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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:My friend let's call her "Giselle" and myself were touched by my parents friend. Last Friday my parents were having a small party most of the people there were grown-ups that worked at the University with my dad. Anyway half way through the party my dad told me that one of the new teachers would be staying with us for the night, so he wanted me and "Giselle" to go introduce ourselves. At first we thought that he was going to be this really old guy, but we were quite shocked that he was young about 27 or 28, really good-looking, had long blonde hair wore it a ponytail. Anyway he seemed nice enough, really friendly. Basically making small conversation. Anyway it had gotten late (around midnight) and the party had started to die down, so me and my friend had went to bed. At around 1am I heard a knock on my door. At first I though it was probably Giselle, but it was my dad's friend. He had asked if he could come in, So I let him in and he started talking to me. Asking me about school, my friends, about Montreal in general. Then he started telling me about how much my dad talks about me to him. Telling me how I'm his "little girl", the "princess" of the family etc.. Then I started noticing that his hand was on my knee. I started to get really uncomfortable so I told him and asked him if he would mind leaving. He got up and went to the door and closed it and locked it. I got really scared and asked him what he was doing and he started coming towards me and he pushed me on my bed and started to touch/rub and kiss me everywere. I kept crying and trying to push him off but he kept shushing me and telling me how much I would "enjoy it" and how he could see that I wanted "it". The whole thing lasted for about 15 minutes and after that he had got up and helped me put on my shirt and told me that it was going to be our "little secret". I started to cry and just wanted to pretend it was all a bad dream and that it never happend. A few hours later at around 3am I heard more knocking on my door. I though it might be him so I was scared to open my door until I heard Giselle's voice. She was shaking and crying and wouldn't tell me what was wrong. After a few minutes she told me that my dad's friend had come in and got on top of her and started touching her like he done me. Since then I keep wanting to tell my parents but I keep getting scared. Sometimes I think it's my fault and my parents aren't going to believe me. "Giselle" she goes on like nothing happened and everything's fine. But it's not. Saying she just wants to forget about it. We're both getting ready to turn 17. Both "Giselle" and I want to tell our parents espeically our dads but we're not sure what their reactions are going to be or how to tell them.
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reader, trigger18  +, writes (22 March 2010):
hunny i know that its going to be hard but u must tell your parrents and the police. didnt you say that this guy is supposede to be a teacher? this guy a problem that needs to be addressed and if hes let lose around a heaps of young women like urself who knows how far he may go to do wot he did to you.. to others as well. you never know hes done this to others as well. if you speak up about this then others if there are any may come forward and you can put this guy away. dont forget that you can always do this anonomously and all you will have to do is identify the guy. you will be doing the right thing by telling ur parents. that guy wont stand a chance againt the cops if ur friend comes forward too and testifys. especially as she was molested within a few hours of u and in the same premisis. get this guy locked up hunny and u will then be able to start ur recovery from such a devastating night.
be brave hunny and good luck xx
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reader, C. Grant +, writes (21 March 2010):
 You must tell your parents. And if they don't immediately call the police, call them yourself. What he did in not only inexcusable, it's *criminal*.
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reader, rotarosca +, writes (21 March 2010):
You need to tell your parents so that it does not repeat itself. He may have a psychological problem. Take heart and take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2010): In telling this story, you've got to be careful.
The first thing to know: most people, especially males, will not believe you. Be prepared emotionally for it.
Also, because of the legal system, without evidence and witnesses, you're in store for a huge challenge for corrective action against your predator.
You do have a right to file a police report. As a minor, one great plus about our system is you can file police reports, and then you are protected with anonymity because you are a minor. Also, should you send copies of your report to vital people such as your father, the predator's employer, your mother, and your friend's parents, there is no legal recourse against you because you are a minor.
In telling others, you are doing a favor to them; taking the chance of protecting someone else from the same assault. More importantly, you increase your chance of protection from this guy.
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reader, ElectricSheep  +, writes (21 March 2010):
 How horrible!! I can't believe your dad let a stranger sleep at your house! You need to tell your parents STRAIGHT AWAY. No matter how hard it is, you need to do it. A man like this shouldn't be out in public molesting girls! This was in no way your fault, absolutely not your fault. Your parents will believe you, they care about your wellbeing. Tell your friend that she needs to do the same. Please dear, tell your parents. Go up to both your parents, or your dad like you stated, and tell him you need to tell him something. No matter how you say it (it's alright if you're nervous), they will listen and take some sort of action. Again, don't feel any of this is your fault. You didn't invite him over to your bedroom, you didn't ask to be treated in that way. Your parents will see it that way too.Sending you all my well wishes!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2010): i had a similar experience i eventually told my mum she started crying but then after about 15 minuets she kinda got over it and started asking me Q's i told her everything now i feel so much better Good luck.x
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reader, Vicci +, writes (21 March 2010):
 what a complete dickhead.
Just tell your parents right away, they won't care that hes their friend, they love you and will care more about you than him.
think about the fact that he will probably do this to other girls, and the fact that you are telling no one, you are giving him PERMISSION to do that/
their reactions will probably be 'oh my poor darlings'/
get over yourselves andf just tell them exactly what happened, leaving nothing out. then they will help you.
im 14, and im astonished you haven'y told them.
hope this helps though, xx
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