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writes:Im a 16 year old boy, and I know I'm probably too young to really be needing this advice, but I just want some help. I seem to attract women who always end up cheating on me. That or they're awkward relationships that end in two weeks. I don't know what to do, there was one girl in which I was with for a year and a half, but she cheated on me for 5 months, and I've had a few more since then that cheated. Now I'm confused, I have trust issues, and I cant seem to love anyone anymore. Whats wrong with me?
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (8 October 2009):
 There is nothing wrong with you, seriously, relationships are complicated and can be messy and take a lot of hard work. I don't wanna put you down for being young as feelings can be intense but when you are young, your still learning about all the complex issues of relationships and it takes time. Being so deeply involved, or even looking for a full on serious relationship at your age is always going to cause some pain as most girls you date will be flighty and not want to be pinned down.
As girls get older they start looking for security and deeper and more permanent relationships.
Don't let what has happened to you spoil how you feel in the future. Build friendships and really get to know different types of girls to learn more about them. That way when your a little older, you will have more of an idea of what you really want.
I have kids your age and know and listen to all their friends. Belive me there is always a couple of them falling in and out of love and getting their heart broken every couple of weeks, so your not on your own...it's actually quite normal (a pain in the pants...but normal)
Your an explorer at the experimental stage so try not to let it get you down.
with love
Aunty Em xxx
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reader, ellie:) +, writes (8 October 2009):
 first of all nothing is wrong with you!!! second of all somthing is wrong with them for cheating on you!!!and i dont blame you for having trust issues i would too but never give up on love....ps:you r still young u r going to find somone you truly fall in love with but ur 16 u have lots of time....i am only 17 but i have had those kinda experinces tooo
hope dat helped:)
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reader, OmShantih +, writes (8 October 2009):
 Firstly, NOTHING is wrong with you! Your 16, you should be out having fun with friends, and messing around with girls not worrying about long term relationships!
However you asked for advice....so here it is, Girls that cheat are often very insecure about themselves, they 'cheat' because they thrive on male attention, the fact is that they probably do like you but when your 16 and impressionable, and a boy shows you some attention, you tend to lap it up.
So its not that fact that you 'attract' girls with the tendancies to be unfaithful it is you are 'attracted' to girls that posses the characteristics of a 'cheat', Pretty, popular, skinny, trendy girls are often the worst as they are all based on image, once you get past the image there is often not much else, because there has never had to be!
So I suggest to you, you stop worrying about finding mrs right, start going out with friends and doing loads of social things, then when you feel you are happy, then try going for a girl who you wouldnt normally go for, Broaden your horizons.
Love and Light
xx
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reader, Denizen +, writes (8 October 2009):
 Nothing wrong with you mate. It's an experimental time in your early teens as far as relationships and dating go. You feel it all deeply but there is a lot of experience to go under your belt yet. Just because you have a developed code of behaviour doesn't mean your dates have progressed that far. Well they have it all to learn. Stick to what you know is right and you will eventually find the partner for you.
Good luck.
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