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writes:Yes, this is another of those "confused about which guy" questions...but it's not your typical question of based on these few paragraphs, which guy is better for me, who you've also never met... so please read on! I really need to sort this out because I'm supposed to be writing my doctoral thesis but I can't concentrate on it at all!Guy 1 has been out of the country for months and is back now, though he lives on the other side of the country to me. He is coming to visit me this weekend and I'm no longer sure how I feel about him. We've been half together but in no way committed for about a year. Guy 2 I've been on a few dates with, spread over the last 5 months or so. I've really enjoyed getting to know him. I connect with and like them both in different ways. Guy 2 has been out of the country for the last couple of months as well. He's just got back on Sunday but will be away for work again for 3 weeks from this Friday. I'm not completely sure if a relationship would work with either of them and I'm also not 100 % sure what each of them want. So this is mainly about me figuring out what I want. Ideally I think I'd like to spend some time with guy 2 this week, then have the weekend with guy 1 and then be able to sort out what I'm feeling and guage what they might be feeling. But guy 2 isn't showing any sign of asking me to meet up with him while he's here (I think he's got a log of work on), so should I ask him about a catch up? I'm not really used to being the one to initiate these things. If he doesn't try to organise something with me, do you think he's not that keen? Reply to this Question
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reader, Denizen  +, writes (22 September 2009):
 Finish your thesis. You can't expect a long distance relationship to work out and you have only had, as you say, a few dates with guy #2 in five months. So, both these can't be classed as that serious. Treat them as as a bit of R&R from work. Once you stop bugging yourself things will become clearer.
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