first thing I think of) whether I'm single, ... (read in full...)
I have large labia minora. Please help, and give me your opinions!
Q. Hi, I'm 16, and i have large labora minora (outer vaginal lips) i worry constantly, and what happens when it gets to the stage when i'm going a bit further in relationships? Please, male and female, give me your opinions. and i know its normal,...
A. 21 March 2010: The way to overcome that worry is to only go further with a guy you know loves you and respects your body. A guy like that will love every part of your part however different it looks. Another advice I can give you is to stop calling it "gross." ... (read in full...)
Molested by dad's friend?
Q. My friend let's call her "Giselle" and myself were touched by my parents friend. Last Friday my parents were having a small party most of the people there were grown-ups that worked at the University with my dad. Anyway half way through the party my ...
A. 21 March 2010: How horrible!! I can't believe your dad let a stranger sleep at your house! You need to tell your parents STRAIGHT AWAY. No matter how hard it is, you need to do it. A man like this shouldn't be out in public molesting girls! This was in no way y... (read in full...)
I have large labia minora. Please help, and give me your opinions!
Q. Hi, I'm 16, and i have large labora minora (outer vaginal lips) i worry constantly, and what happens when it gets to the stage when i'm going a bit further in relationships? Please, male and female, give me your opinions. and i know its normal,...
A. 21 March 2010: "No one else seems to have this problem" - that is incorrect. Almost all growing girls tend to have this insecurity.
Trust me, no sane guy is going to mind how your vagina looks like. Vaginae come in different shapes, and like other parts of your... (read in full...)
Is this guy crazy? Is he dangerous?
Q. It is me again. Thank you to everyone for thier wonderful words of advice and wisdom. I met a charming man online. we have been communicating mostly through email and a few phone calls for three months. I have not had sex for years and years as I ...
A. 21 March 2010: Yeah, sounds like he's just being sarcastic. He's letting you know how far fetched your idea of him being an ax murderer and rapist was, so he did it with this sarcastic comment. You might have meant what you said jokingly, but people can't really ... (read in full...)
I'm concernd about the size of my penis?
Q. My current girlfriend, who had sex with one person before told me that he had a small penis, but she later told me that it was 6 inches, which I certainly don't consider small. She also told me that having sex didn't feel good at all with him. She ...
A. 20 March 2010: No, don't be concerned. A guy that knows how to use it is what makes the sex good/bad. I see the girth as being more important as that's what makes it feel more "full."
Every guy is different. Six inches on one guy isn't going to be the same on a... (read in full...)
Advice on oral sex techniques
Q. Need some advice on better oral sex techniques. The problem is that I used to be able to get my girlfriend to cum fairly easily. She explained that it's hard for her to do it so the oral sessions would last up to 40mins. She used to ask me if my ...
A. 20 March 2010: One other thing, she shouldn't make this seem like it's your fault. It's not your fault! ... (read in full...)
Advice on oral sex techniques
Q. Need some advice on better oral sex techniques. The problem is that I used to be able to get my girlfriend to cum fairly easily. She explained that it's hard for her to do it so the oral sessions would last up to 40mins. She used to ask me if my ...
A. 20 March 2010: I think you need to incorporate some variety. Alternate between kissing her in different places, massaging her, etc. so she doesn't become desensitized. By the way, I don't think she was lying when she said that about you =)... (read in full...)
Has he already lost interest so early on?
Q. So, I'm a little confused about a guy I have been dating. We've only been on 3 dates and I know it's still VERY early in the dating stages but I can't help but wonder what his intentions are. For instance--he is a great guy, VERY gentlemanly and ...
A. 20 March 2010: Doesn't sound like he's lost interest at all! Maybe he's just not the type of guy that like to talk on the phone, text, etc. The things he says and does while on your date is proof enough that he's interested. The reason why you haven't heard fr... (read in full...)
He fell asleep on me during sex. Should I have said what I did?
Q. Me and this guy started out like 5 months ago... we are both very busy people, and just get to see each other after 12pm or on weekends, since he works at morning and I work on evenings. He sometimes picks me up from work and we go est something. ...
A. 19 March 2010: Are you sure he isn't narcoleptic? Just falling asleep like that doesn't sound normal...
Anyways, what you said wasn't rude. He needed to hear it =) If you can't even say that without the fear it being rude then your relationship needs work. ... (read in full...)
My ex wants to talk, I don't. How do I gently tell him no?
Q. Hi, My exboyfriend contacted me last week (through email) and asked me to get together personally so we can talk. We broke up three years ago. Then I would've been very interested in talking to him, not now. There were things about the past I...
A. 18 March 2010: Your reply to him doesn't sound harsh. If you want him to get the idea, you have to be straightforward with it. "I'm sorry, but I'm not interested." Then include something like, "Hope you're doing well." ... (read in full...)
Three months later and she still won't introduce me to her family.
Q. My girlfriend is 19 I'm 30! That has been going for 3 months. Her family knows me, 3 close friends of her know about her and me but she won't tell her family about her and me, she won't let me meet her other friends! She says she don't want to be ...
A. 18 March 2010: Well, I think she's just worried what they might think because of the age gap. For being together for three months, the number of people who know about you two is good at this point. She might need more time to introduce you to her family.
I do t... (read in full...)
Should I stay in a sour relationship with a much older man for the sake of my son?
Q. my boyfriend is 53 and I 21 have been together for 2 years and we have a son together he is a very mean person, he never shows me any affection and and when i try to confont him about it he says wait and see. which is funny because its been this ...
A. 18 March 2010: Be with the one who will show you love. Staying in a bad relationship for the sake of children is not a good idea. You want your children to grow up knowing love, not hate. You marry the man because he loves you, not because you share a child.... (read in full...)
He refuses to admit he is still talking to this other woman, should I just leave?
Q. Boyfriend texts a another woman and wont stop. I have been seeing him for 2 years. Quite early on in the relationship my phone broke and I put my chip in his phone (in his presence) just to check my messages. I saw many explicit text between him ...
A. 17 March 2010: We're all glad you did.... (read in full...)
Will allowing my wife to sleep with other men get her through her mid life crisis?
Q. My wife has came to me with the idea that she wants to sleep with other men. She is madly in love with me and our sex life is incredible. She has been chatting online with other men and has lined up her first "dude" for this Friday night. She is ...
A. 17 March 2010: Not every urge is to be satisfied. If people went around doing whatever they felt like doing, the world would be in chaos.
To me this doesn't sound like a "midlife crisis" she's going through, it simply sounds like she wants to try a threesome. She ... (read in full...)
He refuses to admit he is still talking to this other woman, should I just leave?
Q. Boyfriend texts a another woman and wont stop. I have been seeing him for 2 years. Quite early on in the relationship my phone broke and I put my chip in his phone (in his presence) just to check my messages. I saw many explicit text between him ...
A. 16 March 2010: You don't deserve this man, you deserve someone greater. If he's unwilling to stop ruining your relationship, and this other girl's marriage, then he's an almighty jerk.
You're entitled to someone far much better than this guy. Even after you'... (read in full...)
I really need some help with my insecurities and depression, what steps can I take?
Q. I'm 26 and am in a relationship with a lovely guy, aged 27, and have been for almost 18 months. I suffer with severe depression and anxiety. I'm on anti depressants, (Sertraline), and I'm receiving counselling. I've been quite open over my feelings ...
A. 16 March 2010: Your boyfriend (who sounds like a lovely guy) has done nothing for you to have doubts. Focus on this fact. Don't expect the worst; think positive. Always keep in your mind, "He loves me. I trust him." I understand those panicky feelings because ... (read in full...)
When I slept with him I had no idea he had a pregnant girlfriend! Why is this my fault?
Q. Ok so about two months ago i had sex with this guy who already had a girlfriend and she's pregnant. I was the one who asked him to have sex with me but i had no idea he had a girlfriend especially a pregnant one. but anyways when we did it we got ...
A. 16 March 2010: How is this your fault?! It's not! You didn't know he had a girlfriend, one that is pregnant on top of that. He's the one who should've let you know he was in a relationship. Like CaringGuy said, he's blaming you cause it's easier than blaming ... (read in full...)
If she didn't want to talk to me, why did she give me her number?
Q. ...so this girl at my school i like somewhat gives me her number..so i wait about 3 to 4 days..and i send her a text saying is she there....she reply who is this..i say it was me...after about 9 min i get no reply so i send her another asking did ...
A. 16 March 2010: I don't understand either why someone would give their number if they're just going to ignore the caller??
It sounds like she's not interested. She might have thought, "if I reply that could been seen as a signal that I'm interested." Or maybe she ... (read in full...)
I don't know if I'm ugly or not...you tell me
Q. I'm 13 and guys and everyone else calls me fat and ugly but most of the time the call me a cow and moo at me down the hallway I would punch them but don't need an 8 write up. These kind of ppl make me so angry they make me crazy and my mother has ...
A. 14 March 2010: You are most absolutely NOT ugly! ... (read in full...)
I can't let it go... I'm always going to wonder what the heck his story is!
Q. alright, I have this guy friend. We go to the same college, a large school but by no means huge. We worked together on a group project early first semester and I started to fall for him a bit then. I didn't know until a couple months later when just ...
A. 14 March 2010: Honestly, to me it sounds like he's just being a really good friend. You can tell him how you feel, maybe in a "it's not a big deal" kind of way. Then, if he says he's already in a good relationship with his girlfriend, you can be like "Yeah, that's ... (read in full...)
I want to see a virginal vagina!
Q. Of all the porn that is there on the net, and in hard copy, i have seldom come across a photograph of a real virgin girl with her hymen intact. I am a male and from a conservative society, and am going to marry soon. The marriage is an arranged ...
A. 13 March 2010: From your location, I can (accurately) guess that you are a Muslim, and I happen to be familiar with the culture. So I will take that fact into account when answering.
Like others before me have said, for many reasons a hymen is not always inta... (read in full...)
I kissed a guy and I don't think he wanted me to... Help!
Q. Hi. So im a girl and this guy kissed me on the cheek. when he left he kissed me on the cheek i did too, but it turned out to be the lips and i dont know if he wanted to kiss me only the lips. so im afraid ot talk to him or text him or even see him. ...
A. 13 March 2010: Don't worry about it, I'm sure he didn't mind at all. Actually, he might have liked that you did that =)
If you have reason to think he didn't like it, tell him that the kiss meant for the cheek turned into the lips accidentally. Make a joke abou... (read in full...)
He got married last April but has added me on Facebook again! What is he playing at?
Q. last year my ex fiance contacted me via facebook stating he wanted to be friends-there was a lot of bad history so i was happy to clear the air. then he started doing weird stuff like only contacting me early in the morning etc and showing off his ...
A. 13 March 2010: Well in that case, I guess it's better to just move on and ignore him from now on. Stop trying to "clear the air." He's married and there's nothing more you can do. ... (read in full...)
He got married last April but has added me on Facebook again! What is he playing at?
Q. last year my ex fiance contacted me via facebook stating he wanted to be friends-there was a lot of bad history so i was happy to clear the air. then he started doing weird stuff like only contacting me early in the morning etc and showing off his ...
A. 12 March 2010: He appreciated your relationship as he said, you were a big part of his life. I don't think he was showing off anything. He just wanted to share what's going on in his life with you. As you were on good terms, he probably thought you wouldn't see it ... (read in full...)
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