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writes:Hey, first post here. After countless other questions asked anonymously, I thought I'd make an account so I can look back on all my previous, stupid questions later in life and have a good laugh. But as of right NOW this is no laughing matter..I seem to have a boner problem..It started at a party and long story short, I was about to lose my virginity and then BAM went down as soon as the condom went on.. I KNOW it's NOT a physical problem, but a psychological one because I can wake up in the morning to a tent in my underwear :PANYWAYS I found out that it was whiskey dick but then for a few days I was unable to get a boner at all because I was so scared that I was broken! Now I'm sort of okay.. I can get them but not as very easily as before and SOMETIMES not as hard as they should be. I know it's just psychological and I should stop worrying.. All the equiptment works fine, it's just user error..So i was wondering if anyone here could help me out with a way to overcome it? Anything requiring a doctor or parents consent is out of the question because I have a scary religous close-minded mother..I told her that before I have sex with ANYONE I want to love them and I want the feeling to be mutual she says she feels the same way. ((We're both virgins))ANYWAYS i'm DREADING the day we decide to go all the way because I'm scared to death I'll get nervous again and not be able to perform :-(Honestly I've tried masturbating to the thought of having sex with her to get used to the idea, you know. Practice? But I can't do that either.. And it's not that she's unnatractive either, I think she's really pretty!Someone please help me before I'm branded as "No boner riker" for the rest of my highschool life?
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reader, riker15 +, writes (28 June 2011):
riker15 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you for the answers everyone, I hope things go as planned!
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (28 June 2011):
 So, do you love her?
This isn't anything new or scary, and it happens to a ton of guys. Presentation anxiety, that's what it is. And it can happen on a guy's first time, or with a new girlfriend, or when he's stressed out.
Basically, there's nothing wrong with you, you're just being nervous. I suggest that you and this girl in question work on having a great relationship and wait a bit with sex. Because the more pressure you add on yourself to have sex, the worse your anxiety will be. So relax, and let whatever happens happen.
Although, remember that you are underage and shouldn't be having sex in the first place, so waiting a bit longer wouldn't be a bad idea in that respect either. Wear a condom! No glove no love.
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reader, Drew21  +, writes (28 June 2011):
 Yep, it really is all mental. I know it's hard to do, but once you figure out how to stop thinking about the problem it'll go away.
Just remember: sex isn't supposed to be something that
stresses you out, it's actually a big time stress reliever!
You go in being confident about yourself, and comfortable with your partner, then the rest will take care of itself.
I always find that focusing on the most attractive part of the girl's body helps. Like for me, i think of my wife's tummy and boobs, and bam. :)
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