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writes:Hi i posted a question here yesterday about should i tell my boyfriend im pregnant i did today just to re-cap im 10 weeks pregnant have a 4 year old son he takes care of my son as if it was his own child. I didn't plan on having this baby at all and i have not dated anyone in 3 years till i met him i avoided him for 5 weeks as i was scared over the whole thing i didn't visit him i canceled him visiting me and i wouldn't answers his calls.we live 4 hours away. and im 24 hes 36.I rang him last night to come down and he did he is such a good person and committed.When i told him i was pregnant he was kinda shocked first of all? So i gave him time to think he came back and hugged me and said he is delighted and will be the best dad possible but i don't know is he that excited?4 years ago i had a boy and had to raise the child on my own which made me very weary of men i found being a single mom hard but pulled through and i think that is the reason i feel like this i am afraid he will drop out at the last minute he told me hes going to be there 100% but i would rather know if i am to raise the child now on my own or not . Does he mean what he says?and why cant i stop feeling he is going to leave me at the last minute? Reply to this Question
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (23 June 2011):
 Yes he has been brilliant with your first child and he is not even his own son, that shows a lot on its own. Obviously you have issues from your past and now they are starting to show again because you are pregnant. I completely understand that but you just need to trust him to do the right thing by you. Nobody can promise you they will be there forever because sometimes things just don't work out and nobody knows what the future holds. Therefore I think the best thing for you to do right now is to take his word for it and try to relax.
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reader, Drew21  +, writes (23 June 2011):
 Eh, really a man's character in this type of situation is hard to judge. So many things can happen and change.
However, i have to say that, in my eyes, he handled it INCREDIBLY well, with grace and maturity.
At 36, i hope that he understands the concept of responsibility.
I can tell you that when my wife first told me she was pregnant, i freaked out. I said a bunch of things that i really wish i could go back and change.
The one really positive thing you have is that he has been great with your first son.
I would say, right there, that gives me a lot of confidence that he means what he says.
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reader, Ronnie70  +, writes (23 June 2011):
 I'd suggest you either move close to him or vice-versa. This is no time for any long distance parenting. If he says he's going to be there 100%, that means he should be living with you all the time - I can't imagine him commuting for 8 hours a day and still have the time and energy for your relationship.
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