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writes:So, I'm a little confused about a guy I have been dating. We've only been on 3 dates and I know it's still VERY early in the dating stages but I can't help but wonder what his intentions are. For instance--he is a great guy, VERY gentlemanly and takes a genuine interest in what I have to say on our dates. He asks about my life and my family and we always have great conversations. He also remembers important things/details of my stories and remembers them. We're always talking when we are out and he has opened up a lot about his life. I'm starting to really like him! Our dates have been all-day long dates and have always been a blast. We flirt with each other, laugh, and just have a nice time. One thing I've thought was interesting is that he has yet to try to kiss me. However, he loves holding my hand and will put his arms around me while we are walking. He also makes great eye contact with me and lingers his gaze..so much so that I have to be the one who looks away because I get nervous! The only problem is that I hardly hear from him during the week or ever unless he contacts me for a specific reason (ie: planning the next date). And when he does want to plan something he'll just text me.I realize it's early but shouldn't he be texting me more often? Or calling me? We've only talked on the phone twice and the first time was because I asked him to.. the second was the first (and only!) time he called for no reason. He HAS texted me for no reason but it's only be a few times because like I said, it's usually only to initiate a date. We've both; however, expressed a mutual interest in each other and when we are on our dates things are wonderful! Is he serious about me? What should I think about this? I've always been told that if a guy likes you he'll want to talk to you a lot.. he's never texted me a lot but after our last date (the 3rd) he's not contacted me at all except for right after the date telling me he had a good time and that he could still smell my perfume. A few days passed and I thought to text him.. and told him he should call me. He seemed receptive but that was 4 days ago and still haven't heard anything from him. The last date was last Saturday.. any thoughts?
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reader, kayla20  +, writes (20 March 2010):
 his free to do as he pleases maybe he might be a little shy which is why he isnt contacting or initiating a kiss he might want to take things slowly.some guys dont really like texting or calling that could be another reason.id say let him do the chasing dont contact him unless he contacts you and see what happens yourl soon know if he is interested
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2010): Sounds like he could potentially be a really great guy. It sounds like he want to take his time. Sounds like he might be a busy guy and doesn't like to talk on the phone. Doesn't sound like he is not into you. Relationships take time to develop and maybe this guy is very patient.
I personally hate talking on the phone and texting and I avoid both activities as much as possible.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (20 March 2010):
 The relationship hasn't begun yet. You are sure you want to be with him while he still wants to get to know you better. Just have to assume everything is fine if he's planning the next dates. Guys can be extremely frustrating but if you can be patient and keep the mystery going that would make him crazy for you. You can be sure you are going to see him every weekend. I wouldn't recommend reading the book Date like a Man. I suggest you just relax until you see him again.
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reader, ElectricSheep +, writes (20 March 2010):
 Doesn't sound like he's lost interest at all! Maybe he's just not the type of guy that like to talk on the phone, text, etc. The things he says and does while on your date is proof enough that he's interested. The reason why you haven't heard from him for four days could be because he's busy, or like I said, he's not really a "phone guy."
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