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writes:Me and this guy started out like 5 months ago... we are both very busy people, and just get to see each other after 12pm or on weekends, since he works at morning and I work on evenings. He sometimes picks me up from work and we go est something. Last night he really wanted to have sex and I wanted it too, and we have a really good sexual relationship. He is really passionate... usually he wakes up at 5am and gets home around 7pm from work and takes a nap before I get home and so we stay a little late.Well yesterday he really wanted to have sex.. and in the middle of it, he fell asleep... so I thought to myself that it woukd be really inconsiderate of me to wake him up, so he wakes up again and wants to try, bur falls asleep again.. 10min later, the same thing... so he tells ME! "You don't want to do it anymore?" and I said "Of course I did, but you always do this to me.. you get me going, and in the middle of it you fall alseep, and I told you at the beginnng that you were too tired that its better if we sleep, and you get stuborn and say no, but you fall asleep anyway!" Do you think it was rude of me to say that? I mean i did tell him that we did not HAVE to do it, but he would insist on it and I kept telling him that it was really okay and I kept being very sweet with him... I didnt sound mad... but was that somethng bad to say? He feels really sorry for yesterday... but I don't want him to think I'm an inconsiderate woman! Reply to this Question
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reader, anysecondnow  +, writes (19 March 2010):
Of course you didn't say anything wrong. You were understandably a little frustrated.
But next time you could just say... yeah, sorry love, I don't feel like it anymore, and just ask him to hold you. That way you will make him feel valued and needed and won't hurt his ego...
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reader, ElectricSheep +, writes (19 March 2010):
 Are you sure he isn't narcoleptic? Just falling asleep like that doesn't sound normal...
Anyways, what you said wasn't rude. He needed to hear it =) If you can't even say that without the fear it being rude then your relationship needs work.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (18 March 2010):
No. I think you are right for saying something. What is the use of having sex if all he does is fall asleep?
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reader, Kenj +, writes (18 March 2010):
 I dont think it was wrong of you to say something. Your not being inconsiderate.
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