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41-50,
anonymous
writes:last year my ex fiance contacted me via facebook stating he wanted to be friends-there was a lot of bad history so i was happy to clear the air. then he started doing weird stuff like only contacting me early in the morning etc and showing off his wedding and new house so i broke off the friendship but still hadnt cleared the air so stupidly re-added him. he was still showing off etc so i broke ties once and for all. that was last september at xmas he sent me a big long email which i never responded to saying how i was a big part of his life-how could he forget me blah blah and now last week has requested me as a friend again !!! he only got married last april so whats he playing at please help
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reader, ElectricSheep  +, writes (13 March 2010):
 Well in that case, I guess it's better to just move on and ignore him from now on. Stop trying to "clear the air." He's married and there's nothing more you can do.
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (12 March 2010):
 Whatever he is doing, it's messing with your head and taking up your valuable time. I think the act of displaying ones wedding and life to any kind of ex fiance is extremely cruel...you must feel like he is rubbing your nose in it.
I can understand you wanting to clear the air, but a heartfelt 'I am sorry and when we were together you meant a lot to me but I have moved on' would be enough. There is little point in keeping contact, even if it was you that broke off the relationship with him.
I wonder if that was it and he is trying to prove to you that he was marriage material.
Either way, you have closure, make a decision to get over the situation and remove him from your facebook. He will get the message and hopefully stop bothering you.
If he is unhappy in his new marriage then it's his business and his responsibility to sort it out. For whatever reason you guys wern't meant to make it, not then and not now.
Forget him and his games and move on.
xxxx AE xxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2010): hi we didnt part on good terms hence my wanting to clear the air
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reader, ElectricSheep +, writes (12 March 2010):
He appreciated your relationship as he said, you were a big part of his life. I don't think he was showing off anything. He just wanted to share what's going on in his life with you. As you were on good terms, he probably thought you wouldn't see it as showing off or being weird. I know I wouldn't be bothered if an ex was telling me about his wedding, new house, etc. if we were on good terms.
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